Are you feeling a bit bored in the bedroom? Is sex with your spouse feeling awfully routine lately? If so, help is on the way.
In this video, relationship coach, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Moushumi Ghose explains that “in long term relationships, sexuality ebbs and flows. Sometimes the sex will be exciting and passionate and sometimes its going to be a bit of a lull.”
Moushumi suggests that “[i]t’s very important that you communicate your needs to your wife as well as asking your wife what her needs are and what needs that she might not be getting met.” To have a healthy marriage and sex life, “communication is key.” Read more and watch the video!
Contrary to what guys might think, there are many women out there who are not opposed to going to strip clubs … under the appropriate circumstances.
That time you got dragged to a strip club by your cokehead, college boyfriend and he made you stuff dollar bills in panties or that time your guy friend thought a stripper wanted to sleep with him so he made you hang out with him all night waiting for her, those strip club adventures were not exactly your idea of a good time. But there were other times when you enjoyed yourself. That time you blew off work and met your boyfriend at a local strip joint in the middle of the afternoon or when you went with all your lesbian friends in Vegas. FUN!
Chances are, if you ask, many women are down to go watch some pole action. But there are a few caveats. Click through for the DOs and DON’Ts of taking your lady to a strip joint.
Feeling sluggish in the morning? Try a wake-up call a hundred times better than that tired cup of coffee: morning sex. Surprise him in the best way with one — or all — of these sexy positions. He’ll love your spontaneity and you’ll love the good feelings you retain throughout the day.
1. Spooning: This is likely to be the most instinctual position when you both are just waking up from a cuddling position. With both your bodies so close together and still lying down, you can feel incredibly comfortable while also getting some seriously hot bed activity in. He’ll be able to access all of you with his hands as well as kiss your neck, giving you the jolt you need to get yourself going. You can twist your body in order to kiss him or even watch the action for that extra dose of sexiness. Read more…
Sexually, I am neither conservative nor incredibly kinky. I like to think of myself as an open-minded chick who will try almost anything once. I don’t know what you all are doing in the bedroom, but I’m going to assume, based on conversations with friends, and the occasional reading of Dan Savage’s column, that I fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum when it comes to sexual experimentation. Even though I’m down to try new things, sometimes, I surprise myself with what sexual territory I’m willing to venture into, given the right circumstances. After the jump, a few things I never expected to try in the bedroom and enjoy. Keep reading »
If your sex life sucks as of late, it’s probably not your fault. Feel free to blame your rut on your IKEA bedroom set. At least, that’s what BBC personality Laurence Llewelyn-Bowen is suggesting. “How could anyone enjoy having sex in an Ikea bedroom?” he asked. “I find IKEA’s attitude deeply unsexy … For a start, it’s all flat-pack – it’s going to rattle … That’s not what grown-up sex is like. Grown-up sex should be opera, it should be drama, it should be black velvet and silk, and it should be indulgent and opulent, regardless of how much it costs.” Well, at least it’s not anything you did. That must make you feel better. Just get rid of that MALM bed frame you’ve had since college, splurge on something more opulent and let the opera sex begin. Personal responsibility averted. After the jump, some other things that you can blame your lackluster love life on. Yay excuses! Keep reading »
I was lucky enough to sit down with Cindy Gallop in her ah-mazing Black Apartment (seriously, she could charge entry admission, that’s how cool it was) and find out more about her new site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, which is endeavoring to socialize the final frontier — our sex lives. The site makes it possible for users to share and watch real world sex, messy bloopers and all. Cindy and I chatted about the difference between the real sex world and the porn world, how to initiate conversations about what you want in bed without bruising your partner’s ego, and the importance of owning a vibrator. Check it out! Oh, and if I look nervous, that’s only because there was a taxidermied snake eating a mongoose just out of frame, staring at me the whole time.
We humans are voyeurs by nature. How else could pornography, reality TV and gossip magazines be as popular as they are? We love to watch other members of our species in action.
When it comes to watching people doing that kind of action, however, many of us—despite our healthy interests in it—can feel apprehensive, shameful or simply unsure of where to start. And based on some of the female-unfriendly porn that’s out there, it’s no surprise we feel this way. But a 2011 study showed that unmarried couples who watch pornography together are actually more committed than their non-viewing brethren. It makes sense: Watching other couples get it on can be a springboard for openly communicating to your partner what makes you feel good—both in and out of the bedroom. Not to mention, you’ve gotta be pretty comfortable with each other to watch erotica together in the first place! Read more…
What do you do if you’re an advice columnist who gets a letter from a young woman with questions about her crush on the twins sisters who make up the band Tegan & Sara? If you’re Dan Savage, you go right to the source and ask Tegan to answer the question for you. A woman wrote to the sex advice columnist saying:
I’ve been confused about my sexuality for two years. I am a 22-year-old female. I liked guys when I was in school, but then, in perhaps the most stereotypical of fashions, I developed a HUGE crush on Tegan and Sara when I was nearly 20…
Does that make me gay, she wondered?
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First date, second date, kiss, have sex, meet the parents, move in, get engaged, get married, have kids.
This is the default for men and women living today in the United States (other countries may vary). Why is this our default?
Mostly because of Disney movies. That’s how we were programmed as a kid and that’s what we assume as adults. We unconsciously mold to this model, even when it’s not what we intended. Sometimes we meet girls and don’t want a relationship. What’s an honest man to do?
The secret is proactive communication. Read more…
As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing.
I couldn’t help thinking, “These are the books that have become the cultural reference point for kink?” As I thought this, a bit of my kinky little heart broke. But, my opinion has changed since then.
I still think the books are poorly written and that there is much better erotica out there. Regardless, these are the books that have everyone talking about sex and kink. At this point, the value of that far outweighs some tired writing clichés. Read more…