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Poll: Do You Get It On With The Lights On Or Off?

Yesterday I was chatting with our Mind Of Man about this very subject — he believes that woman, in fact, are generally the ones who want the lights on and that men (particularly him) want the lights off (or at least significantly dimmed). Personally, I don’t really care, though I would prefer not to knock off a lamp in the throes of passion because it’s so dark I can’t see my hand in front of my face. But what about you? Keep reading »

Bad Advice: Julia Allison Wants You To Withhold Sex

NonSociety blogger and Time Out New York columnist Julia Allison posed a question in her site the other dayWhat is a “normal” length of time to wait before having sex with a new partner? — and proposed an answer:

My methodology (for women, of course): if you think you’ve waited long enough, wait even longer. If you like the guy at ALL, don’t think about sleeping with him until at least — AT LEAST — the sixth or seventh date, or four-to-five weeks in, whichever comes last.

I wholeheartedly disagree and actually think this is pretty terrible, game-playing advice. Keep reading »

Sex Advice: How Do I Tell My Mom To Let Me Grow Up?

“I am an 18-year old college student. I have been dating an amazing guy who is nine months older than me for over two years. He is also in college, but we go to different universities. We have been having sex since I was 17 and the only problem has been my mother, who has disapproved. I thought that when I was in college she would leave me alone. realize that I am an adult, and give me some freedom. But no. When I recently told her that I had spent the night with my boyfriend, she got mad and said that I should have asked her. She doesn’t know that we have sex (after two years, she could hardly assume two hormonal teenagers would behave like saints), but how can I tell her to back off and that I am not her little innocent girl anymore?” — Bird Who’s Left The Nest, via email Keep reading »

Quickies!: What’s The Point Of Boy Nipples?

  • Guys have nipples too, but what exactly do you do with them? [Daily Bedpost]
  • Eeeeeek, a teeny, tiny baby deer! [Best Week Ever]
  • These sex positions will keep you warm all through the night. [College Candy]
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    Sex Advice: What Are The Chances I’ll Get Mono?

    “How easy is mono to get from brief sexual contact?” — Curious About The Kissing Disease, via email

    Mono, short for mononucleosis, is known as “the kissing disease,” and is easily transmitted through saliva. So unless you’re not making out during sex (who are you, Julia Roberts?), then you’re able to get it through sexual contact…even the very brief kind. (FYI, he might want to get that checked out.)

    As a matter of fact, I can tell you I’ve had mono three times. The first two times I got it I hadn’t even HAD sex yet, and was not making out with anybody (blame braces and red eyeglasses). I just happened to share a beverage or two with people at some high school parties. If I had known my entire Spring Break would have been ruined that one year, I would have saved my six-pack of Zima for myself. Keep reading »

    Sex Advice: Should I Go On A Sex Hiatus Post-Baby?

    “I am a new mother of my fourth child. During the last couple of months of my pregnancy, my husband was uncomfortable having sex with me. I felt rejected, but kind of understood. This led to a good three months of no sex. By the time we DID it, it was awkwardly uncomfortable for me. I still felt like a whale. It is now two months since that first time, and we’re still not at normal speed. We used to have sex at least twice per week. The last time we had sex was three weeks ago. I feel rejected, further, and I have no confidence to initiate anything. I feel lonely and heartbroken. I love him, and I have no intentions of leaving him, but I can’t imagine allowing him to see me naked again. Is it possible to put off sex until I lose more baby-weight? I know that it could boost my confidence to tone up and give my body a good makeover. Can a relationship survive no sex during the time it would take to lose about 30 pounds?” — New Mom In Crisis, via email Keep reading »

    Sex Advice: My Guy Won’t Stop Talking Dirty!

    “Ugh, the guy I have been dating will not shut the hell up during sex! He’s always directing me (“do this…do that”) or giving a play-by-play of every second (‘I love seeing your breasts bounce, blah blah blah’). How do I politely tell him to BE QUIET?” — Wishing I Was Deaf, via email

    Ugh…that would drive me crazy! For me, talking non-stop in bed is like talking in the movies…totally uncalled for and annoying. But some chicks are super into it, and that’s probably why this guy you’re dating does it. An ex of his probably said, “Oooh, yeah. Tell me what you’re doing to me right now. Talk dirty to me!”, and he decided to work it into his sexual arsenal. All it takes it one girl to eff it up for the rest of us.

    Go ahead and undo the damage caused by that beyatch and tell him talking during sex makes you feel weird. Tell him you’re not used to it and it takes your focus away from him. If he doesn’t understand or like what you’re saying, then you might be too late to save this one.
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    Fox News Does Kinky Sex

    Ah, Fox News. We hardly knew ye! Most Americans know the Fox News Channel as the home of some of this country’s most famously conservative pundits, Bill O’Reilly and Sean Hannity among them — and Roger Ailes, a former Nixon adviser, is the network’s president. But, as it turns out, FOXNews.com aims to take a more hardcore approach to reporting the news. On the website, Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright is the network’s in-house “FOXSexpert.” In her column, Fulbright offers conservative news-mongers sex tips and advice that are downright raunchy. From sado-masochism to premature ejaculation, celebrity sex tapes to transcendental orgasms, it’s Fox gone wild. After the jump, the best of the sex that Fox News has to offer.
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    Sex Advice: Dreaming Of Daniel Craig

    Should I be worried that I think about Daniel Craig every time I have sex with my boyfriend? — Boning For Bond, via email

    For the most part, fantasies are a healthy part of a sexual relationship. Letting images filter into your mind during sex is natural, and feeling anxiety about them only makes sex less enjoyable. Fantasies can be worrisome when they’re obsessive, or focus on one person. Thinking only of Daniel Craig or an ex when you have sex could signal a bigger problem with you or your relationship.

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    Sex Advice: First Time Role-Player

    “I want to start role-playing — how do I incorporate that into my regular sex life with my boyfriend since neither one of us has tried it before and want to start slow?” — Acting Up In Bed, via email

    I think there’s two kinds of role-playing: theatrical and emotional. For example, the theatrical would be the two of you dressing up like a nurse and patient and pretending to do it on the operating table. For emotional, you would pretend to be a hooker and your boyfriend a John. Instead of costumes, you focus on the emotional side of the fantasy. Keep reading »

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