Pretty much everything about Kale and I getting married was untraditional. But we were actually quite traditional by not moving in together until a few days before our wedding.
Kale and I certainly weren’t opposed to premarital cohabitation on principle: both of us had lived with exes in long-term relationships before. We simply hadn’t been together long enough to move in together: we had only been dating for four months when we got engaged and got married just five weeks after that (yeah, we moved quick). Kale ending his lease in Brooklyn to move into my apartment in Queens a few days before our wedding was pure circumstance.
By cultural standards, the “getting married” part is supposed to be the huge change that occurred in my life. One minute I was filing my taxes solo and then — ba-bam! — I’m legally joined to another person by law. And to be sure, sponsoring Kale for immigration was also a significant event. But the honest truth is that the biggest change during that time, in terms of how it affected my life and how I had to adjust and grow as a person, was acquiring not just a new husband but a new roommate. Keep reading »
A New York City couple spent a month using only emojis instead of written words to communicate in their text messages, and weirdly enough, it didn’t totally wreak havoc on their relationship. Alex Goldmark, who works at WNYC’s New Tech City, thought it would make for a sweet experiment for the radio show, and by the end of the month, he and his girlfriend Liza Stark found that emojis were actually improved their connection. Keep reading »
Vine artist Ian Padgham released his sweetest piece of work yet: a time-lapse of his wife Claire Pasquier‘s pregnancy and the appearance of their sweet baby. Padgham filmed about two frames per month to put the project together, adding in the music at the last minute when he realized that Vine now allows song uploads. That sound you hear is just my heart melting. [BuzzFeed]
Moving in together is a big step in a relationship, which is why many couples want to be sure they are ready before they take the leap. However, discerning whether or not the time is right can be a challenge. Should you be together for six months? A year? Who knows!
That’s why Rent.com asked couples what they thought on the subject. Take a look at these helpful tips before you sign an apartment lease together to determine whether or not you’re ready to take the plunge. Keep reading »
When we think of TV’s best (and funniest) couples, there’s no argument that Ross and Rachel make the list (or even top it). They’re not your Disney fairy-tale lovers, but their happy ending comes pretty darn close. We’ve cheered for them during their highs and cried with them during their lows, but we never gave up on the dynamic duo. They mimic a real-life relationship (cue the breakups-and-makeup-sex cycle) that most of us can relate to, which is why, even a decade after “Friends,” the lessons we learned about love are still fresh. We have to thank Ross and Rachel for all they’ve taught us and remember that finding our own lobsters takes work. Read more on Tres Sugar…
My life three years ago is sometimes incomprehensible to me. Retrospectively, it’s so absurd that it’s hard to believe that the things that happened happened, or that I tolerated some of the things that happened, or that I actively participated in some of the things that happened.
Enough mystery. When Jessica’s article about the time her husband spent unemployed went live, I told her about my experiences on both sides of the unemployment-in-a-relationship fence. I spent three years with an unemployed (former) spouse, and then became unemployed myself last year, during the course of the relationship I’m in with my boyfriend now. Jessica recounted beautifully the anxiety of watching a partner she loves undergoing the stress of unemployment and job-searching. Keep reading »