Category Archives: Relationships

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The Difference Between What Men And Women Need (According To Google)

How on earth did we even try to understand the differences between the genders before Google Instant? Everything we could ever want to know about men vs. women can be illuminated by autocomplete. (For the record, Google, I also need to urinate. Too much Diet Coke today.) [via I Love Charts] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Should We Ask Victims Of Domestic Violence Why They Stayed?

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. With that in mind, we’re reposting this article from Judy McGuire which originally ran in July 2009.

Yesterday, two of the other lady blogs wrestled over the politics of asking victims of domestic violence why they stayed with their abusers. Are you a bad feminist if you ask someone—say, someone like me—why she stayed with the guy who beat the crap out of her, nearly murdered her, and raped her on a regular basis? Keep reading »

Dater X: Making The First Move

I remember watching Dan stroll into Chemistry 101. He had on a blue hoodie and was dancing to the DiscMan he held in his right hand. He sat down at a table across the room from me, not bothering to put his music away, even though the bell was about to ring. He turned around and scanned the room, and we made eye contact. I was instantly drawn to his gorgeous turquoise eyes and devil-may-care attitude. I realized I only had a second to make a move. Even though I’d been in my seat for more than five minutes, I jammed my binder in my backpack and high-tailed it across the room, lest anyone beat me to the seat next to him.

“Hey,” I said, slipping into the chair just as the bell sounded. “Want to be my lab partner?”

“Cool,” he replied.

A week later, he gave me a Smiths mix CD and asked if I’d be his girlfriend. We lasted for a month—which is the equivalent of a year in high school time. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Ashamed Of My Stripper Past”

When I was a freshman in college, I made a really bad decision that has been on my conscience ever since. I was attending an expensive private school and I didn’t make enough at my part-time job to support the kind of lifestyle I wanted and that most of my wealthy peers lived. So for three weeks, I took on the pseudonym “Scarlet” and worked the pole at a local strip club. I was constantly worried that one of my parents or someone at my school would find out. Eventually, I was so overcome with guilt and shame that I quit. My friends have always been very supportive and accepted me despite the social stigma associated with exotic dancers. I graduated Magna Cum Laude and am now working towards my Ph.D. However, I can’t help but feel that I am tarnished when it comes to seeking a romantic relationship. I’m afraid that my love interest with judge me and consider me easy or corrupt. But I do think that whomever I end up dating has the right to know. Do you agree? If so, should I downplay the severity of the situation (i.e., it was only three weeks and it was not a full nude club)? How should I go about overcoming this major insecurity? Or, is that the consequence of taking my clothes off for money? — Reformed Bad Girl

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Girl Talk: My Mother Is A Hoarder

The smell of ammonia—a holdover from when the cat was sick—is the first thing I notice, before the dust seeps into my nostrils, making my eyes itch. The door doesn’t fully open, blocked by boxes in the entryway. The piles of craft projects, winter coats, and litter are pushing out from the walls, trying to escape outside. I have to turn sideways to get into the hallway, to the foot-and-a-half kept clear of debris so people can pass to the kitchen or living room. The dining room, with a hanging lamp and large oak table, was long ago lost entirely to the clutter.

There’s too much stuff. It’s disgusting. I hate it here.

But it’s home. Keep reading »

The Twisted Sisterhood: The Dark Side Of Female Friendship Explored

Kelly Valen, author of The Twisted Sisterhood, has a bone to pick with women, particularly with the mob mentality that can evolve when a group of girls gets together.

She, like so many females, had a Bad Sorority Experience back in the day. A really bad one, in fact: After she lost her virginity to a fraternity pledge in what was then known as a “ledge party” — i.e., an unbeknownst-to-her public deflowering with all of his frat brothers looking on — her sisters turned against her, eventually blackballing her from the sorority house.

Decades later she ran into one of those same “sisters” at a Pet Smart one day, and was surprised to find her former sorority nemesis chasing her through the cat food aisle — “Kelly! Kelly! Is that you!?” — acting as if none of it had ever happened. Read more Keep reading »

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