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Dear Wendy: “I Want Sex More Than My Much Older Boyfriend”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss differing libidos in a May-December romance, intruding exes, and waiting for the “L” word. Keep reading »

Dog Takes Viagra More Than Bob Dole


A very special rescue dog, Ingrid, has been living at a shelter on Long Island by the grace of Viagra. After being diagnosed with heart disease, a clever veterinarian decided to give the wonder drug a whirl, doggie-style. And, thankfully, those little blue pills have saved the 6-year-old pit bull’s life. In fact, she takes two a day— what a woman! Since Ingrid’s heart disease story broke, pill donations have been pouring in from around the country, mostly in anonymous envelopes. Although one woman happily sent her husband’s stash in, since she suspected he’d been using it for an extramarital affair. But those blue pills are being put to good use! Jodi Record, the dog’s caregiver, told The New York Daily News, “She’s such a sweet, loving dog. Some people are afraid of pit bulls, but all she’s going to do is kiss them.” Hey, after two Viagra, we’d be feeling the love too! [The Daily What]
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12 Sexual Fantasies That Can Go Horribly Wrong In Real Life

A couple weeks ago, our beloved sex adventurer/Mind Of Man, John DeVore, totally shot a hole right through my dreams of joining the Mile High Club. You see, I’m not a very practical person, especially when it comes to sexual fantasies. So, I’m lucky to have friends like DeVore to eloquently remind me of why trying to do it in one of those cubicles with the “stench of powerful disinfectants, poo smog” and turbulence might be one of those things best left to my imagination, where getting freaky on a plane is just one part hot pilot, one part the video for “Toxic.” But anyway, the point is, he got me thinking there are a slew of porno-esque scenarios that really only work in my mind … and some movies I’ve seen. So, consider yourself warned, after the jump! Keep reading »

Lady Mag Lesson #2: How To Be A Total Rock Star In Bed!


You know what my favorite thing is about lady mags, besides the occasionally thought-provoking features, perfume samplers, and usually off-the-mark horoscopes? All that unsolicited advice! For instance, lord knows every single woman on the planet can never get enough advice on how to please her man. This super awesome sexy steamy tip will turn you into a rock star and get his rocks off! Meow, you sexy bitch! Keep reading »

What His Favorite Sexual Position Says About Him

OK, so far, we know what his body type says about him, what his penis says about him, and what his bedding says about him. But what does his favorite sexual position say about him? What does it mean if he prefers doggie to missionary, if he busts out a pile driver, if he tries to get all tantric in the sack? Find out! Keep reading »

8 Signs He’ll Be Bad In Bed

Hindsight is 20/20, which is why we can look back on some of the bad sex we had and identify the signs that it was going to be bad before it even happened. Unfortunately, we keep learning new ones, but for now, here are eight signs he’s going to suck in the sack. Help out your fellow womankind by sharing any signs you’ve come across in the comments. Keep reading »

8 Reasons NOT To Get It On

As I’m sure you’re well aware, there are many good reasons to have sex. In fact, sometimes you don’t need any reason at all—other than, say, loving your partner.

However, sometimes a lady finds herself doing all the right things for all the wrong reasons. That’s what we’re here to cover. So if you find yourself in any of the following situations, please extricate yourself as quickly as possible:

Revenge: The most popular very-wrong reason to have sex, revenge sex never ends well. Hooking up with his best friend because you’re angry at your boyfriend will get you nowhere.

I’m not knocking or talking about the sex professionals out there—this is for the amateurs among us. Just because he bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to give up dessert. Catch my drift?

Ego Gratification: You must be fine if that scorching hot bartender took you home. Or not. Men have been known to do some unsavory things for physical gratification—surely you’ve heard the recent story of the guy who tried to fornicate with a park bench? The fact that he’s willing and able doesn’t say squat about your appeal.

Appliance Envy: Your roommate “doesn’t believe” in air conditioning. You can’t afford premium cable and are addicted to “Weeds.” You’re desperate to try out Wii Fit. All of these desires are perfectly rational. However, they are absolutely not worth the price of waking up next to someone you otherwise cannot stand. (Well, except for the AC, but that’s only if it’s above 100 F.)

Weight Loss: Yes, you may have read those women’s magazine articles about how being physically intimate can help you shed pounds. However, a 120-pound woman burns only 57 calories during 15 minutes of sex. That’s less than half a Hostess Ho-Ho. The sweat could do nice things for your skin, but your waist will remain the same size.

Clarity: Ever since you were nine years old and saw that topless Kate Moss Calvin Klein ad, you’ve had a hunch you were same-sex oriented. Unfortunately, the thought of sharing this with anyone scares you, so you get yourself a boyfriend. But you can’t stop thinking about that ad….

Mercy: Empathy for a sad soul is one thing; holding an intimate pity party is quite another. Oh, and you know that saying, “no good deed goes unpunished?” It goes triple in this instance. Misery loves company—good luck getting him out of your apartment.

Quid Pro Quo:

I’m not knocking or talking about the sex professionals out there—this is for the amateurs among us. Just because he bought you a lobster doesn’t mean you need to give up dessert. Catch my drift?

Fame By Association: He’s famous, you want to be. Contrary to what you might’ve surmised from that old Pamela Des Barres book, “I’m With The Band: Confessions Of A Groupie,” fame is not transmissible through intimate contact. However, lots of other things are, so watch out.

Dear Wendy: Guy Wants His Girlfriend To Get A Landing Strip

Wendy is stuck at jury duty this week and will hopefully—knock on wood!—be back tomorrow or Thursday next week. Until then, here’s one of her best Dear Wendy columns.

I’ve recently started dating a super smart, weird, quirky, cute, funny and beautiful girl. I never like anyone, but I like her. There’s one minor (hairy) issue. She doesn’t keep things very trimmed down there. Now, before you get angry, let me preface this by saying that I really don’t need a Brazilian on my girl (or even anything really from the South American continent, for that matter)– just a nice landing strip. Is that too much to ask for? Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, so I do keep my things regularly trimmed. We’ve only been dating for a month or so, but we’ve spent a lot of time together (it’s a long distance thing, so we’ve basically spent the past few weekends totally together = relationship time warp), so I feel as if this isn’t jumping the gun or anything to think about long term personal grooming habits. am I being a superficial douche? Isn’t it fair to ask for some quid pro quo trimming? I think yes. If you agree, my ultimate question is: how do I broach the trimming subject with my long distance girl? What strategies do you have? — Hair Hater

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Is Your Sex Life Boring? Find Out How To Spice It Up

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, the passion can ebb for the simple reason that you both know exactly what’s coming. It could be the best and dirtiest sex anyone has ever had, but it doesn’t matter: it’s the same as it was last time. It doesn’t mean you care any less about your partner, or find them any less sexually attractive, it just means you need to break the spell of sameness, and break out of your stale sex routine. Read more Keep reading »

How To Get It On With An Uncircumcised Dude

Back in the day, as single girls, my roommate and I were kind of obsessed with uncircumcised guys. Not that we had encountered any, but we just wondered what the hell we would actually do if, say, we met a fine young fellow who wasn’t cut and how we would handle the “situation.” (Ah youth, so innocent! So naive!) Countless Google queries didn’t begin to deliver any concrete answers. Eventually, I started dating a British guy, and was faced with the “situation” first hand. Here is what I discovered. Keep reading »

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