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Dear Wendy: “When’s The Best Time To Discuss STDs?”

After getting dumped by my boyfriend of five years (and some time to get over that), I’ve recently re-entered the dating world. So far it’s a lot like I remember it to be; however, the only difference is that this time I’m not a virgin, and neither are most of the people I’ve been out with. And while I’m not quite ready to leap into bed with anyone, I’m becoming increasingly confused about the appropriate time to broach the subject of getting tested for STDs. Is there a way to bring up the topic without being offensive? I feel like I’m being a bit of a prude here, but after working for a college health center for a few years, and seeing the damage that STDs can do, I’m just not interested in putting my health at risk, even in the name of love. — Cleared for Takeoff

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I Don’t Always Wear My Wedding Ring

I’m back from a girlfriend getaway in paradise. Traveling with a best friend off the beaten path awakened joy in me and soothed my soul, but it also left me wondering: Why can’t I capture that sense of fun and wonder in everyday life? Why do I feel so stuck here in Boston, yet I was free as a bird in Mexico?

One idea: I took off my wedding ring while traveling. I think my naked ring finger gave rise to more open responses and deeper interactions than I would have otherwise experienced. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Girlfriend Lets Her Friends Take Advantage Of Her”

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about two and a half years. The one problem I have is with my girlfriend’s friends and how they handle money. From everything I know, everyone is on pretty similar pay levels, but her friends always seem to be short on cash when they do stuff together. My girlfriend always covers everything, whether it’s drinks, dinners, or tickets to events, and gets defensive when I ask about it and says “it’s just a couple dollars between friends.” Recently, I’ve been getting short-changed by them, too. They will invite us out to a fancy restaurant, order up a storm of appetizers and bottles of wine, while I’m content with my single entrée and beverage, and then when the bill comes, they’ll suggest we split everything evenly, and then when it comes time to pay, what they’ve put in is about half of what their evenly divided portion should have been. I’ll offer to pay the remainder to avoid an issue, but it leaves me peeved. I can cover these financial indiscretions without problem since I’m better off financially than most in the group, but my girlfriend is saving up for a big trip soon, and can never seem to get out of debt, yet is still always paying for her friends and is mortally embarrassed when I threaten to call them out on it. Also, if I’m thinking about a long-term future with her, I’m afraid to have joint finances if she can’t seem to manage her own. — Need a Bail Out

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Would You Rather Get Dumped Or Dump Someone?

At some point, most of us reach a point where we’ve been dumped and dumped someone. Generally, I think people tend to fall into one camp or the other. Personally, I tend to prefer to let the other person do the dumping — color me passive-aggressive! — but in a few cases I’ve done the dumping. There is only one thing to be said about getting dumped: It sucks. Doing the dumping, on the other hand, I’ve found, is a bit more of a grab bag. In a way, it’s better, because you’re the one calling the shots, and I think dumping someone tends to leave the dumper feeling less, well, victimized. On the other hand, if you’re going to end a relationship, you better be damn sure you’re sure about that. Being the dumper entails greater responsibility. So, are you more often a dumper or a dumpee? Do you think one is easier than the other? What do you think is the best way to dump someone and to get dumped — or is that like asking what’s the best way to fall on your head? Tell us, Frisky readers, in the comments. Keep reading »

10 Subtle Ways To Make The First Move

Happy Sadie Hawkins Day! Sadly, I never attended any of the Sadie Hawkins dances in high school. Why? I am a complete failure at asking guys out … and I had no game back in high school. But I digress. Anyhow, what I have become a total winner at is dropping subtle hints to let a guy know I’m interested. If he takes the bait, then I know he’s down. After the jump, some foolproof tips for making the first move this Sadie Hawkins Day. Keep reading »

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