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Doin’ It With Dr. V: The Truth About Oral Sex

Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, I dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started.

STD Awareness Month is almost over, and I hope you lovers survived. Next week, I’ll go back to answering your burning sex questions — whether they burn literally or not. Today, I want to talk about a mistake I’ve made trying to play it safe.

If I had a nickel for every time I bartered a new partner down from sex to a BJ, I’d be rich! In some situations, oral sex can seem like the best bet to keep him coming back for more and to protect your promised land. But that argument is as busted as Bill Clinton saying he didn’t have sex relations with Monica Lewinsky. It’s still sex — oral sex, to be exact! While I used to think I was Lady Safety for starting off slow(ish) with a beej, oral is as risky a way to get frisky. Even though he’s not sticking his beef in your buns, your mouth is as ready to be an STD sandwich. New research shows it can even cause cancer. While we gals can get a lot of things, we can’t seem to catch a break! Here are some things to consider when you’re going down. Keep reading »

Doin’ It With Dr. V: How To Protect Your Hoo-Ha

Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…

After blathering on and on about anal sex, herpes sores, and stanky vajayjay’s, I, Dr. V, am going to say something that will really shock you! I have never, ever had sex without a condom. Ever. Not even once. Keep reading »

Use A Condom When You Get Into Bed With MTV

MTV wants to protect you from the skanks you see on their station. To commemorate STD Awareness Month, they’ve launched a safe-sex campaign. And they’re so down with the kids, they’re speakin’ their language, their cell phone language, that is. The new initiative is called “It’s Your Sex Life,” with a focus on GYT — that’s how you’d text someone “get yourself tested.” Yikes, shouldn’t that be a phone call or at least an e-card? Anyway, they kicked off their crotch crusade with “Pedro,” a biopic about Pedro Zamora, the HIV positive cast member from the third season of “The Real World.” But, all month long you can look forward to PSAs from the likes of Santogold, the Maddens, and N.E.R.D. Plus, Beth Ditto will be answering sex questions in a segment called, “Ask Beth.” Wow, the safe sex push plus MTV promising to play music videos — it’s like 1994 all over again!

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Doin’ It With Dr. V: How To Tell Someone They Need To Get Tested For STDs

Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…

This week, I got an alarming phone call. My most recent ex-boyfriend went to get tested like a sensible young man and I’m so proud of him — but I’m sorry he had to call me with his results. While it wasn’t good news, I’m truly grateful he talked to me about it openly. Sex is dirty, and sometimes you can’t totally clean up the mess, but you can always take measures to stop it from spreading! I know my ex was not so thrilled to have to call me to tell me to get tested too, however, it made me realize why I was with him in the first place. He’s respectable and responsible for divulging what he knows with me, for better or for worse. Although it can be a tearful inspiration, I’d like to dedicate this installment of Dr. V to all the men and women, like my ex-boyfriend out there, who are brave enough to pick up the phone and show someone they still care by telling them the truth about their health and the risks they shared. According to the CDC, who just this week reported 19 million cases of STDs in 2007, there are a lot of people who need to make a similar confession. So, here’s how you do it, as pain-free as possible.
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CDC Releases Latest STD Statistics

Yikes — 19 million STD infections occur each year according to the Center for Disease Control’s NEW report this week. The numbers from 2007 are in and the stats are a total bummer. Gonorrhea and chlamydia, the most common STDs, recorded the largest number of known cases to date, 1.5 million according to the most recent assessment. However, the government agency thinks that’s a low estimate, and suspect that there are actually twice as many people who are carrying the infections. Agh! Unfortunately, the infections often go undiagnosed because they can be asymptomatic. While gonorrhea and chlamydia frequently come together in one big STD package, they are both cured with antibiotics. However, if someone isn’t a responsible sexy time partner and doesn’t get tested regularly, the diseases can wreak havoc and even do things jeopardize your ability to get pregnant. Since young women, age 15-34, are in the highest risk categories, it’s essential that we take care of our business! Go visit the gyno and let them smear your pap, why dontcha?! [CDC] Keep reading »

Durex Proves That Condoms Can Be Fun

Durex’s new ad, featuring condom balloon animals doing it in various positions, is so amazing and funny, it could do a lot for the rubbers’ public image. After all, more than one guy (and girl) has complained to us about hating them, despite knowing they’re necessary in order to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDs. After the jump, we tracked down even more hilarious outtakes from the condom balloon animal video shoot — those horny humpers sure get outta hand. Keep reading »

Popping Pills Instead Of Wrapping Up

Here’s a story: Johnnie was so tired of using condoms because they were a buzz kill and felt unnatural to him. He was planning a weekend of debauchery and had heard of an alternative to wearing condoms called PrEP that would hopefully protect him from contracting HIV. He knew he could purchase the drug from a dealer at his favorite gay club. Once he decided on his plan, Johnnie only focused on the pleasure the weekend would surely bring. But he was taking a big risk by choosing PrEP over using condoms. Find out more after the jump… Keep reading »

NYC Health Department Releases Report On Binge Drinking & Sex

On the cover of today’s free paper AM New York is a hard-hitting headline about how the New York City Department of Health found that…wait for it… binge drinking leads to sex. Puh-lease, after ZERO drinks I’ll do the nasty! Plus, if that was all it took to get laid, I’d get hammered in morning, I’d get hammered in the evening, I’d get hammered all over this land! According to the Health Department’s report, if you have more than five drinks in one sitting, at least once a month, you’re a big slutty drunky-drunk. [Oops. Oops again. Oops. -- Editor] And by slutty, the study means you have had two to four partners a year. Whore! Keep reading »

Virginity Pledges Don’t Work

The Jonas Brothers may lose their virginity sooner than they had planned — and maybe they’ll make some Jonas Bastard Babies while they’re at it. A recent federal study has discovered that teens who pledge virginity until marriage are just as likely to have premarital sex as those who don’t promise to wait until they’ve got a ring on it. They’re also much more likely to screw without condoms and other forms of birth control. “Taking a pledge doesn’t seem to make any difference at all in any sexual behavior,” said study author Janet E. Rosenbaum of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. “But it does seem to make a difference in condom use and other forms of birth control that is quite striking.” In fact, the number of students who reported condom use during sex was about 10 percent lower for those who had taken the pledge. Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys & Gals On Our IM: Do Condoms Suck That Much?

A Note On Playing It Safe: The Frisky thinks safe sex is smart sex – so please practice it in the way that’s right for your relationship.

So, NPR posted a story saying that condom-less sex is the new engagement ring, because going bareback shows the same or similar kind of intimacy and trust and commitment that traditional marriage does. I see their point, though the man-friend and I dropped the connies well before we got engaged — but only when we’d agreed to be monogamous and had done the all important STD-tests etc. Over at fellow lady blog Jezebel, outgoing Features Editor Moe says about sex without a condom:

“…here is the irrefutable: it feels awesome. Maybe that is because I have only really engaged in bareback sex with the types of dudes who don’t fear HPV and whose diseases I don’t particularly fear, because the worst thing I can think of about most of them is the ensuing lifetime of awkward conversations…”

In other words, sex with condoms sucks, the worst that could happen to me if I go without condoms with a dude is maybe I could get pregnant or get HPV or “diseases I don’t particularly fear” and of having those diseases, the worst part is having awkward conversations with future sex partners. There is so much that is ridiculous about that statement, but I’m not in the business of ripping people apart for their personal sexual choices.
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