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Girl Talk: Why I Wouldn’t Celebrate Thanksgiving If I Had The Choice

For the last couple of weeks, everyone I’ve engaged in simple, small talk with has asked me one question: “Are you looking forward to Thanksgiving Day?” I just give them a shrug and a tilt of the head, thinking, I’m looking forward to the days off, but I really couldn’t give a crap about actual Thanksgiving traditions. Yeah, I know it’s the time of year when I’m supposed to reflect on how thankful I am, but really, how many people actually do that? Not only that, but I’m not a big fan of Thanksgiving foods, and as a child of divorce, I have to eat two dinners worth of it every year. So given the choice, I’d sit at home watching a reality TV marathon instead of celebrating Thanksgiving Day. I’ll keep my days off, though. Keep reading »

Girl On Girl: How To Avoid Difficult Topics At Thanksgiving And Stuff Your Face In Peace

I spend most of Thanksgiving milling around an overheated room holding a glass of wine and making conversation with aunts, great aunts, second cousins, third cousins, fourth cousins twice removed and the great uncle of the neighbor down the street. At this year’s turkey-chomping fiesta, only about one in 10 of the people in the room will be unaware that I’m gay.

Normally, I’m totally down to talk about my sexuality (read: overshare). But I’ve been working 50-hour weeks, freelancing in the evenings and trying to use whatever spare time I have to keep myself in shape. In other words, I really, really need a vacation. And during that vacation, I do not want to broach difficult topics—such as why I’m gay or who I’m seeing. I want to scarf down gravy-smothered turkey, eat mashed potatoes, drink red wine and go to bed early. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Afraid To Tell My New Boyfriend I Practice Abstinence”

I’ve been seeing this guy for a bit now. The only thing we’ve done is kissing (no touching) and I’ve never invited him over to my apartment (for fear of him initiating sexual activities). I like him a lot and I see a potential relationship with him. However, I made a decision to abstain from sexual relationships due to my religion, but also I just don’t think I’m ready to be sexually intimate. I’m not sure if I I’d like to remain abstinent until marriage yet, but I definitely couldn’t be intimate with someone after only a couple of months. I’m afraid that when we finally discuss this he will leave, but at the same time I think there is a need to address it. I’m just not sure how to bring it up or when it would be appropriate. I’m 20 years old and he is 26. I was brought up in a very conservative country and he is more liberal. He recently moved to NYC (four hours away) for a job offer, but he comes back every weekend or so since he still has an apartment here. He has asked me to go visit him next weekend, but I’m afraid about sleeping arrangements so I haven’t said yes. — Not Willing to Give It Up

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A Lot Of You Guys Break Up Over IM

Seeing as the first Monday in December is the most likely day to be dumped, we thought we’d provide a handy infographic for you on how you might get your heart broken. The most surprising thing? Vast numbers of couples break up with each other over IM — especially in the under-25 set. I mean, really? That’s a thing that people do? CRAZY. [Buzzfeed] Keep reading »

My Difficult Relatives And How I Will Deal With Them This Thanksgiving

Ah, Thanksgiving. When you’re a kid it’s all about the mashed potatoes and pumpkin pie. When you’re an adult, it’s all about rude inquisitions from your nosy aunts and your dad getting horrifically, embarassingly wasted. I don’t know anything about stuffing a bird or making a perfect cranberry sauce. But I do know a thing or two about dealing with family, seeing as I have a huge, colorful one. Gather ’round, children, and take in my wisdom from awkward family holidays past! (Also, I’m a full-blooded WASP, so take my stiff-upper-lip swamp Yankee suggestions with a grain of salt. Maybe in other parts of the country, you solve problems differently!) Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Don’t Want To End Up Alone”

I’m a 21-year-old girl who can’t seem to find happiness. Don’t get me wrong; I love hanging out with my friends and having an active social life, but I just can’t seem to find someone who wants to be with me. I feel as if I’m worthless because any guy I’m remotely interested in would rather just be a friend, or wants to be with one of my friends. I have never had a boyfriend in my life, only close guy friends. I’m not the most physically fit, but I feel as though I have an amazing personality due to the fact that I have a big social network, and people usually love my company. I know it’s something that shouldn’t be rushed, but I’m getting to the point where giving up is my only option. I try to put myself out there but, but I feel as if because of my looks nobody wants to actually love me. My biggest fear is that I will end up alone for the rest of my life, and let down my family. I’m tired of being cupid, and only wish that somebody would realize I need a cupid too. — Lonely

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