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Dear Wendy Updates: “Teaching Class” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Teaching Class,” a young teacher who worries that another young teacher in her school was making a fool of herself by acting too quirky. “Part of me wants to go and have a gentle conversation with ‘Jane’ about professionalism, especially since I think it is hurting her relationship with her students in addition to staff, but I wouldn’t know what to say.” I advised “Teaching Class” to let a supervisor be the one to talk professionalism with Jane, and instead, seek out her friendship if she was so inclined. After the jump, find out if she followed that advice. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My First Love Died

I was on a date with my boyfriend of six months. But after we purchased popcorn, took our seats, and held hands watching “Dark Knight,” I couldn’t help but think of Luc, my ex, during the film. Something about Heath Ledger’s character reminded me of him—the lip-smacking attitude of too much Xanax. Sometimes I guiltily tried to measure how much I thought about Luc. Was it once a day? Once a week?

Back home with our shoes off and phones switched on, my boyfriend saw that I had a voicemail. It was from my mom. I watched him listen to the message, my heart quickening.

“Luc died,” he said. Keep reading »

Introducing: “Guess The Publication”

I’m going to introduce a new little game around here. Let’s call it: “Guess the Publication.” I’ll post a quote and you guess which major print or online publication it’s pulled from. Sound fun? Good. Here’s the first one:

“A woman needs to come up with a workable routine for maintaining her looks throughout her lifetime and avoid rationalizing slacking off— while she’s seeking a man and after she has one. Yeah, you might have to put five or ten extra minutes into prettying up just to hang around the house. And, sure, you might be more ‘comfortable’ in big sloppy sweats, but how ‘comfortable’ will you be if he leaves you for a woman who cares enough to look hot for him?”

Your choices: A. Marie Claire B. Cosmopolitan C. Psychology Today D. The Atlantic. Find out the answer after the jump. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: The Two-Night Stand

I met Elliot* at a restaurant. I was sitting at a table having dinner with a friend when I saw him sipping a bourbon at the bar. My palms got a little clammy, my jaw dropped slightly, and I may have even audibly gasped. “Hottest. Dude. Ever,” I announced to my friend. My mouth started to salivate. He was dreamy.

“Where?” my friend asked.

“There. At the bar,” I said. “The one with the facial hair and the scarf around his neck. The one who is obviously the sexiest guy this place has ever seen.” He was good-looking in the way that would make even the most poised woman act like a horny teenage boy, stopping to do a double and triple take and choke back a catcall. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Should I Marry For Health Insurance?”

I was laid off about a year and a half ago and have been without health care since that time. For the most part, that’s OK because I am not sick often. I do, however, have adult ADHD and it is incredibly difficult to function or keep myself organized without my medication. I also have continuous problems with UTIs and am now having pain in my kidneys. I’ve done mass quantities of research and every option is either out of my price range or literally will take days of waiting in different lines and being screened by social workers before I am even able to see a doctor (for the UTI). The ADHD actually requires going to another city where my college doctor is, convincing him to see me for free and then write me a prescription which I then send to a specific pharmaceutical company who will decide if I am deserving of free medication. There is one other option that could possibly work, but it is one that makes me very sad. I could secretly wed my fiancé and then get on his health insurance. We are supposed to be married in about a year, but if we went to a court we could be married as soon as this weekend. The whole idea of that breaks my heart; I love him so much that I don’t want to hide being married to him. I also don’t want to get married without our families there. I am so conflicted. Should I just suck it up and spend the days and the miles running around trying to get the help I need or secretly wed my husband-to-be and make it easy to see a doctor? — In Sickness and In Health

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28 Ways To Stop Yourself From Having A Cheap One-Night Stand

I’ve read so much advice about not just hopping into bed with men—about how you should make yourself as exclusive as a luxury brand, and how holding out makes him commit. While normally I’d insert an eye roll here, I’m finally a broken slut. Why? Courtney Love said she doesn’t do one-night stands. She, a woman whose daughter divorced her, said she is too sensitive to just hit and run on guys. That there guitar is the only thing she’ll hump without being bought dinner first! Wow. Color me shocked. Sheesh, maybe I better slow my roll. I definitely don’t want to be out-partying a woman who started a band called Hole! [Yahoo UK]

So, to help sluts like myself stop opening our legs for business after hours, I’ve come up with a handy-dandy list of reasons to avoid one night of sexy times with a stranger. The vag you save may be your own.
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