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What Are Your Christmas Traditions?

This year, for only the second time ever, I’ll be missing Christmas with my family. My parents live in Germany and my husband and I decided to save our vacation time and travel budget and stay home in New York this year. I’m definitely sad to be missing my family, especially since I saw them only a total of three days this whole year, but considering all the weather-related travel snafus in Europe right now, it’s probably for the best we decided to stay put. So, since this is my first-ever Christmas in NYC — and my first with just my husband and me — we’re thinking about new traditions we can start as our own little family unit. Since Drew, my husband, is Jewish, we’ll probably honor his tradition of Chinese food and a movie either on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. And if I can get my act together, I’ll roast a chicken and make some trimmings for a nice dinner. Any other suggestions for making the holiday feel more festive? What kind of traditions do you and your family have? Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Should I Let My Family’s Bigotry Ruin My Relationship?”

After several years of being contently single, I have met the most amazing man. He is smart, career driven, attentive, and we have a ton in common. While our relationship is new, and we aren’t rushing into anything, I feel that there is potential for something serious to develop. There’s just one problem — I’m white and he’s black, and while it doesn’t bother me in the least, my family is very conservative and they don’t believe in interracial dating. I am from a small town in a southern state and interracial dating is fairly uncommon here, and there are still prejudices about such things. I know that my family would adore him as much as I do if they could only look past his skin color and see him for the amazing person he is. The problem is that I don’t think that they will ever be able to do that. I feel torn between pursuing a relationship which I think could be serious, and pleasing my family. There is a possibility that some members of my family will never speak to me again, but I’m afraid that if I don’t give him a chance I may always wonder what could’ve been. I know that it’s a little early in the game for me to be thinking of choosing between a man and my family, but I am stressed out thinking about how to break the news to them. I could use any advice about how to tell them or how to know if a relationship is worth disappointing my family. — Stressed Out and Color Blind

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Girl Talk: I Want An Arranged Marriage

Indian weddings are beautiful. I missed my sister’s by just a few days. I couldn’t make up my mind whether to join her and her Canadian boyfriend in Goa, where I could complete my yoga training certificate in a country where men significantly outnumber women, or to stay home in the Brooklyn apartment I shared with four equally unemployed strangers, and where I was without a car, a boyfriend, or a shred of hope. I had to weigh my options, so I was a bit delayed.

That’s how I missed Leky’s lavish Hindu puja ceremony, where she wed a guy she had actually met years ago at a Buddhist monastery, and who she had run into again by chance half a decade later while she was tooling around India.

Their love is a beautiful story. Mine, not so much. Keep reading »

6 Dating Resolutions For 2011

The end of 2010 is but a few days away and I’m doing some reflecting on what the last year has been like for my love life. I didn’t have a boyfriend. The longest I dated someone was for, oh, a month and a half. I had some sex. I had some more sex. I online dated. I finally, finally scored with not one, but TWO people whom I had crushed on for years. All in all, Amelia’s year in hookups was a grand old time — and I also learned what I DON’T want to do in 2011. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Insecure Mess” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Insecure Mess” who wrote in a year ago about feeling like she didn’t deserve her boyfriend of one year because he was so normal while she had so many issues. “I’m constantly thinking that he doesn’t love me, isn’t attracted to me, and is just dating me until he finds someone better. My boyfriend has never given me any reason to feel this way; therefore, I don’t think these feelings are rational at all,” she wrote. After the jump, find out how she’s doing today and get some info that may be of value to you too. Keep reading »

“Best” Pickup Lines Revealed

The dating site badoo.com studied the pickup lines in nearly 200,000 online dating introductions and discovered what lines are most successful for women of different nationalities. If a woman is British, a man is apparently better off complimenting her legs, while Italian, French, American and Brazilian women want to be told they “dress beautifully.” Spanish and South American ladies like to have their hair praised, while German and Canadian gals appreciate compliments about their skin. Oddly, the line that works best on Dutch and Portuguese women? “You have beautiful ears.” Seriously? I’d have put that one in the camp of worst pickup lines, for sure! The line that was found to get the most response from women as a whole: “You have beautiful lips.” Huh, if that was a guy’s opening line to me before we’d even met face-to-face, there would never be a first date. [via Telegraph]
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