Category Archives: Relationships

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Girl Talk: My Mother Is A Hoarder

The smell of ammonia—a holdover from when the cat was sick—is the first thing I notice, before the dust seeps into my nostrils, making my eyes itch. The door doesn’t fully open, blocked by boxes in the entryway. The piles of craft projects, winter coats, and litter are pushing out from the walls, trying to escape outside. I have to turn sideways to get into the hallway, to the foot-and-a-half kept clear of debris so people can pass to the kitchen or living room. The dining room, with a hanging lamp and large oak table, was long ago lost entirely to the clutter.

There’s too much stuff. It’s disgusting. I hate it here.

But it’s home. Keep reading »

The Twisted Sisterhood: The Dark Side Of Female Friendship Explored

Kelly Valen, author of The Twisted Sisterhood, has a bone to pick with women, particularly with the mob mentality that can evolve when a group of girls gets together.

She, like so many females, had a Bad Sorority Experience back in the day. A really bad one, in fact: After she lost her virginity to a fraternity pledge in what was then known as a “ledge party” — i.e., an unbeknownst-to-her public deflowering with all of his frat brothers looking on — her sisters turned against her, eventually blackballing her from the sorority house.

Decades later she ran into one of those same “sisters” at a Pet Smart one day, and was surprised to find her former sorority nemesis chasing her through the cat food aisle — “Kelly! Kelly! Is that you!?” — acting as if none of it had ever happened. Read more Keep reading »

Stupid Study Says Guys With Lots Of Sisters Aren’t Sexy!

In a dream world, where my uterus wasn’t running out of time, childbirth was painless, and kids behaved like angels, I would have four kids: three girls, one boy. Unfortunately, in the real world, my son, having grown up surrounded by girls, would be viewed as “less sexy” by women as an adult. That’s according to a study conducted at the University of Texas and published in the journal Psychological Science, which says that men who grow up with a lot of female siblings will have less sex as adults. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How To Avoid Dating An Abusive Freak

The first thing anyone asks a battered woman is: “Why did you put up with that?” Domestic violence is the only crime I can think of—well, besides rape—where the victim is treated as complicit in her own abuse.

This is why I rarely talk about my two-year relationship with a batterer. I wasn’t a housewife with no resources, I was a teenager and he was my first boyfriend. He beat me, raped me and stalked me. After I escaped, it was years before I told anyone what I’d been through because I was so ashamed. I still avoid the topic with those close to me.

What people don’t understand is that abusers don’t generally punch you in the face on the first date. If they did, nobody would ever go out with them twice. But there are some early warning signs—and as much as you might hate to admit it to yourself, the fact is, even a strong, smart, independent woman can find herself on the wrong end of the fist. Here are some behaviors to watch out for … Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: Why Won’t He Say “I Love You”?

Wendy is off today. So in lieu of a brand-new Dear Wendy, we’re rerunning one of her early columns. Keep reading »

For The Week Of October 25-31, 2010

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Be careful of bullies now. For now stick to your guns on what you need to do for you and forget others. This is your time to make choices and go through your mental baggage before picking up anyone else’s — because that is exactly what another is asking.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Let loose your flirty side and take that leap of faith by approaching that certain someone who you never in your wildest dreams thought you could hook, because this week your game will be on and it’s best aimed towards someone who strays from your norm. While it may or may not be true love forever, the short-term outcome will give you something to smile about.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

You can’t always be in control. Besides it being tiring, when it comes to relationships, if you take this clenched fist approach, how will you ever know what your other half’s potential is? Sure, you might be saving time, but it shows you don’t have much faith. So, as hard it as may be, this week, slide into that passenger seat and enjoy the view. Chances are you’ll love it.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You want what you want, when you want it and how you want it. Anyone who might get in your way will suffer a horrific demise, because there is no stopping you from getting what you want now and if anything does, then woe is them. This is your time to claim all that you dream of and dream as large as you want, no matter what!

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Hearing “I told you so” is the most grating of all phrases to you, so brace yourself as this week something you regret could come back to haunt you. However, what can you do now? Take time to reflect, but take even more time to sort out a new game plan. Nothing now is permanent and if you work fast, it’ll make this phase pass even faster.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

There will be an odd, but tasty, connection you can make through someone you know that will land you an opportunity that will have you feeling your game once again. Just don’t be shy about being around vague acquaintances or new faces, as this week’s plan of action will likely unfold in a weird way before you see how it’ll all make sense.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Admit falling in love on the installment plan blows. So, before you hook yet another with lots of potential but not much to show for it, change your trajectory fast! This is your time to stand up taller and realize you’re not a girl who can be bought on a layaway plan. Yes, baby, it’s C.O.D. now or nothing at all!

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Who cares if all your latest conquest has to offer is a pretty face. As it stands, you are not after true love at this very moment and the less you take seriously, the better off you will be. This is your time to realize your power as independently as possible. If this means taking up a few strays to have some fun, whatever. It’s all in the name of fun, so live it up!

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Wait to tell the world anything exciting that is brewing with you and your honey. This is your time to just savor the news together in private, as once the cat comes out of the bag, more chaos than you can imagine will ensue and may kill the current buzz you have going on. Yes, one day it will be time to share, but that day is not included in this week.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Just when you and your boo were in sync, in comes a major influx of turmoil to shake up your happy little love nest. Seems all of a sudden power struggles will strike and passive-aggressive behaviors will take front and center. While it’ll aggravate, realize this is a small price to pay for some super hot sex, because when all has settled, that’s what you’ll remember from it anyway.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

No matter what you’ve done in the past, it is never too late to make up if you can stand by your word here on out. Everyone is entitled to have made mistakes, but living in the shame of it and taking no actions for it won’t be doing you any favors. If you can trust what you believe in, go for it and make it happen, as it seriously is now or never.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You love a little tension when it comes to love, as in being with someone feisty is the kind of fun that makes you curious in all sorts of places. Though, as this week progresses and has you thinking you know all, prepare yourself for a bit of fire to heat you up in all the right spots. Just don’t jump to conclusions. Big surprises will arrive in unassuming packages.

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