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Introducing Our New Sex Column: Sex With Steph

Got sex questions you just can’t ask anyone else? Not sure who to turn to for your bedroom issues? Longing to get help with your intimate sex problems? We here at The Frisky are super happy to introduce our new sex column: “Sex with Steph.” Sex columnist Steph Auteri will be answering reader questions on all things sex-related, from safe sex to self-pleasuring, relationship sex to married sex, and all things vagina and penis related. We like to think of her as our sexpert next door. You may have read her already in Time Out New York or Playgirl or on Lemondrop or here. She’s an assistant editor at one of our favorite sites, YourTango, where she focuses on relationships and love. When it comes to sex, you can talk to Steph about anything. Chances are her sex life is way more embarrassing. Email her your sex questions at steph@thefrisky.com. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “No Sex And No Porn. Am I Asking Too Much?

For my own reasons — brought about through a mix of morality and contemplation about my mental and emotional needs — I’ve decided to save myself for marriage. I’m still young with plenty of time to explore relationships. I don’t expect the man I’m with to be a virgin, however, I do expect him to wait for me while we’re dating. I also don’t want my boyfriend to watch porn. It’s something I’ve put a lot of thought into, done a lot of research on, and have very strong opinions about. I have absolutely no problem with masturbation, though. Is it fair to ask a man to both not have sex with you and not watch porn? I’ve talked with my male friends, and they say it’s ridiculous. They say very few men will wait for sex, and an even smaller minority won’t indulge in porn. They say the ones who don’t are usually emotionally, mentally, or sexually stunted in some way. I know I would be very hurt and, at least on some level, unhappy if I couldn’t have both of these things in a man, but I’ve begun to wonder if it’s even possible. — Moral High Road

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What Not To Say To A Madam

It’s not every day you come across a bona fide madam.

But Susan Austin is exactly that. She resurrected The World Famous Mustang Ranch, the first and oldest legal brothel in America, in 2007. The crazy, earlier days of the bordello are the subject of the film “Love Ranch,” which comes out later this month.

Austin served as a consultant on the film and also talked to us about her unusual profession. More specifically, the comments that folks who aren’t schooled in the intricacies of the sex trade tend to make to her over and over again.

If you happen to find yourself in a (totally legal) house of ill-repute, these are the 10 things you should try to avoid saying to the lady in charge: Read more Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “You’re A Know-It-All”

Yesterday, I posted an open call for emails from people I’ve given (published) advice to here in the past to let me know whether they followed my advice and/or the advice from commenters, and how they’re doing today. I expected I might hear from people who didn’t like what I had to say, as well as from those who did. I’ve gotten a lot of grief for some of the advice I’ve given, and occasionally — not very often, but sometimes — I’ll have second thoughts about something I’ve said … or the way I’ve said it. Never has this been more the case than with the person you’ll hear from after the jump. She hated my “advice,” and rightfully so. We had some back-and-forth email exchanges afterward in which I said some more things I now regret. I ended up apologizing, but judging from the email she sent yesterday, she’s still pissed. Anyway, it was a learning lesson for me and for that I thank her. I’ve tried to be less presumptuous while still telling it like I see it and doling out “tough love” when it seems necessary, but sometimes I make mistakes. I’m human; it happens. After the jump, check out one of my biggest missteps. Keep reading »

Can Science Fix Your Orgasm?

Is there a logical explanation as to why women can’t climax consistently or (in some cases) ever during sexual intercourse? Can a pill, patch, cream, or (gulp) vaginal collagen injection, morph a frigid woman into one who orgasms with male consistency?

The answer: Nobody knows. Naturally. But that hasn’t stopped science, bless its heart, from trying. But should they? A recently released documentary, “Orgasm Inc.,” begs ladies to think twice before assigning themselves to “female sexual dysfunction” a disorder companies are attempting to treat with a variety of fix-its. Director Liz Canner questions whether or not FSD even exists, and advises women proceed with caution. Regardless, below is a quick round-up of some ways the men and women in white lab coats have attempted to tinker and tweak the female libido to reach its full potential. Keep reading »

How To Hook Up During The World Cup

Around World Cup time, babelicious European, South American, Australian, African, and Asian dudes pack bars to watch the games. American men don’t care about soccer, but maybe they’re just afraid to be in the bar at the same time as all the hunks who do. So girl, if you like guys with accents and ripped, sweaty men duking it out on TV, soccer just might be the sport for you! I’ve already told you how to hook up at a wedding, on Valentine’s Day, on Halloween, on July 4th, on Thanksgiving, on Christmas, and on New Year’s Eve … but there is one more bang-tastic event and it only comes around every four years — the height of soccer season and it starts today. If you want to play the field during the World Cup, here’s how you can really score! Keep reading »

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