In a weird twist of fate, I came to inherit a collection of pornographic novels from the ’60s. Among these books, however, were some, ahem, “educational materials,” including The Art of Erotic Seduction (1967), by the notable psychiatrist Dr. Albert Ellis (pictured), a book aimed at young boys on the topic of getting into ladies’ pants. Throughout, Ellis explains — in hilarious detail and outdated (now) language — makeout tactics, the logic behind the female psyche (ha!), and eventually, how to engage her in “soul kissing.” Here, some passages to entertain. Keep reading »
Buffin’ the muffin. Tiptoeing through the two lips. Five knuckle gusset shuffle. Coochie cuddling. And, if you’re Irish, Tickling me Elmo. We all do it and we all have our favorite euphemisms for it—so why can’t we talk about it? Keep reading »
This week, I got an email from a lady who’s having a hard time getting her man up for sex. Here’s what she wrote:
“My boyfriend didn’t even get an erection when I was topless, underneath him, kissing him! He is under a lot of stress, but so am I.
When we do have, usually scheduled, sex, it is amazing, very intimate and passionate. But I’m a very sexual person, it is part of my nature, I want some quantity as well as quality. Now he wants me to go ‘cold turkey’ until he ‘sorts his head out.’ He does recognize the problem, but doesn’t offer any solutions. He is a wonderful boyfriend and truly loves me. What do I do?”
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According to an article in the Telegraph today, research suggests that ugly men are more likely than attractive ones to get their mates knocked up. The theory is based on behavior in the animal kingdom where “the most desirable males restrict their ‘sperm load’ with each mating to ensure enough to go around.” Scientists are researching whether the same is true for humans, and if it is, women who want a baby may be wise to avoid the hotties. “Males with the opportunity to mate with a lot of females would be likely to produce less sperm on each occasion than those making fewer sexual conquests.” The researchers’ theory that hot guys have smaller sperm loads is based on the idea they’re the ones with the highest sexual conquests. In my experience and years of gossiping with friends and observing the behavior of people around me, that certainly doesn’t seem to be the case. What do you think? Are hot guys getting laid the most? [via Telegraph] Keep reading »
Is there anything more fragile than a male ego? More egocentric than an insecure man? Have you ever noticed how easy it is for a guy who’s unsure of himself to make everything about him and his inability to please you or meet your expectations? Take this article in Men’s Health, for example, called “10 Signs She’s Unsatisfied.” That there’s even an article by that title is ridiculous already. Aren’t the signs pretty obvious? Do they really need to be spelled out? If we let out a frustrated sigh and roll over in bed, jerking the blankets with us, leaving our man with nothing but a cold shoulder to cuddle up against, chances are we’re pretty “unsatisfied.” (See the visual above!) But the article doesn’t say anything about that. No, in true Men’s Health fashion, the article includes a bunch of ambiguous “signs” that mostly have nothing to do with being unsatisfied. After the jump, my seven favorite. Keep reading »
“Adult” and “sex ed” are three words that sound terrible together at first glance. But lo and behold, O: The Oprah Magazine sat in on an adult sex ed class full of 40- to 60-somethings at the First Unitarian Church in Austin, TX, and one thing is for certain: bumbling teens aren’t the only ones with questions!
Unitarians are smart for realizing that learning about one’s sexuality is a lifelong pursuit. How to properly put on a condom and what to do about queefing preoccupy the young pups. New parents, an infertile couple, women who lost her breasts to mastectomies, and other grownups now realize that 45-minute lecture from the gym coach back in 10th grade left something to be desired! Keep reading »
What better way to celebrate liberty than by letting someone ring your bell? So, this 4th of July, you should assert your independence. Your bikini line is already in tip-top summer form. You have the next day off, so no worries about kicking him out. Plus, you owe birthday sex to your country. Here’s how to fly your flag and get a man to salute you.
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This week I gotta an email from a lady with the subject line “loss of confidence.” Haven’t we all been there?! So, my Frisky friends, let’s show this girl some love and get her back on her feet. Here’s what she had to say about her situation:
“I’m a 22-year-old college student who loves to have sex. However, my 27-year-old boyfriend doesn’t seem interested, not that I blame him. See, he is his grandmother’s caretaker and is required to spend nights at her house, where I’m not allowed to stay the night. I’ve tried to get him to come to my apartment for some alone time, but usually we just spend time at his house, with his grandma. I’m sick of being ignored. I’ve been turned down so many times by him that I’ve given up on ever having sex with him again. When we do have sex, it’s unbelievable and both of us just go nuts. But we haven’t had sex for three months out of our seven month relationship, and when we do, it’s only once a month. I understand him not wanting to have sex in his grandmother’s house, but there are alternatives. I’m at my wit’s end. Help!”
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This week, I got a letter from a lady with a spicy sex life:
“My guy was cooking and I pulled him away from the kitchen to get it on. He had been cutting up peppers and in the heat of the moment didn’t think about it and touched my ‘hot’ spot. Then I actually started to feel a lot of burning — I was wondering if it could cause any damage.”
Ooooh, I can’t resist a man cooking either. I’m not a real doctor, but my guess is if your crotch isn’t still burning, it’s OK. Vagina, you’re gonna make it! Although, if you do still feel a ring of fire, see a gyno please.
For the record, both your mouth and your vagina are mucous membranes. So, in my opinion, if your mouth can go on unscathed after a slight burn, so can your poonani. Now, with that being said, obviously, not every vegetable is meant to go in your hoo-ha, in fact some would probably argue that none should. But why let mouths have all the fun! Here are some tips for food you can actually enjoy…. Keep reading »
I was having dinner with some friends the other night, one of whom does HIV research. We started talking about STDs in general when another friend admitted she’s had herpes for about 10 years. She said she contracted it from the second guy she ever slept with and though she hasn’t had an outbreak in about 8 years, she always tells potential sex partners about it. I was surprised when she said that her gynecologist said that as long as she isn’t in the middle of an outbreak, there’s really no need to tell a sex partner — then I remembered this letter to advice columnist Jamie Bufalino in last week’s Time Out New York. A young woman writes:
“I’m a 23-year-old female, and just found out yesterday that I have contracted HPV/genital warts. I called the four people I’ve slept with in the past year to inform them, saving my current beau (he’s 28, BTW) for last. When I got on the phone with him (he lives in Boston, I’m in New York), I hardly had to say anything because he quickly responded: “Oh yeah, I have HPV too.” We’ve been dating for four months and he never bothered to mention that his last two girlfriends both magically contracted this virus after being with him. He apologized, said he felt terrible that he never told me, that he had planned to tell me soon, asked what he could do to make up for it, etc. I told him I never wanted to speak to him again. Now, the morning after, I wonder: Is getting an STD just part of being an adult? Or is passing a virus a deal breaker?”
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