Category Archives: Relationships

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“Black Marriage Negotiations” Video Perpetuates Stereotypes About Black Women

Want a low-budget way to draw attention to your website with minimal effort on your part? It’s easy — be wildly offensive. A website called PhilosoG’s is behind this “Black Marriage Negotiations” video that slaps down black women and tells ‘em they wouldn’t be single if they weren’t so damn difficult. Keep reading »

Dater X: I’m Rewriting My Story

Last week, I came at you with the most depressing “Dater X” ever. I was feeling sad, and lonely, not to mention disappointed after realizing that Brown Eyes and I don’t have relationship potential after all. As I pressed send on that last column, I asked myself a question: Would you rather have met someone a few months after your last long-term relationship ended, and not have done the dating life for the past few years?

My first answer was: Duh, of course! But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that wasn’t actually true. I’ve learned a whole freaking lot in the past few years as a single woman—about myself, about people, and about the nature of relationships. I wouldn’t give that up. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Lost My Boyfriend But Gained A Best Friend

“I know what you want and I just can’t give it to you.” My boyfriend of seven months, Jonathan*, started to cry before I could ask any questions. For some reason seeing a man cry immobilizes me. I don’t know what to do. I decided to comfort him. I put my arms around him, squeezing into my tiny love seat to sit next to him. I took his pizza slice and put it in the kitchen. I got him a box of Kleenex. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “What Should I Do With My Engagement Ring?”

A little over a year ago, I was engaged to a douche of a guy. He lied to me, took me for granted, cheated, and generally treated me terribly for the 2.5 years we were together. When he broke off the engagement, he began to freak out about how he had messed things up and how guilty he felt, and this threw him into a period of extreme instability. He was so emotionally sensitive that I didn’t dare try to offer the ring back. He was absolutely destroyed when I tried to give him his house key back, so I was afraid to try to offer back something as emotionally loaded as the engagement ring. Now, this ring was, of course, very cheap. We’re talking approximately $100 cheap. I have no interest whatsoever in keeping this ring. He has now calmed down and moved on, and I have moved on, and I want to get rid of this ring. It is just sitting in a box in a drawer and I want it gone. Would it be out of line to try to give it back after all this time? There’s no chance I’ll be able to sell it for anything much (pretty worthless), I can’t think of anyone I want to give it to, and I just can’t keep it anymore. What do I do? — Ring Around the Roses

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If A Guy Cheats, Guess Who’s To Blame? You.

Shanae Hall is like that wise friend you have who cuts through all your whining and obsessing to tell you exactly what you’d been avoiding telling yourself.

Not only is she an ex-NFL wife (of the Falcons’ Corey Hall), she’s also the co-author of the book Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man?, a book about dating, spoiled guys and our responsibilities as women in relationships. We were lucky enough to spend a few minutes picking Shanae’s brain … and, of course, we asked her about Favregate. Read more Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Friend Dumped Me And I Want Her Back”

I’m a senior in college and last year, my friends Angela and Rachel and I lived together and it was a disaster. Angela and I fought a lot as we’re both stubborn and I was depressed after a death in my family so I lashed out a bit. Since then, I’ve spent time dealing with my issues and am in a different place now and I’ve apologized to both my former roommates. But, Angela is still living with Rachel and one day, four months after our last argument, she decided that all the events that transpired were worth cutting me out of both their lives. She stopped taking my calls and answering my texts, (gasp!) deleted me and blocked my profile on Facebook, and constantly hounds Rachel to stop hanging out with me (even though we have classes together), giving her hell if I’m invited over or if she comes over to my apartment. Angela, in the small bit of contact I have had with her, says that no matter how different I think I am now, it doesn’t dissolve the past and she’s tired of fighting, which I would understand if things hadn’t been fine for four months. I’m really good friends with my current roommate and I have other friends, but I still get really lonely. Both of my best friends are gone and I guess I’m just wondering: what do I do next? Should I try apologizing again? Should I give it up and keep myself busy enough to not think about it? –– Three’s Company

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