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The Rudest Baby Shower Behavior We’ve Seen From Pregnant Moms

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Bridezillas aren’t the only ones to turn a party into a nightmare. Introducing the Baby Showerzilla – the woman who terrorizes her baby shower guests with her outrageous demands and behavior. Here’s some of the worst real-life examples women have ever seen. Read eight examples of how showerzillas attacked their guests on The Stir…

Planning Your Dream Wedding? Don’t Forget The Donkeys!

There are so many questions to ask yourself if you’re in the process of planning a wedding, but the most important one is: will you be hiring donkeys? According to The Knot, the latest, no-I’m-not-kidding-you wedding trend is to have donkeys at your nuptials.

Apparently, brides and grooms are using donkeys in all sorts of creative ways — from acting as butlers by distributing beers to guests, to transporting the bride down the aisle, to wearing costumes and acting as live scenery. An Arizona company appropriately called Haul N Ass specializes in rentable donkeys for weddings. Their trained asses will cost you $250 an hour, but  Vanessa Rice of Haul N Ass assures you, they will be worth the price of admission. Keep reading »

True Story: An Update On A Psychic Prediction About My Love Life

True Story: An Update On A Psychic Prediction About My Love Life

Back in September of 2011, I wrote about a psychic prediction I received from an astrologer who went by the moniker, The Stargazer. While at a party, I gave him my date of birth and he told me the following about my love life:

“You were with someone who was a lot of fun but not marriage material. You will continue to have fun for the next six months. Things will heat up in the summer of 2013. Either you will meet the man you’re going to marry then or things will turn serious with someone you already know.”

At the time, I remember feeling crestfallen because I had recently been dumped by a guy for not being Jewish enough, and in the scheme of being single, hearing that you’re not going to meet anyone special for another two years sounds like a dating death sentence. Keep reading »

A Great Way To Mourn Guys Who’ve Ghosted

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When your Tinder date stands you up , or God forbid, the guy you’ve been dating disappears into thin air, it can be mind-boggling to try to figure out what went wrong. Closure is an important thing to have when it comes to dating, and since ghosters rarely are able to provide it, you have to find alternative ways to give your feelings a proper burial. (I’ve tried everything from writing an un-sent letter to performing some weird-ass “letting go” ritual. Hey, whatever works.) Add another option to that list: write an obituary for him. Because the best thing for your sanity (and your ego) is to assume that he died and that’s why he’s not returning your multiple calls and text messages. All other options lead directly to self-blame. Buzzfeed made some sample obituaries for hot guys who disappeared accompanied by whimsical illustrations. Finally, a positive way to channel your rage. [Buzzfeed]

Girl Talk: My Rape Ruined My Female Friendships

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In college, I was part of a tight-knit group of young women. There were five of us in the core group. Two were roommates and their room, 513, was our central meeting place. There was a lack of formality when it came to hanging out. It was totally normal to walk right in if the door to 513 wasn’t locked and downright mandatory to stop by if it was propped open. We were honest and comfortable with each other.

Or so I thought.

Rape doesn’t happen the way you think it will. I wasn’t drunk or drugged at a party, no one jumped me after dark while walking home alone; the attack didn’t even start as being physically rough. It was slow, insistent, and shocking. My rape was terrifying, uncomfortable, and incredibly confusing. The physical pain was as bad as the betrayal; the psychological injury of living in the same building as the rapist almost ended me entirely, but I still had my friends, I reasoned, so I was able to keep going with my collegiate career. Keep reading »

Cameron Diaz On Monogamy: “Everyone Will Be Cheated On”

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“Everybody has been cheated on, everyone will be cheated on. I can’t fix that, I don’t know how, I don’t have any judgment on anybody, I don’t know how to fix the problem. We are human beings,we are complicated -– you cannot go through life without tallying up a few scars, you cannot go through life unscathed, it’s just what it is. It’s all meant to happen, take your lessons, figure it out, move on.”

Cameron Diaz shares her dismal views about long-term monogamy in OK! Magazine UK. While I do agree that you can’t go through your love life unscathed and that cheating or being cheated on is a common experience, I don’t think it’s necessary to expect that your monogamous partner WILL cheat on you. There are many other alternatives to cheating in committed relationships — breaking up, opening up the relationship, or discussing your urges with your partner without acting on them. Fidelity and what it means to you as a couple is something worth discussing if you’re in it for the long haul. More helpful than preparing yourself to be cheated on, is preparing a contingency plan for how to deal if one partner finds themselves having feelings for someone outside the relationship. [Huffington Post]

10 Things Your Autistic Friend Wants You To Know

Hello, I’m Gwen Kansen and I have Asperger’s Syndrome.

I repeat myself a lot. If a room is crowded I try to get out immediately. It takes me longer than most people to do pretty much everything because I make slow transitions. But I’m fun at dive bars. I used to manage a vintage clothing store. You might not notice I’m weird right away.

Chances are you know a few people on the spectrum. We may not tell you because autism isn’t the sexiest mental problem out there, especially when compared to more easily romanticized mental illnesses like bipolar disorder. Here are few things you should know about us autistic folks: Keep reading »

Heads Up, Guys: This Is How You Should Dance If You Want To Turn Women On

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Attention, guys. Being a good dancer is all in the neck and the right knee, says a new study done at Northumbria University. Researchers used 3D cameras to film 19 guys between the ages of 18 and 35 dancing. The dudes’ moves were then turned into animated avatars and shown to 35 straight women to rate on a scale of one to 10.

The female participants found men who made big movements with the neck and trunk, the wrist and left shoulder, and fast movements with the right knee, to be the best dancers. Why these particular moves? Well aside from making simply making a man look slick bumping and grinding in the club, scientist say there’s a biological component. The “good” dance moves just so happen to be signals of male fertility. Because we’re all just animals looking to propagate the species. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: I Never Expected To Be A Stay-At-Home Mom

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Stay at home vs. working moms: it’s a debate that may well have sparked the heated flames of the “mommy wars.” There haven’t been a shortage of opinions on this topic, and despite being rehashed to death, more keep coming. The latest voice to enter into the fray is Allison Klein, a former reporter turned stay-at-home mom who recently offered up an op-ed for The Washington Post. Klein writes:

“You see, I love being home with my girls, now 4 and 5. I’m just not such a fan of telling people that’s what I do. This is new for me. [...] This is D.C., where nothing about you is more important than your job, or at least that’s what people always say. And being a full-time mom doesn’t exactly up my Q score. These conversations are fraught because I want people to know I’m not giving up my identity as a strong, smart woman. Cue the eye roll.”

Mother judgment — it’s there regardless of what you choose. And, when we fight each other, nobody wins, because infighting only clouds the more important issue: the narrow way we frame this stay-at-home vs. working mother discussion. I  wish there could be a huge disclaimer on these types of articles reminding readers that not every mother is in a position to actually make this choice. There are families that need two working parents in order to ensure that housing and food costs are met. There needs to be a greater understanding of the inherent privilege involved in even having this “debate” in the first place. Keep reading »

Dater X: I’ve Been Ghosted And It’s Bringing Up All The Feelings

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It’s been two days since I’ve heard from GQ, and to be honest, I’m in an anxiety spiral. Although there’s still a tiny part of me that’s hoping for the best, it appears I’ve been ghosted.

Last week, as I mentioned, I happily accepted when GQ asked me over for takeout and a movie. Although we ultimately opted against the takeout in favor of a quick trip to a cozy eatery near his apartment, the night went exactly according to plan. We laughed, talked, yes—slept together— and even made the decision to take down our online dating profiles. Keep reading »

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