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Sex Advice: Should I Go On A Sex Hiatus Post-Baby?

“I am a new mother of my fourth child. During the last couple of months of my pregnancy, my husband was uncomfortable having sex with me. I felt rejected, but kind of understood. This led to a good three months of no sex. By the time we DID it, it was awkwardly uncomfortable for me. I still felt like a whale. It is now two months since that first time, and we’re still not at normal speed. We used to have sex at least twice per week. The last time we had sex was three weeks ago. I feel rejected, further, and I have no confidence to initiate anything. I feel lonely and heartbroken. I love him, and I have no intentions of leaving him, but I can’t imagine allowing him to see me naked again. Is it possible to put off sex until I lose more baby-weight? I know that it could boost my confidence to tone up and give my body a good makeover. Can a relationship survive no sex during the time it would take to lose about 30 pounds?” — New Mom In Crisis, via email Keep reading »

Sex Advice: My Guy Won’t Stop Talking Dirty!

“Ugh, the guy I have been dating will not shut the hell up during sex! He’s always directing me (“do this…do that”) or giving a play-by-play of every second (‘I love seeing your breasts bounce, blah blah blah’). How do I politely tell him to BE QUIET?” — Wishing I Was Deaf, via email

Ugh…that would drive me crazy! For me, talking non-stop in bed is like talking in the movies…totally uncalled for and annoying. But some chicks are super into it, and that’s probably why this guy you’re dating does it. An ex of his probably said, “Oooh, yeah. Tell me what you’re doing to me right now. Talk dirty to me!”, and he decided to work it into his sexual arsenal. All it takes it one girl to eff it up for the rest of us.

Go ahead and undo the damage caused by that beyatch and tell him talking during sex makes you feel weird. Tell him you’re not used to it and it takes your focus away from him. If he doesn’t understand or like what you’re saying, then you might be too late to save this one.
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Fox News Does Kinky Sex

Ah, Fox News. We hardly knew ye! Most Americans know the Fox News Channel as the home of some of this country’s most famously conservative pundits, Bill O’Reilly and Sean Hannity among them — and Roger Ailes, a former Nixon adviser, is the network’s president. But, as it turns out, FOXNews.com aims to take a more hardcore approach to reporting the news. On the website, Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright is the network’s in-house “FOXSexpert.” In her column, Fulbright offers conservative news-mongers sex tips and advice that are downright raunchy. From sado-masochism to premature ejaculation, celebrity sex tapes to transcendental orgasms, it’s Fox gone wild. After the jump, the best of the sex that Fox News has to offer.
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Sex Advice: Dreaming Of Daniel Craig

Should I be worried that I think about Daniel Craig every time I have sex with my boyfriend? — Boning For Bond, via email

For the most part, fantasies are a healthy part of a sexual relationship. Letting images filter into your mind during sex is natural, and feeling anxiety about them only makes sex less enjoyable. Fantasies can be worrisome when they’re obsessive, or focus on one person. Thinking only of Daniel Craig or an ex when you have sex could signal a bigger problem with you or your relationship.

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Sex Advice: First Time Role-Player

“I want to start role-playing — how do I incorporate that into my regular sex life with my boyfriend since neither one of us has tried it before and want to start slow?” — Acting Up In Bed, via email

I think there’s two kinds of role-playing: theatrical and emotional. For example, the theatrical would be the two of you dressing up like a nurse and patient and pretending to do it on the operating table. For emotional, you would pretend to be a hooker and your boyfriend a John. Instead of costumes, you focus on the emotional side of the fantasy. Keep reading »

Sex Advice: My Dude Is Totally Into Internet Porn

“Should I be worried that my boyfriend has been secretly watching Internet porn?” — Dating Mr. Skin Flick, via email

Internet porn for guys is like sex for our parents…they all do it, we just don’t want to think about it (and they don’t like to admit it).

A healthy amount of porn for guys OR girls is absolutely nothing to be worried about. If your boyfriend secretly watches porn it doesn’t mean he’s “cheating” on you. It just means that your guy is average, and falls into the statistic that guys think about sex every seven seconds. He also probably feels a little embarrassed that he does it. This is all totally normal. Keep reading »

Sex Advice: I’m Dating Mr. Not-So-Big

“The guy I’m dating is seriously under-endowed. Is this a total deal-breaker?” — Dick-appointed, via email

Have you had sex already? If you have, then you know the answer better than I do. Just ask yourself this: Was it good?

When women experience orgasms during sex, it usually has nothing to do with how far in a penis goes or how wide. Most women’s orgasms are clitoral, and are achieved when pressure from the man’s pelvic bone rubs against her. The G-spot (which needs to be stimulated in order for a vaginal orgasm to be achieved) doesn’t exist in every woman, but those who do have it can reach it with their finger. I don’t know when the last time you measured your finger was (I measure mine all the time), but it’s not that long. Get my drift?

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Sex Advice: My Girlfriend Has Vaginismus

“My girlfriend has Vaginismus. We have a great relationship and we hook up orally and with hands a good amount. Unfortunately, because of her condition, we can’t have sex because it is really painful for her. Obviously I am never going to push it on her because it is WAY harder for her than it is for me. But I’m still a guy and I can’t help wanting to do it. Fortunately, she’s in physical therapy for it now. My question is, how likely is it that she will get better, at least to the point of being able to have sex comfortably?” — Concerned Boyfriend, via email

If you ever want to imagine what Vaginismus is like, have a friend pretend to poke you in the eye. Know what happens? Your eye suddenly closes as the object gets closer. In the case of your girlfriend, your penis is the “poker”, and her vagina is the “eye.” Sooo not fun.

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Friday Quickies!

  • Is there any food better than sex? [Boinkology]
  • Cristen Clifford writes plays about her parents sex life. [Daily Bedpost]
  • Two dudes making out in a Heinz ketchup commercial from the U.K. [Huffington Post]
  • Sex advice from food writers! [Nerve]
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    The Nookie Know-It-All: His Cigs And Your Cervix

    “Can a woman get cervical cancer if a smoker routinely goes down on her?” — Paranoid About My Puffer, Houston, TX

    There hasn’t been any real medical research to support this claim, but you’re not totally crazy. If I had to take a guess, I’d say having a smoker go down on you is like putting Equal in your coffee. It’s not awesome for you, but if you don’t eat eight bathtubs full of it a day you’ll be fine.

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