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First Time For Everything: Dating A Good Guy

I have dated losers of all stripes. Degenerate gamblers, pathological liars, cheaters, guys who can’t get it up, nymphomaniacs, older guys, younger guys, short guys, out of shape guys, steroid-pumping in-shape guys, musicians, baby daddies and waiters. I even had a brief affair with a Voice Over Artist. Yes, in a world where you can’t find a boyfriend, you have sex with a man who reads out loud – for a living.

Totally shockingly, in this vast, impressive portfolio of Y chromosome mediocrity, I have always ended up with the shit end of the stick. The common thread that weaves all these winners together (deep-seeded dysfunction aside) is the complete ambiguity that defined my relationship with each of them. We dated, often for months on end, but was he my boyfriend? I would be plagued with the flogging inner monologue of a quiz show – question after question after question. What was he doing when he wasn’t with me? How come he drinks so much? Why does he smell like Chanel No. 5 when I wear Stella McCartney? And where did all those track marks on his arms come from?

You know, typical pseudo-girlfriend type worries. Keep reading »

For The Week Of June 16-22, 2008

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

A power struggle between you and your honey is coming, most likely in regard to your families and/or home situation. Whichever the situation, someone needs to be the bigger person and ante up for the first round of negotiations. Obviously, if he were any kind of gentleman, it should be him, says you, tradition and yes, even the universe.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

There is a lot of satisfaction found in gloating, so when the answers to questions you have been wondering come in and all prove you are indeed the brightest bulb on the block, go ahead and obscenely love your victory. Besides the fact that you earned every second of the spotlight, the added confidence will put you in line for some hot rewards.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

No one ever can predict what you’re thinking behind your spying eyes or where you’re heading off to next. Yes, mystery is your M.O. and that’s what you thrive on, have built your image on and gets you laid the most. Well, times up on this ole trick, at least for now, as switching up your act for a more in your face routine is what’ll keep the onlookers mesmerized.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

This will be one of those weeks that’ll be incredibly amazing with your boo or it’ll suck hard. If things have been going one way, expect the trajectory to stay the same, but move a lot faster. Whichever, you will hit a plateau this week that has you planning ahead for the future in a major way.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Don’t bother resisting who ever it is that you’ve been hanging out with, because his reason to charm is genuine. Besides, why so be hard on yourself? This person only means to bring good into your life and if you want to mess that up, it’ll be up to you. Of course, with the promise of legendary sex and sweet affection, only an absolute tool would refuse.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

There are times in your life you just won’t be able to control what flies out of your mouth, much like this week. The good news is that the universe is on your side and even though you might initially feel some embarrassment over your confession, things will work out in your favor and what you reveal will be just what needs to be said to get you what you desire.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Dealing with power hungry ho’s will tire you out and make you want to kill — and inadvertently, when this side of you comes out, it’ll be the biggest turn on for the one closest to you. You know it; this is your time to show you aren’t going to take crap from anyone. Unfortunately, you might not see results desired, but at the least, you will feel a hell of a lot better from the release.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Free your nastiest fantasies to your honey. The dirtier you get, the more liberating you’ll feel. After all, this is your time to show him who you really are — a depraved sex maniac that’ll go to any lengths to seek out a new thrill and taste a new flavor. Of course, after revealing your mysteries, realize it’s his turn then to show you if he truly is man enough for you.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Some serious conversations are going to go down with you and another, but it won’t be someone too close to you, but more like an acquaintance. Whether this person is someone you want in your pants or not will be more apparent as the days go on and you learn what he is all about. However, realize it’s about the emotion behind the words rather than just what he is saying.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Your light-hearted and jovial attitude is your selling point. However, when you find yourself falling, you seem to switch into acting detached rather than wildly in love. This will cause a problem. This week, there’s a full moon in your partnership house, which means time to cut out this bad habit. Even if it’s not your size, do try to wear your heart on your sleeve.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Everybody loves instant gratification, but now is when you’ll be obsessed with it. Expect someone or something to catch your eye so hard that it’ll make you insane with drive and hope to possess it. Push all you want, but realize that you’re playing with forces beyond your control — which means, put it out there, but draw the line at being creepy.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

A maturity test comes your way when an ex pops back into the scene and old feelings return. However, your current situation will have you keeping it in your pants, but your curiosity will have you crawling up the walls. Sure, love the drama he brings, but settle for the friendship — at least for now.

