What’s a healthy sex life? Is it true that what’s good for some might not work for others? According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, couples should be having sex once a week, minimum. Kerner’s seeing what he calls an “epidemic” of sexless relationships and believes that things like social and economic stresses, health problems and the rise of internet porn are to blame. Reconnecting with your partner on a physical level helps reaffirm intimacy and rebuild connections. But! He says, sex isn’t just about connecting with your partner in an intimate way. It’s also great for reducing stress, boosting immunity and releasing pleasure chemicals called endorphins. Some other added benefits: steady sex helps boost confidence and has been shown to make people more successful at work.
So, does sex once a week sound like a good number to you? Too much? Too little? [CNN] Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Afraid of Slipping Up,” who was engaged to a man she adored, but had developed a crush on a colleague. After a few drinks at a work event, said colleague admitted he had feelings for her and tried to kiss her, prompting her to daydream about him incessantly over the next several weeks. After the jump, find out if she discovered a way to manage those daydreams or if she gave into temptation and got frisky with the work hottie. Keep reading »
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This map of non-monogamy makes me understand why so many people subscribe to monogamy
… it’s way less complicated. I am going to go study for my non-monogamy pop quiz now. Dan Savage
would be proud of me. [Tacit
] Keep reading »
There I was in the grocery, pressing the ends of a cantaloupe and sniffing it, trying to decide if it was ripe. Across the produce section, I spotted my landlord. I waved, a normal courtesy I extended the two times a year I happened upon him in real life. He left his cart, and came rushing towards me. As he came closer, I realized he was mad. “Why haven’t you paid your rent in four months?” he yelled.
I felt adrenaline surge through my body. What was he talking about? I always paid my rent. Never so much as a day late. Every month, a week before it was due, I wrote a check to my roommate and best friend, Leah*. Keep reading »