Category Archives: Relationships

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Dear Wendy: “Am I Wrong For Hooking Up With My Friend’s Ex?”

I’ve recently developed feelings for one of my friend’s ex-boyfriends. Throughout their whole relationship she lied to him and cheated multiple times. I saw him at his most vulnerable and he would confide in me when things with them were rough. He and I became really good friends throughout the whole thing and everyone expected we both had a thing for each other. Though they broke up and he moved back to a city 10 hours away from me, he and I have stayed friends for two years now. Recently, he came up to visit and we unexpectedly hooked up … three times. Both of us admitted our feelings for each other after all this time. Now I’m conflicted. Did I break a girl code hooking up with him even though he and my friend broke up over a year ago, she is now currently living with her new boyfriend, and she treated him badly? He and I have both admitted we want to see each other again and maybe even try and give a relationship a shot. How/when should I tell her about us and is it a bad idea to pursue anything with the guy I could see myself falling in love with but who my friend still has a dibs on because of a stupid girl code? — Wanting What I Can’t Have

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How To Find Mr. Right

So many of the women I meet in their 30s who are successful, interesting and accomplished find themselves alone. They have friends. They have social skills and they are desirable. But the whole dating drama has them in a tizzy. Often their primary strategies for meeting potential mates include: internet dating, going to parties and bars with friends or getting fixed up with people who come recommended, but so often these attempts end with high expectations and disappointment. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “How Can I Tell My Sister Her Relationship Is Doomed?”

How do I tell my sister that she’s not going to get what she ultimately wants out of her boyfriend? My sister has been dating a very good guy for over two years, and I know she wants him to be her husband and the father of her children. However, there are some roadblocks. They have different takes on religion (she is a Christian, and hopes he’ll become one), marriage (he’s not sure he “believes” in it and she’s been planning her wedding since she was 12), and whether to have biological children or adopt (he wants to adopt). In addition to these serious clashes in life philosophy/goals, she often feels like he places more importance on his work than on his relationship with her. He IS a really good guy, and she is happy with him, but I think she’s deluding herself into believing that she can change him. I think it may be worth being honest with her — if I can help her see that this isn’t the best she can do, it could save her time and make the heartbreak a little less severe. At the same time, my own relationship is verging on perfect, and my boyfriend and I have values/goals that are very much in sync, so I don’t want to come off as condescending or braggy when I approach her about this (she has gotten envious in the past). How can I be honest without really hurting her? — Leery Little Sister

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Dear Wendy: “My Husband Smacks His Food And It Drives Me Bonkers”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss living with bad table manners, whether it’s appropriate to apologize to a long-lost love interest, and making the first move. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Went To My Ex-Boyfriend’s Wedding

I knew what it was as soon as I opened my mailbox. I picked up the large envelope addressed in lovely calligraphy to Ms. Ami Angelowicz. I held it in my hand, for a moment. It felt heavy. I tossed it on my kitchen table. I’ll open it later, I thought. I’m not quite ready to deal with this. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Lucky In Love But Not In Money” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Lucky in Love But Not In Money” who was saving for a house and felt resentful that her friends only invited her to participate in pricey activities even after they skipped out on throwing her a bridal shower and bachelorette party for her recent marriage and didn’t spend enough on her for her wedding. After the jump, she shares a few words … Keep reading »

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