Poll: Would You Date A Friend’s Ex?

Here’s the deal. A few months ago, I was dating a guy I was really into. One night, at a party, a friend of mine approached us. Except, she didn’t seem to want to talk to me — she flirted with my man while his arm was wrapped around me! She even asked for his email address and then fumbled for a reason — she wanted to add him to her comedy show’s e-blast. I’m so sure — at least wait for the relationship to die before you swoop in like a vulture. But since I didn’t want to cause a Jerry Springer-style scene over it, I shrugged it off and thought, Nice try sweetheart, but he’s leaving with me.

A couple months later, that guy and I broke up and she friended me on Facebook. Feeling guilty for making fun of her and even sillier for holding a grudge on someone who clearly wasn’t a threat, I decided to accept her friendship (on the Internet at least). But Facebook is full of all sorts of TMI — profile picture changes, updates on favorite books, and the one that got me: accepted friend requests. Months after the chick hit on my man — okay, my ex-man — he accepted her friend request as well. I did a little web-stalking and found out that they’re now dating. I’ve always thought that I didn’t care about exes and friends dating (like when Denise Richards hooked up with her friend Heather Locklear’s husband after they split), but now I’m rethinking my position. What’s your verdict? Keep reading »

So I’m Engaged: Not Gonna Be My Father’s Day

One of the things I finally realized about ten months ago — four months before I got engaged — is that one of the main reasons why getting married freaked me out so much, why I always labeled myself “not really a marriage person”, is that it brought up a very difficult problem. Do I invite my dad?

My dad and I aren’t really close, which really isn’t that unusual of an issue for people — but we’re more than just “not close”. Without airing too much of his dirty laundry — and inspiring an unhappy phone call later this evening — I can explain that while I was in college, my dad made some choices that resulted in losing his job, ending relationships with most of his friends, and breaking up his marriage to my mom. Needless to say, our relationship, which had once been very close, was damaged as well, and because he didn’t exactly quickly rebound, apologize, and get his act together (really, still kind of waiting on that), a lot of time passed before I could even consider forgiving him. And I’m pretty sure there’s not enough time in the world to make inviting him to my wedding — let alone playing an integral part — a pleasant option. Keep reading »

The Monogamist: Avoiding Co-Dependence

You know that couple—the ones who live together, eat together, exercise together, adopt the same hobbies and spend every waking (and sleeping, for that matter) moment together. Their codependency knows no bounds. It’s what Alex McCord and her husband Simon were criticized for on The Real Housewives of New York City (she brought him to a girls night out, for goodness sake). I know a couple who does all of that on top of working together—they pack the same lunch every day and commute to the office together, both of them working extra hours if one of them has to go in early or stay late. It’s nuts, and I couldn’t do it—and, frankly, after two years of this, I’m not sure how they do it without strangling each other. They must end up talking about the same things over and over again because they have no other frame of reference besides the one they’re experiencing together.
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Love Vandal: Hope You’re Having A Good Week!

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Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send us a pic at tips@thefrisky.com. Keep reading »

Use Facebook Instead Of Sending Wedding Invitations

Weddings are expensive, that’s a fact. But there are some things you can do to keep the costs down. Alicia Rockmore, the CEO of an organizational company, says no one looks at invitations, and you should just have them printed online or send email invitations. Cheap invites are one thing, but email invitations? I think it’s bad enough when I find out my friends are engaged by looking at their Facebook pages. Read the article if you’re actually planning your wedding and want more tips that may or may not be useful. [WDSU] Keep reading »

Happily Married Women Get Good Night’s Rest

According to a University of Pittsburgh study, Caucasian women who have higher levels of marital happiness also have lesser risk of having multiple sleep complaints (i.e., trouble falling asleep, fewer early morning awakenings, and more restful sleep) than unhappily married women. “Divorced individuals tend to have more sleep problems than those who are married; however, among the married, we know very little about how differences in marital quality may be linked with sleep,” said Dr. Troxel. “The present results show that happily married women have fewer sleep problems than unhappily married women.” No word on how single people sleep. [EurekAlert!] Keep reading »

