“How can my husband and I mess around when I’m on my period? I’m a little squeamish about it, but he doesn’t want to go off sex for a week.” — Flirting With Aunt Flo, Olympia, WA
A tampon isn’t the only thing you can insert when you have your period. In fact, sex while you’re on the rag can be even better than when you’re not. It sounds gross, but blood can act as a natural lubricant, enhancing your sexual experience with your husband. If you’re worried about the “cleanliness” factor of sex while you’re bleeding, you can use a colored towel or have sex in the shower to keep your sheets from seeing red.
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“What’s the scoop on the male G-spot?” — Where’s Waldo?, via email
The main difference between the male G-spot and the female G-spot is that one is waaaay easier to find. Wanna guess which one?
If you said male…you’re right. It seems to me that if God were super smart, he would have reversed that. I mean, most guys can barely find the remote control, let alone a piece of spongy tissue inside your vagina. But that makes YOUR job way easier. The male G-spot is essentially the prostate gland, and it’s located in the man’s badonkadonk. Rumor has it that if you stimulate the male G-spot, it makes the guy have an amazing orgasm. Use this guide, after the jump, the next time you’re feeling frisky with your man… Keep reading »
“I’m on anti-depressants that have totally killed my libido but have made me feel much better in every other way. Should I consider switching to something different because of the sexual side effects or is there a way to increase my libido without coming off my meds?” — Pill Popper, via email
The sucky thing about anti-depressants is exactly this. They make you feel all nice and happy about things, but kill your sex drive…which in turn makes you depressed. It’s a vicious circle. Keep reading »
“What percentage of women ejaculate and why?” — Squirt Alert, via email
Female ejaculation (aka shooting or gushing) has been a topic of discussion for hundreds of years. Even Aristotle pondered about “vaginal expulsions”. Which I THINK begs an even different question: Aristotle was so good in bed he made women gush?
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“The skin around my vagina itches a lot. I’ve taken a look and there doesn’t seem to be any rash or visible problems of any sort – what could be the problem?” — Snatch Attack, via email
Most likely you have a yeast infection, especially if you’re experiencing abnormal discharge (white and clumpy). However, a yeast infection is only one possibility if you’re experiencing vaginitis, a term used to describe infections or inflammations of the vagina. Aside from yeast infections, vaginitis can be caused by antibiotics, excessive alcohol consumption, and allergies. A lot of women think they have yeast infections when they’re really allergic to latex condoms.
Before you head to the pharmacy to get an over-the-counter medicine (such as Monistat) make an appointment with your OBGYN to get an exam.
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“The guy I’m seeing just told me he has herpes – what should I know to keep myself infection free should we decide to have sex?” — Don’t Want This Gift Thanks, via email
Kudos to your guy for telling you early on. I can only imagine how awkward that conversation must be. “Hey, can you pass the salt? Also, I have herpes.” But he’s not alone. Apparently 1 in 4 adults in the US have herpes, and some never show any signs that they have it. How scary is that? Now that you know exactly what you’re dealing with, you have to decide how into this guy you are, and if you’re willing to risk getting the disease yourself. There’s no 100% guarantee that if you have sex him that you won’t get it. But there are ways to lower your risk significantly. Keep reading »
“I’ve heard about the various birth control pills that you can take to go without your period for a few months and longer. Are they really safe and recommended?” — Banning Aunt Flo, via email
Have you seen that SNL skit (clip after the jump!), where the women are going ape sh*t because they haven’t had their period in months? I have, and I have to say it scared that crap out of me. Keep reading »
“What is the technical definition of a sex addict?” — Potential Nympho, via email
The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” Translated, that means that a sex addict is not like Samantha on Sex and the City. It’s way more serious than that.
Sex addicts tend to have the same compulsive personality that alcohol, drug, and gambling addicts have. But while booze, drugs, and card playing aren’t required for human survival, sex is. Sure, some people can choose to be celibate…but having a sex drive is a normal, healthy thing. Because of this, sexual addiction is one of the hardest addictions to treat.
A few signs sexual addicts might exhibit (in case you were curious), after the jump…
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“I hate giving blow jobs, but my boyfriend loves them. How can we compromise?” — Not Into Head, via email
Sssssshhh!!! Are there any boys around you right now?? Did anybody hear you?? I hope for your sake there aren’t, because if that sentiment got around, you might as well have a scarlet letter on your shirt.
Lemme clue you in to something: EVERY MAN LOVES BLOW JOBS. Your boyfriend is not lying. So you know what that means? You+blowjobs=new best friends.
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“I have seriously huge labia and I am way concerned that guys will think my vagina is ugly. Am I being ridiculous?” — Labia Majorly Majora, San Francisco, CA
Yes you are!
Labia majora (the technical name) vary greatly from woman to woman. No two vaginas are alike…which means there are tons of women out there with big labia, small labia, and somewhere in between. Whatever kind you have, rest assured that you are not abnormal. Keep reading »