Category Archives: Relationships

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Do You Keep Tokens From Exes Or Toss ‘Em Immediately?

When you and a partner break up, do you immediately dump everything that reminds you of him, or do you let stuff linger around? Post-breakup messes are handled differently by everyone. For me, I’d rather have a clean slate and I’ll typically get rid of anything and everything that reminds of me of my ex. I’ll throw items away, or stick them someplace where I won’t have to look at them for a really long time and generally try to “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” my life. I realize not everyone’s the same though — and that’s where the Museum of Broken Relationships comes in. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Why Does My Success Send Men Running Scared?

The other day, a guy I have been dating for the last month or so told me — via IM — “you’re a girl with great skin, and I’m a guy with pimples.” He dreamt up this metaphor as a way of explaining some emotional turmoil he had been feeling that I, apparently, had inadvertently set in motion. For so long, he had felt so “together,” but since meeting me, he “didn’t like the person he saw in the mirror.” And, just in case I didn’t get the original metaphor, “pimples = issues.”

Sigh. While I don’t think I’m being bulls**tted, I do think this is bulls**t. Keep reading »

Could You Find True Love With A Columbia Student? DateMySchool Thinks So

Of all the arbitrary ways online dating sites seek to play matchmaker — pairing together Jews, bookworms, music fans, French bikers, or female inmates — the premise of DateMySchool.com is no better or worse. DateMySchool claims to “facilitate meeting of students from different departments within the same school and between different universities” by only allowing singles to join through their verified school emails. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My New Husband Refuses To Sleep With Me”

I am a young woman in my mid-20s. I started dating my husband when I was 18. We were in a long-distance relationship, but decided to get married this year, and I left the U.S. to be with him. Before we were married, we had a great sex life. Now that I am here, he says he isn’t sexually attracted to me anymore. This may be understandable if I’d gained a lot of weight or my appearance had changed dramatically, but it hasn’t. (I actually LOST nearly 100 lbs. a few years ago). At first, he thought that that he didn’t love me anymore, but we’ve talked extensively about it and he says he does love me, but not sexually … he loves me like a family member, etc. He claims not to be attracted to any other women. For the record, he has extensive anxiety issues, as well as being overweight, etc. We’ve talked to his doctor, who suggests both counseling and testing to see if he has physical problems. He refuses both of these. I love him more than anything and I gave up everything to be with him, but I’ve become extremely depressed and discouraged, being so far from friends or family, with a husband who doesn’t seem to want to be a husband. I try to hide this from everyone, since my husband has already suggested that I would be happier elsewhere and I don’t want my family and friends to worry about something they have no control over. Help me save our marriage! — Sexless Bride

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20 Things Couples Should Do Before They Get Married

In the last two weeks, we’ve discussed 20 things couples should do before they move in together as well as 20 things they should do after they move in together. So, it seemed appropriate to discuss the next step for a lot of those couples: marriage. Specifically, what couples should do before they get married, which shouldn’t be confused with what every woman should do before she gets married. After the jump, 20 things you and your significant other should do together before getting hitched. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Sudden Shock” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Sudden Shock,” who wanted to know what she could do to salvage her relationship after her boyfriend of two weeks suddenly dumped her. After the jump, find out if she’s managed to move on yet or not. Keep reading »

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