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For The Week Of November 8-14, 2010

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Who cares if the only thing you like about your latest catch is how they look and it makes you unable to think of anything else? Lust is a perfectly fine way to get things started, as it’s at least a start. If you find that after a while that is all that is there, then you’ll be bored in time and all will work itself out. For now, appreciate the splendor and live in the moment.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Temptations will be streaming in from all directions and it’ll be harder for you to reign in your discipline, as all you want to do is say, “Yes.” However, do realize that sometimes it’s more about having choices than actually traveling down every option that’s the sexy part, because in the end, consequences for over-indulging are never nice.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

This is your time to break patterns. Even if you can’t even think of other ways of doing what you do, stop and do nothing. Whatever the case, this is your time to pause and reconfigure your direction and forge a new path. Not to say you have to have all the answers right now, but just one step in an alternate direction will do and all the rest will fall slowly into place.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You won’t be able to hold yourself back from the genius you will be feeling, so it’s a matter of keeping up your energy to go with the flow. However, it will take some group efforts to make your vision real, so plot and plan your strategy with detail, because as long as you have a good blueprint to work from, success is inevitable.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Forget trying to spend too much alone time with your baby to figure out what is going on with him, instead realize the source to all your answers lies with his friends and this is the week they will be more than willing to aid and abet you in all that you need to know. It seems you have more than a few allies wishing for the same outcome as you.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

If you want anything to happen the way you want, you’re going to have to get assertive and blunt. That someone is willing to listen and wants to do right by you, but without some direction, it’s hard for them to hit it just the way you like it. While this might be a bit confusing to articulate early on and even a little uncomfortable, after a while, you’ll wonder why you were ever that shy.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Admit power rocks your world and make your choices accordingly, as there is no time now to feel sorry for another and expect to be the light of their life that lifts them out of their despair. As it must be, it’s every man and woman for himself or herself now. And for you, time to reach further to the top, because where you’ll find what you truly need is not where you currently stand.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Exaggerate your needs! Not to say you have to lie, but when it comes to explaining what you want from another, you’ll have to go up and beyond the norm into fantastical. Only when you set the bar so high will that person be able to jump to a place that you can live with. Otherwise, setting them up with the truth won’t actually inspire enough momentum. Odd, but true.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

It’s all about sitting back and letting things go on their own, to see what arises. This isn’t the time to push too hard for anything, as it won’t give you a truthful portrayal of whom you are playing with. After all, when no one is looking, isn’t leaving someone to their own devices the only way to see if their game is even worth it? This time around, most definitely!

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Things get intense when those conversations that lead you out of confusion and into peace, love and giddiness begin. Yes, this is a week when love and commitment will play a crucial role in your life and most likely for the better. However, remember, it takes two to make a thing go right, so don’t hold back. It’ll be your purging that will be the start to this new foundation.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Emotionally speaking, change will be causing a tension knot that will be driving you mad. However, don’t be a control freak, as sometimes a new route is just what it takes to make things more interesting, even if a few turns of it will seem too much to bare. Remember, nothing is ever finite in this crazy game called love.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You won’t be able to stop your mouth from going off without a filter, but don’t worry, it’ll be fantastic. Seems there are more than a few things you need to get off your chest about your current situation and seems the only way to be fully honest with it all is by snapping. Thankfully, when you get into your power like this, not only is it effective but hot as hell too.

Ask The Astrosexologist: “Should I Go For A Second Shot With My Libra Ex?”

I am an Aries and I was seeing a Libra. When he got accepted to college abroad, he moved. Before he went, he had said he loved me and could never forget me. We tried a long-distance relationship for a while, but it didn’t work out, especially for me. I don’t know who was the one with the worse communication skills, but yeah, it was rocky… Sometimes we wouldn’t talk to each other for months. I decided to call it off and he agreed because he said he’d do anything to make me happy. However, we kept in touch through mails and IM only, no phone calls.

Apparently, I am still stuck on that relationship because I never put my 100 percent in any other guy I have been with after him. I have been on lots of first dates, but can count the second dates on one hand. He still mails me once in a while and I have this nagging feeling that he might be getting over me because he has started to see this girl for sometime now. However, I am sure if I say anything about being back together, he might consider. Should I ? Do you think it would be worth all that trouble and heartache for all three people involved? I am miserable thinking about that one guy who had pleaded his “undying love and commitment” … the one I let go. – Empty

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Dear Wendy: “When’s The Best Time To Discuss STDs?”

After getting dumped by my boyfriend of five years (and some time to get over that), I’ve recently re-entered the dating world. So far it’s a lot like I remember it to be; however, the only difference is that this time I’m not a virgin, and neither are most of the people I’ve been out with. And while I’m not quite ready to leap into bed with anyone, I’m becoming increasingly confused about the appropriate time to broach the subject of getting tested for STDs. Is there a way to bring up the topic without being offensive? I feel like I’m being a bit of a prude here, but after working for a college health center for a few years, and seeing the damage that STDs can do, I’m just not interested in putting my health at risk, even in the name of love. — Cleared for Takeoff

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I Don’t Always Wear My Wedding Ring

I’m back from a girlfriend getaway in paradise. Traveling with a best friend off the beaten path awakened joy in me and soothed my soul, but it also left me wondering: Why can’t I capture that sense of fun and wonder in everyday life? Why do I feel so stuck here in Boston, yet I was free as a bird in Mexico?

One idea: I took off my wedding ring while traveling. I think my naked ring finger gave rise to more open responses and deeper interactions than I would have otherwise experienced. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Girlfriend Lets Her Friends Take Advantage Of Her”

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about two and a half years. The one problem I have is with my girlfriend’s friends and how they handle money. From everything I know, everyone is on pretty similar pay levels, but her friends always seem to be short on cash when they do stuff together. My girlfriend always covers everything, whether it’s drinks, dinners, or tickets to events, and gets defensive when I ask about it and says “it’s just a couple dollars between friends.” Recently, I’ve been getting short-changed by them, too. They will invite us out to a fancy restaurant, order up a storm of appetizers and bottles of wine, while I’m content with my single entrée and beverage, and then when the bill comes, they’ll suggest we split everything evenly, and then when it comes time to pay, what they’ve put in is about half of what their evenly divided portion should have been. I’ll offer to pay the remainder to avoid an issue, but it leaves me peeved. I can cover these financial indiscretions without problem since I’m better off financially than most in the group, but my girlfriend is saving up for a big trip soon, and can never seem to get out of debt, yet is still always paying for her friends and is mortally embarrassed when I threaten to call them out on it. Also, if I’m thinking about a long-term future with her, I’m afraid to have joint finances if she can’t seem to manage her own. — Need a Bail Out

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Would You Rather Get Dumped Or Dump Someone?

At some point, most of us reach a point where we’ve been dumped and dumped someone. Generally, I think people tend to fall into one camp or the other. Personally, I tend to prefer to let the other person do the dumping — color me passive-aggressive! — but in a few cases I’ve done the dumping. There is only one thing to be said about getting dumped: It sucks. Doing the dumping, on the other hand, I’ve found, is a bit more of a grab bag. In a way, it’s better, because you’re the one calling the shots, and I think dumping someone tends to leave the dumper feeling less, well, victimized. On the other hand, if you’re going to end a relationship, you better be damn sure you’re sure about that. Being the dumper entails greater responsibility. So, are you more often a dumper or a dumpee? Do you think one is easier than the other? What do you think is the best way to dump someone and to get dumped — or is that like asking what’s the best way to fall on your head? Tell us, Frisky readers, in the comments. Keep reading »

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