Category Archives: Relationships

Sassy sophisticated relationship advice for real women everywhere: dating advice, love advice, and more!

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Get A Second Date

The unholy trinity of Photoshop, spell check and the Internet mean that even the most illiterate, personality-deficient, hideous troll can land a first date, much to a lady’s disappointment. Landing a second date is the tricky bit, so when you realize you’d like to never see this guy again, there are some tried and true strategies to assure that he decides the first date is also the last. Keep reading »

The Ex Factor: Why It’s Silly To Be Jealous Of Past Girlfriends

The other day, I was telling some stupid story about something ridiculous that happened in college and since my ex-boyfriend was integral to the story, I mentioned that he was there. It gave me some pause because I realized that my exes come up a lot. I don’t think I’m unnaturally obsessed with them, but I’m also not going to sacrifice the punchline to a good story just because I’m scared it’s going to upset my current beau. (Also, I know he’s going to be okay with these mentions, because, duh, he realizes that I’m totally not hung up on these dudes.) Funny thing, though. My boy Andy rarely mentioned his ex-girlfriends. At most, he’ll be like, “Yeah, I’ve been to North Carolina. Asheville’s amazing.” And I have to say, “Who were you with, [insert name of one of his exes]?” Which he either confirms or denies, depending on his mood.

We’ve both hit the point that we know what’s in the past is in the past and not necessarily affecting what we have. But I do wonder if I should be more prudent about my hilarious ex-boyfriend stories. Because even though he doesn’t care, I’m sure he also doesn’t really want to know. Keep reading »

The Top Six Relationship Red Flags

Everyone has their faults…even relationship bloggers who are skilled and rational lovers (ahem, coupled with being a little neurotic). But when you’re with someone, it’s all about understanding and complimenting each other’s strengths and weakness. However, some things are flexible, some things are sticking points and some things are straight up warning signs. Even though it’s hard to keep your eyes open when all you feel is sex and love, turning a blind eye will bite you in the booty eventually. So no matter how in love you are, you gotta look out for red flags. Michael Snayerson wrote some for dudes that still totally apply for us ladies, from rudeness to waiters to dirty underwear. We love that he thinks a man should always offer to pay on the first date, although his aversion to eggs and ketchup may seem a little irrational. To tell our side, we’ve assembled some red flags that are visible even through the sex haze and should not be ignored! All the dirt, after the jump…

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Polyamory Gets A Guidebook

Shortbus, Swingtown, Kinsey, the media does a great job of making polyamory seem sexy. After all, who doesn’t want to get the most bang for their buck? Open relationships sound good in theory, are they really in practice? While most of us seem to have a hard enough time wrangling one man, could we juggle two or three or four? After a couple of seasons of polygamy portrayed in Big Love, we’ve all got curiosities, questions and secret desires. And thankfully Jenny Block has got public answers. A bisexual author, suburban wife and mother, Block has just written what is considered by the polyamorous community to be a ground-breaking autobiographical book Open: Love, Sex, and Life In An Open Marriage. Ms. Block loves her husband and their daughter, but she longed for more sex and wanted some of it to be with women. So, she and her husband decided to boldly go polyamorous and then talk about their experiences. Man, that sounds so healthy and slutty, a rare-ish combination. What’s their secret?! Guess there’s only one way to find out — make Open your required summer reading. [Huffington Post]
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Love Vandal: Look What The Dog Sniffed

[Photo by Emily Freeman]

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First Time For Everything: The Great Twentysomething Move-Out

As Erin already pointed out, there will be some point in your career as a twentysomething when someone will break your heart. There’s also a chance you’ll break someone’s heart. Either way, there’s a good chance that someone will be your roommate, making cutting ties an even bigger bitch than usual. Here are the dos and don’ts of breaking up with your live-in boyfriend from girls who’ve done it. Keep reading »

For The Week Of July 7-13, 2008

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Friends will be your raft to the promise land of good times and lots of booty. No matter how busy work gets or how unmotivated you feel, life is happening all round you and your friends are there to remind you of that fact. Even if you get pulled away kicking and screaming, trust by the end of the week, those screams will be stimulated by pleasure, not pain.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Your sweetie is no mind reader. If you want him to get a clue on the crap he’s slacking off on — in terms of his own life, not just your relationship, then you will have to take the Mom stance and give it to him straight. For optimum results, plan your attack for the 10th, as you’ll magically find the words that inspire rather than just nag.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Stop taking the passive role when it comes to matters of the heart. You know the power inside of you and the drive you have when the chips are down — consider this one of those times when you’ll need to climb from the ashes and claim your prize. Otherwise, you’ll only come across like a victim, and in your eyes, can there be anything worse?