For The Week Of June 9-15, 2008

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Go ahead and zone out. This won’t be one of those times that it’ll be too exciting or delicious to have to pay attention. Best to go into your own head and sort out the details of how you would like life to unfold, as better times are coming and it’s best you have a plan of action ready to go. Until then, make nice with your toys.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Your charm and elegance will be in top form to woo a crush from far away. However, like a ballet, for now you need to keep the illusion going by keeping him at an arm’s length. Once you build up the mystery, things will fall into order. However, proper choreography is necessary to slip all pieces in the right place.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

All your wishing and hoping comes to a halt. Finally, you’ll see some major action and green lights brightening up your life, propelling you far ahead of the competition. With so much momentum, this is your perfect time to drop the baggage weighing you down. Yes, some may see this move as ruthless and cold, but whatever, those losers will never be as success as you.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Trying to get in some quality time with your honey will be next to impossible. Seems no matter how you try, your schedules will repel each other. Thankfully, being the gal that you are, distance will make your heart grow fonder and your body hornier than a goat on E. By week’s end though, no matter what stands in your way, the forces of nature won’t be able to keep you apart.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Experience tells you all you need to know. Realize you have learned your lessons well enough to be an expert, so understand any repeat of the past will only make you out to be the dummy. As they say, “Fool you once, same on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” C’mon now darling, you’re way stronger and smarter than needing to be burned again.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Old loves die hard and that’s why it’s impossible to ever think you can go right into being friends with someone you’ve shared an intimacy with. Sure, you’re the sign of friendship and you have a special talent to remain aloof despite the most emotional tensions — but why torture yourself? Disappearing, even just momentarily, isn’t being weak, it’s being smart.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

When it comes to talking crap about your boyfriend, only you have that right. After all, you sleep with him and listen to his whining all day, right? Right. So, when certain members of your family start bombarding you with their opinions, know your rights. Of course, if you’re too tired to defend him because of the time you spend babying him, keep your ears open.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Your creative juices will be making you feel extra frisky and wild. Channel some of those kinky ideas into flirting with your baby and reviving the passion back to the days when love was so fresh and new that all other responsibilities, other than being with each other, felt inappropriate. If single, hit up prospects online. This brilliance will translate beautifully into literary genius.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

When it comes to trying to express your feelings and get them understood, it’ll feel as if you’re taking two steps forward then three steps back. The frustration will leave you so distraught, you’ll think of giving up — don’t. Patience is key to getting what you want, as the answers you want to hear are heavier that you can imagine and will take time to come out right.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Stop all that neurotic judging of yourself and really look at where you are. Your life is fine and you should be proud of the fantastic job you’ve done, getting yourself where you are — you’re a total prize. With that in mind, don’t say anymore to procure that someone into your clutches. If he has any clue or worth, he’ll know it’s his turn to sh*t or get off the pot.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Chances are you’re feeling trapped and only see a few viable options. However, this is all in your head. Seems you’re currently your own worst enemy, but only you can snap yourself out of this. Of course, hitting bottom is usually the only way for you to bounce back to the top — but make a note; you have only until the 19th to wallow. After that, you’ll have no more excuses

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Love is your drug. You’ll be OD-ing on the stuff so hard; you may have trouble keeping life balanced. As for friends, it won’t be so easy to chalk it off as jealousy. While some will be a bit green with envy, most of them won’t and will see what’s happening for what it is. Sure, you’re entitled, but c’mon, how old are we already? Return their calls and don’t flake on them.

Lying About Plastic Surgery Is Bad

A 38-year-old woman had an expensive laser procedure done to her face, but beforehand, she told her husband she was merely getting a facial. When he found out what a mega-big deal it was, he flipped out. The woman thought it was a harmless fib, but relationships expert Dr. Pam Spurr says even a little white lie isn’t good for a relationship. “What was really going on? She felt defensive about trying to hold back the hands of time, confiding that she didn’t want her husband to know how much she worried about facial lines. As if her husband wasn’t aging along with her!” See, what she really should have done was asked her husband whether he wanted his face worked on, too! [The Times, U.K.] Keep reading »

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