Pet peeve: when people say, “I have no regrets,” as if having them is such a terrible thing. Everyone has regrets; it’s living in the past and constantly laboring over what you would have done differently that’s the problem. So, yeah, I have regrets. Ten of them in fact and from each I’ve learned something valuable about myself. Check those out after the jump, as well as five totally regrettable things I would still do over again. And share yours in the comments! Keep reading »
Let’s face it — we’ve all got issues and sometimes need multiple attempts to surmount emotional obstacles. But some of us are better at dealing with them than others and, we would argue, women are better at working through emotional problems than men. In the last few years of dating, we’ve come across 10 types of guys we call “emotional cripples,” guys who may otherwise be awesome, but for some reason or another are stuck in emotional wheelchairs and the women in their lives are put in the position of either pushing them around or yelling “Get up and walk!” before heading out the door. Usually, these emotional ailments aren’t obvious right away — in the first few weeks and months of dating, as our best selves are presented, we’ve found ourselves thinking, Finally, a guy who isn’t crippled emotionally! But at some point, the curtain is pulled back just like in the “Wizard of Oz” and, yup, there’s the f**king wheelchair again.
I liked jerks. No, I loved them, but now, looking back, I realize it wasn’t just that. For the most part, every man who failed to call me was capable of calling someone else, and at a certain point, I had to face the fact that it wasn’t just them, it was me. I begged for men to be unaccountable. I allowed them to be untrustworthy. And I expected them to leave. Read more … Keep reading »
It’s hard to willingly endorse the one-night stand because it either goes one way or another: a one-nighter can be blissful, but it can also be a cringe-inducing horror. While a lot of things can go wrong with your quickie, most of the problems will occur during the aftermath—the morning after, and maybe even the few days after that. Here, some things that you just. shouldn’t. ever. do. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Lost In Translation,” a 26-year-old woman whose language exchange IM buddy from France was planning to make a special trip to Calgary to see her while he was in Toronto for a wedding. “I know he’s not rich, and he doesn’t seem to be coming to Calgary for any other reason. I’m hard-pressed to believe that someone would go that far out of his way just for a short platonic meeting. What is he really expecting of me? Should I ask my boyfriend to join us?” She wrote. After the jump, find out if she went through with seeing him. Keep reading »