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You’re the sign of morality and honesty. If someone is not able to be truthful, you take it as a sign of a weak character. You know you would never take on a friend that would behave shadily, so stop making excuses for a hot someone that looks the part, but can’t act it. If you were after something more superficial, then fine, but admit it, you never operate that trivially.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Romance will take your brain over and slip you into a one-track mind that has you thinking for two instead of just one. Don’t try to fight this loving feeling, as most people would kill to be in your situation — cozy enough with someone worthy of your gushy thoughts. Sure, you might be out of your element, but as you’ll soon find out, this one will also fit you like a glove.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Time to make decisions, pros and con lists and all round judging of your life. Whether you’re single or attached, habits need switching and there’s no time to waste. Stop blaming the world for your past decisions and realize nothing is permanent. If you try to rationalize your unsatisfactory outlook anymore, you’ll only be digging deeper into dismalness.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Opinions from your family only make you want to do the opposite, making this one of those weeks when you’ll say too much to the one your with, which can cause some minor upheavals as those confessed feelings are driven more by rebellion than honesty. Sure, you can try to fight fate, but sometimes it’s easier to get out of trouble by messing up than standing up.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

It’s one thing to be curious, it’s another thing to ask questions to instigate gossip and rumors. Sure, life is a bit dull right now, but starting trouble is not the way to rock your world. Rather, to put yourself to good use, start planning a redo of your place and bring out your nesting instinct. It in turn will reveal your softer side and attract energy back that’s more sweet than sour.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Keep discussions light when it comes to anything dealing with love. If you try to force something deeper before it’s time, it’ll only kill the steady stride you are on now. This is the time to flirt, share comedic, yet endearing, jabs and things that are all about fun. If you don’t spend your week laughing, rethink your crush.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You know it’s wrong to create tests for prospects to pass, but in your chaotic life, you need some structure. Sure, it’s like a trap, and with your rules, typically no one could ever win. However, this week, there’s one way someone can take home the prize — a little bribery. Yes, amazing what a little green can do, especially in light of your record for dating so many broke ass losers.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Unless you’re with a psycho, no person is going to be upfront about every little detail of their past. No matter how healthy your relationship, there are always going to be secrets. So, while your paranoia starts to get you hot under the collar, redirect it towards something more productive — like other oral fixations. Besides, would you want to reveal all your skeletons?

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

This week, your critical meter will be raging at abnormal proportions and the cat claws will be out. Your patience will be worn thin, but oddly enough this berating routine of yours will build into a bizarre foreplay act that’ll have someone eating out of the palm of your hand soon enough. However, think of this encounter more like an appetizer, rather than the entrée.

Bring On The Summer Lovin’

Friday marked the sweet 16th Anniversary of my first kiss — conveniently also on Independence Day. I thought it was going to go down just like DJ Tanner and Steve on Full House. In my case, the poor kid licked my face and then ran back to the boy’s side of my sleep away camp. I’d never seen a fat kid run so fast. But I also found out two key things over the summer make-out session: 1. Practice makes perfect. 2. Spring may have its flings, but in summer, things really heat up. We all want to be naked, we’re already warmed up, and everyone is out and about, strutting their stuff and bumping into strangers. It’s a booty buffet and this summer is already looking pretty steamy! Have you ladies been putting the ho in hot too? Confess in the comments…
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The Top Ten Best Things About Being Single & Independent

In honor of Independence Day, we asked around for the best things about being single and independent. Here’s the top ten!

“Kissing total strangers when you’re out at bars or on dance floors. No names, no numbers exchanged, just random frenching.” — Sonia
“Ahh, guiltless, shameless flirting with strangers.” — Jocelyn

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Craigslist Couch Is Start Of Marriage

If you are trying to occupy yourself at work (only four more hours until 5 p.m.), I recommend you read this cute story. It’s about a man who met his wife on Craigslist, and not in the “casual encounters” section. Chris Ayres sold his couch to a woman named Lucie, and today they’re married and have a kid. [The Times, U.K.] Keep reading »

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