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The Nookie Know-It-All: Freaking Fabio

“My boyfriend put on a long blonde wig for Halloween and it really turned me on. Am I a lesbian, or do I just like Fabio-look-alikes?” — Bodice Ripping, San Francisco, CA

Funny you should ask. I’m lying in bed with my laptop (I’ve got “the cramps”) and I was just watching my boyfriend jokingly show off his legs to me. He’s honestly got the best legs I’ve ever seen (for a guy OR a girl), and now I want to dress him up like a girl and do him. Am I a lesbian?? The thought of going down on a girl does nothing for me, so I’ll take a wild guess and say no. I’ll go ahead and say the same for you. Women are just hot, and I think when we catch glimpses of “womanly” things we tend to get aroused by them. I think it also has to do with a certain “control factor.” It’s human nature to view women as submissive creatures. So when you see your boyfriend in a more volatile role (dressed as a woman), I think it’s normal to want to dominate and get turned on by the thought of it.

And no…it’s not a Fabio thing either. Unless you’re obese and have socialization issues. In which case, I’m sorry.
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The Nookie Know-It-All: Party Sex

“My boyfriend and I feel the need to have sex at most apartment/house parties that we go to. Is this weird? And what are some of the best ways to pull it off without getting caught?” — Party Crashing, Dallas, TX

This is kind of like my need to do a number two at people’s parties. It’s a christening of sorts. Or, simply a marking of territory. But even though I’m the resident “sexpert”, I can honestly tell you I’ve never had sex with a guy at a party. With that said, I don’t think you’re weird. I actually want to know what kind of parties you’re going to where you can find space to have sex. I live in NYC, so the parties I’m invited to usually involve a studio apartment and an oven in the closet. The closest I ever got to “doing it” was changing a tampon in the bathroom.

My advice? The larger the party the better. The larger the house the better. If you want to be discreet, go into an unoccupied room and lock the door. Worse case somebody knocks on the door and then you stop. I think if you’re having sex at parties in the first place, a part of you wants to get caught. That’s why I poop with the door open. Keep reading »

The Nookie Know-It-All: Threesome Etiquette

What are some easy steps to having a threesome where no one gets hurt? — Menage A Trois, Greenwich, CT

You’d think there’d be a Threesome for Dummies or Emily Post’s Guide to Entertaining Your Third Party…but alas, there’s not. Instead, you’ve got me.

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The Nookie Know-It-All: Down There Hair

Do guys REALLY care if you aren’t waxed or shaved down there? — Razor Ready, Virginia Beach, VA

I think women’s vaginas are like men’s faces. You’ve basically got three options: The clean-shaven, the week’s worth of stubble, or the mountain-man variety. At the end of the day, it’s all about preference. You might like your man with a baby-smooth face. He might want you to look like a tumble weed and call him mommy during sex. The bottom line is, everybody is different.

Whatever option you go with, I think it’s safe to say your landscaping habits are not going to prevent guys from having sex with you. As long as a guy doesn’t need a degree in bushwhacking to date you, I’m pretty sure you’ll get lucky.
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The Nookie Know-It-All: The Even Bigger O

Is it possible for a woman to have a vaginal-only orgasm — no clitoral stimulation at all? — Wondering About The Big O, Dallas, TX

Well, the answer is SOME women can. A vaginal orgasm is triggered by stimulation of the infamous “G-spot,” located on the upper/front vaginal wall, behind the urethra (think of it as facing the stomach). Up until recently, it was thought that all women might have one. Now, the debate seems to be settled. With the help of ultrasounds, researchers recently found that not all women possess this magical spot. In a group study, the G-spot area was significantly thicker in women who claimed to have vaginal orgasms, and invisible in women who did not.

So, the cause of this? Well, it seems to be genetics. So blame (or thank) your Mom for your lack of vaginal orgasm, not your boyfriend.
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The Nookie Know-It-All: The Skinny On HPV

What is the deal with HPV? Can guys get it? How can I prevent getting the infection? Does it ever go away? — Curious Hypochondriac in Chicago, IL

The Human Papilloma Virus is basically a group of viruses that include different strains and types. Roughly 30 of these viruses are sexually transmitted, and can infect the genital area of men and women.
Some stats, after the jump…
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