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8 Horrendous Pieces Of Sex Advice From The Most WTF Book Ever Written

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Amazon describes the little-known (thank God!) 1999 self-help book, The Rules For Getting Laid: Get The Sex You Want as an “outrageous, hilarious, politically incorrect book shows men the boneheaded mistakes they make in seducing women” and tells “readers the secrets no one else will have the guts to speak!” Well, that was putting it kindly. The Village Voice dug up a copy of the out-of-print book and combed through the pages for useful tips from authors David Graff  and Ray Schwartz (two men who clearly have never gotten laid). Spoiler: there weren’t any. But there are plenty of super offensive, misogynistic, bordering on stalker-ish/rape-y pieces of sex advice to get whipped up about. Let’s do that, shall we? After the jump, the worst, most awful, most WTF sex advice from the book that promises: “Feminist women and men will try to ban or burn this book!” Burn, burn, burn! Keep reading »

7 Steps For A Better Porn-Watching Experience

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I know what you’re thinking. Amelia, I’m pretty sure that all I need to watch porn are my eyes and a finger to press play. Sure, if you’re an amateur. There’s a wrong way to do things, a right way to do things, and then a better way to do things. This is the better way to watch porn. Keep reading »

How To Introduce Sexual Taboos In The Bedroom

Ways To Introduce Sexual Taboos Into The Bedroom

Have you always wanted to try S&M, bondage, voyeurism, or other “taboo” sex acts? These topics can be hard to bring up with your partner: What if he or she thinks it’s weird and gets turned off? But if you’re in a loving and trusting relationship, the worst that could happen is your partner will say no — and you’ll move on with your lives! It’s better to take a risk and tell your partner what you really want than to keep your desires hidden and unsatisfied. With that said, here are some tips for safely and effectively introducing less mainstream sex acts into your bedroom. Hey, it’s only taboo ’til you’ve tried it! Read more on Your Tango…

7 Steps Towards Hotter Oral Sex

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Intimacy is all about closeness, the emotional and physical “togetherness” of love. Intimacy does not come from a physical act, but rather from the attitude you bring to one another. A hug can be way more intimate than intercourse, depending on how present, vulnerable and authentic you and your lover can be together.

Many of us crave more intimacy, but the stress and distraction of everyday life gets in the way. Intimacy is often intense in the beginning of a relationship and then becomes more elusive, no matter how much you love one another. The good news is that intimacy can be something you actively create and practice together. To get your man on board, why not seduce him with some intensely intimate oral sex? He’ll love every minute of it and hopefully the intimacy will carry over into your life and future lovemaking. Here’s how to transform it into an incredibly intimate erotic event. Read more on Your Tango…

12 Things Men Think Women Need For Great Sex

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We assume. We assume all the time. We assume and don’t even realize we’re assuming. But we all know what happens when we assume. There’s no better example of that happening than assuming when it comes to sex. Men assume. We assume there are requirements to sex. We assume there are procedures. We assume there are universal truths to the way your bodies work and to the way all women want to fuck. We assume. Here are a few things that we assume and we need to STOP ASSUMING BECAUSE WE’RE WRONG, WRONG, WRONG! Read more on College Candy…

The 7 Best Apps For Spicing Up Your Relationship

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Sure, you can poke someone on Facebook, but other than that, there’s no room for intimacy by way of your mobile phone, right? Maybe not. Though “smart phone” and “sex life” may seem like polar opposites, your device can actually help heat up your relationship. The key? Knowing which intimacy-enhancing apps are actually worth the download. Read more on Your Tango…

How To Get Your Orgasm Back (And Have It Be Better Than Ever)

t can happen even in the steamiest moment — you’re on the brink of an awesome orgasm … and then nada. Maybe you got distracted by a nagging thought, like stressing out over unanswered work emails, or you were thrown off when your guy suddenly changed positions. Or maybe your climax just kind of petered out, and you’re not completely sure why. Whatever’s going on, there are techniques you can use to get back in the zone. Allow us to talk you through.

Think of Channing Tatum. Letting your mind go to your sexy place, wherever it is (that time you and your guy hooked up on the kitchen table, the hottie with the ridic biceps at the gym who always says hi), will get you on track for a satisfying finish. “When you fantasize, your brain sends arousal signals throughout your body, and extra blood is directed to your genitals,” says Gail Saltz, M.D., author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life. The less constrained your fantasy, the better: Women who allowed their minds to wander to their own scenario (as opposed to something scripted, like a scene from an X-rated novel) were more likely to show signs of being turned on, such as increased wetness, according to a recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. And, of course, more arousal usually means that the way your guy is touching/licking/whatever you is going to feel that much better. Read more on Your Tango…

How Not To Deal With A Boyfriend That Finds Your Vagina “Repulsive”

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I’ve read a lot of letters asking for advice. Some of them are weird, like the woman who asked Slate’s Dear Prudence if she should date the guy who sniffed her sweaty bicycle seat at the gym. I vote for NO. Some of them are soul-stirring. Check out Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice On Love And Life from Dear Sugar if you haven’t already. I cried my way through it. Sometimes I agree with the advice and sometimes I don’t. That’s to be expected. But I think I stumbled upon what might be the saddest advice exchange ever. A woman whose boyfriend finds her vagina “repulsive” wrote in to the Guardian:

“My boyfriend of three years has never actively looked at my vagina or shown the slightest interest in it other than the usual foreplay. He performs oral sex occasionally but always under the darkness of the duvet and has admitted he doesn’t find vaginas particularly attractive, joking that mine is especially repulsive…”

Three years!? This poor woman. I’m no professional, but I feel like I know exactly what she should do: DUMP HIM RIGHT NOW. I mean, is there any other option? No one deserves to be with someone who finds their genitals repulsive. After the jump, check out the AWFUL advice this woman was given. Keep reading »

5 Ways To Help Him Drive You To Orgasm

Ladies, it’s time to take charge of your orgasm! Stop blaming your partner for not making it happen for you during sex. Think of your body as a high-performance vehicle that you’re placing in the hands of a novice driver—your lover—each time you have sex. He wants you to reach the big O, but he needs some help operating your vehicle. You are responsible for guiding your man to becoming an expert driver. Follow these five steps to reach the climactic finish line:

1. Become your vehicle’s expert mechanic. If you don’t know what stimulates you, how can you expect your partner to figure it out? Do some self-discovery—masturbate. First, don’t forget to lubricate your whole vaginal area; wetter is better. Using your fingers, try different tempos and pressure levels for reaching an orgasm. Play with your nipples and see how that adds to your experience. Read a sexy book and fantasize about anything that gets you revved up. Try a vibrator on your clitoris or inside your vagina. Read more on Your Tango…

How To Prolong Foreplay

Most women want more foreplay before we can enjoy the pleasures of intercourse. Foreplay is essential to build arousal before penetration of any kind, and most of us can’t get enough. Here are five ideas to get more foreplay every time you make love:

1. Foreplay all day. Foreplay can start long before you hit the sheets. Let your erotic tension build all day by allowing yourself to think about sex. Allow your thoughts to wander and daydream vividly about what you want to experience when you get together with your lover. The more detail you bring to your fantasies, the better. Your mind will start to get your body on board and you may find yourself more aroused when you finally see your lover. Read more on Your Tango…

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