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Sex Advice: My Dude Is Totally Into Internet Porn

“Should I be worried that my boyfriend has been secretly watching Internet porn?” — Dating Mr. Skin Flick, via email

Internet porn for guys is like sex for our parents…they all do it, we just don’t want to think about it (and they don’t like to admit it).

A healthy amount of porn for guys OR girls is absolutely nothing to be worried about. If your boyfriend secretly watches porn it doesn’t mean he’s “cheating” on you. It just means that your guy is average, and falls into the statistic that guys think about sex every seven seconds. He also probably feels a little embarrassed that he does it. This is all totally normal. Keep reading »

Sex Advice: I’m Dating Mr. Not-So-Big

“The guy I’m dating is seriously under-endowed. Is this a total deal-breaker?” — Dick-appointed, via email

Have you had sex already? If you have, then you know the answer better than I do. Just ask yourself this: Was it good?

When women experience orgasms during sex, it usually has nothing to do with how far in a penis goes or how wide. Most women’s orgasms are clitoral, and are achieved when pressure from the man’s pelvic bone rubs against her. The G-spot (which needs to be stimulated in order for a vaginal orgasm to be achieved) doesn’t exist in every woman, but those who do have it can reach it with their finger. I don’t know when the last time you measured your finger was (I measure mine all the time), but it’s not that long. Get my drift?

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Sex Advice: My Girlfriend Has Vaginismus

“My girlfriend has Vaginismus. We have a great relationship and we hook up orally and with hands a good amount. Unfortunately, because of her condition, we can’t have sex because it is really painful for her. Obviously I am never going to push it on her because it is WAY harder for her than it is for me. But I’m still a guy and I can’t help wanting to do it. Fortunately, she’s in physical therapy for it now. My question is, how likely is it that she will get better, at least to the point of being able to have sex comfortably?” — Concerned Boyfriend, via email

If you ever want to imagine what Vaginismus is like, have a friend pretend to poke you in the eye. Know what happens? Your eye suddenly closes as the object gets closer. In the case of your girlfriend, your penis is the “poker”, and her vagina is the “eye.” Sooo not fun.

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Friday Quickies!

  • Is there any food better than sex? [Boinkology]
  • Cristen Clifford writes plays about her parents sex life. [Daily Bedpost]
  • Two dudes making out in a Heinz ketchup commercial from the U.K. [Huffington Post]
  • Sex advice from food writers! [Nerve]
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    The Nookie Know-It-All: His Cigs And Your Cervix

    “Can a woman get cervical cancer if a smoker routinely goes down on her?” — Paranoid About My Puffer, Houston, TX

    There hasn’t been any real medical research to support this claim, but you’re not totally crazy. If I had to take a guess, I’d say having a smoker go down on you is like putting Equal in your coffee. It’s not awesome for you, but if you don’t eat eight bathtubs full of it a day you’ll be fine.

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    The Nookie Know-It-All: Doin’ The Crimson Wave

    “How can my husband and I mess around when I’m on my period? I’m a little squeamish about it, but he doesn’t want to go off sex for a week.” — Flirting With Aunt Flo, Olympia, WA

    A tampon isn’t the only thing you can insert when you have your period. In fact, sex while you’re on the rag can be even better than when you’re not. It sounds gross, but blood can act as a natural lubricant, enhancing your sexual experience with your husband. If you’re worried about the “cleanliness” factor of sex while you’re bleeding, you can use a colored towel or have sex in the shower to keep your sheets from seeing red.

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    The Nookie Know-It-All: His G-Spot

    “What’s the scoop on the male G-spot?” — Where’s Waldo?, via email

    The main difference between the male G-spot and the female G-spot is that one is waaaay easier to find. Wanna guess which one?

    If you said male…you’re right. It seems to me that if God were super smart, he would have reversed that. I mean, most guys can barely find the remote control, let alone a piece of spongy tissue inside your vagina. But that makes YOUR job way easier. The male G-spot is essentially the prostate gland, and it’s located in the man’s badonkadonk. Rumor has it that if you stimulate the male G-spot, it makes the guy have an amazing orgasm. Use this guide, after the jump, the next time you’re feeling frisky with your man… Keep reading »

    The Nookie Know-It-All: Anti-Depressants & Libido

    “I’m on anti-depressants that have totally killed my libido but have made me feel much better in every other way. Should I consider switching to something different because of the sexual side effects or is there a way to increase my libido without coming off my meds?” — Pill Popper, via email

    The sucky thing about anti-depressants is exactly this. They make you feel all nice and happy about things, but kill your sex drive…which in turn makes you depressed. It’s a vicious circle. Keep reading »

    The Nookie Know-It-All: Squirting Stats

    Failure To Squirt
    Should you feel bad if you can't squirt? Read More »
    Doin' It Doggy Style
    The best sex position? Possibly. Read More »
    23 Bad Sex Moves
    Don't try these at home. Or anywhere. Read More »

    “What percentage of women ejaculate and why?” — Squirt Alert, via email

    Female ejaculation (aka shooting or gushing) has been a topic of discussion for hundreds of years. Even Aristotle pondered about “vaginal expulsions”. Which I THINK begs an even different question: Aristotle was so good in bed he made women gush?

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    The Nookie Know-It-All: Scratch & Sniff

    “The skin around my vagina itches a lot. I’ve taken a look and there doesn’t seem to be any rash or visible problems of any sort – what could be the problem?” — Snatch Attack, via email

    Most likely you have a yeast infection, especially if you’re experiencing abnormal discharge (white and clumpy). However, a yeast infection is only one possibility if you’re experiencing vaginitis, a term used to describe infections or inflammations of the vagina. Aside from yeast infections, vaginitis can be caused by antibiotics, excessive alcohol consumption, and allergies. A lot of women think they have yeast infections when they’re really allergic to latex condoms.

    Before you head to the pharmacy to get an over-the-counter medicine (such as Monistat) make an appointment with your OBGYN to get an exam.
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