We’ve all planned dates and meetups with friends — but what about sexytimes? An article by “life intimacy coach” Kim Anami suggests that if you really want to maintain a sense of intimacy with your partner, you better get your iCals synced. “Knowing what we know about the power of sex to energize and uplift, mind, body and soul, it’s important to prioritize it in our lives,” says Anami. “To schedule it even.” In her practice as a couples counselor, she often recommends that couples designate certain times of the week as sex time. And she recommends that couples spend at least three hours per week having sex. Keep reading »
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Here are two things I apologize for telling you at lunch. Or after lunch. Or any time in the vicinity of dining: One, that Hulk Hogan has a sex tape, and two, he says he banged so many chicks he doesn’t even know which one is in the tape with him. There are many, many cautionary tales that we can take from the life of Hulk and his family, but first, let’s talk about sex tapes. Keep reading »
“Sexting” is one of those words you’re probably really tired of hearing. Not least of all because you’re wondering how you can get in on the action. Sexting by itself isn’t a bad way to spend your time—especially if it happens to be with Rihanna—but if you’re like every other red-blooded male, you’re eventually going to want to turn it into the real deal. Here’s your step-by-step guide.
1. Start Slow: Yes, there really are guys who are going to straight send a girl a crotch shot right off the bat. You don’t want to be that guy. It’s not that we don’t think your mighty meat saber isn’t impressive enough to warrant her attention; it’s just that she’s more into you than your package itself. So slow down there, Tiger. She’ll want to see it eventually. Instead, start with casual flirting and playful banter, just like if you were chatting in a bar. Read more…
I recently spoke with Jen, a sex surrogate. For those of you asking: “Wait. A whaaat?” allow me to explain. A sex surrogate is sort of like a sex worker, but one that works with a licensed therapist to help men struggling with sexual issues. Jen has worked with world renowned, Oprah-approved sex therapists as a surrogate. While she doesn’t have actual sexual intercourse with her clients, Jen’s sessions typically include touch, which means, yes, she handles lots of penises. The most common problem amongst the men Jen works with is premature ejaculation. If you are playing the field (or even if you’re off the market), statistically, it’s highly likely that you will encounter a premature ejaculator. I know I have, and it was awkward at best. In the hopes that you’ll be prepared if it happens to you, I asked Jen for some advice about how to handle a premature situation. After the jump, helpful tips from a professional. Keep reading »
A nice ass in a tight pair of jeans! The ability to hold an intelligent conversation! Fellating a popsicle like it’s a penis! All three are practically guaranteed to turn any man on, but they’re also sort of, I don’t know, obvious. Then I read an article over at MadeMan listing the 10 Surprising Turn-Ons For Women; I agreed with some — drinking wine and being able to engage in a little friendly smack talk– while others I was kind of meh on. I mean, V-neck sweaters are okay, but the only “chick flick” I genuinely appreciate a guy liking is “Fear” and that’s because “Fear” is awesome. Anyway, this list did inspire me to unearth the same scientifically proven turn-ons for men for the benefit of the sisterhood. After all, men are both exceedingly complex and irritatingly simplistic creatures, so it makes total sense that the following 10 surprisingly everyday things are the turn-ons that really work. Keep reading »
I love Dan Savage for a number of reasons. Among them, the “It Gets Better” campaign and the dumb but true advice that “every relationship fails until the one that doesn’t.” Aside from that, I love Dan because he offers smart, non-judgmental advice about sex and relationships, but will totally tell his readers if they’re doing something stupid (see also: DTMFA). So I’m really excited to see Dan in action — so to speak — on the new MTV show “Savage U.” “Savage U” follows Dan and producer Lauren Hutchins0n as they travel around college campuses answering embarrassing and need-to-know questions. You might not be in college, but chances are, you still want to know if a guy can tell if you’re faking an orgasm, right? (Debuts April 3 at 11 p.m. EST.) [MTV]
Your man wants to believe he’s Superman, especially when it comes to his performance in the bedroom. When it comes to spicing things up and communicating your sex needs, get the conversation going in the right direction — UP! — by avoiding these specifics statements that make only make your stud feel like a dud… Keep reading »
Last month, The New York Times profiled Barbara Terry, a 52-year-old prostitute living in the Bronx section of New York City who’s been working as a lady of the night for more than 30 years. As a woman in her 20s, Terry was left alone to care for four young children and needed to find a way to support herself. And though she had two years of training to become a medical lab technician under her belt, she was drawn to the “exciting” life of prostitution. Over the years, Terry’s learned a thing or two about how to get along in the world — and while we certainly don’t recommend that you pursue a career as a prostitute, we do think Terry has a few points of wisdom to pass on. While her children are less than thrilled with her life on the streets, she says, “I’m the mother, so they can’t say anything. When I’m ready to get off, I’ll get off.”
After the jump, eight pieces of wisdom from a woman who’s seen her share of the seedy side of life.