Category Archives: Relationships

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend’s Ex Is Accusing Me Of Identity Theft”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss identity theft, roommate drama, and taking a friendship off life support. Keep reading »

My Therapist Is My Second Husband

“Aaron misses you and can’t live without you,” was Dr. W’s first line at our first session.

I turned to my handsome, curly haired off-and-on beau of six years, sitting beside me on the couch of Dr. W’s office. I’d left Aaron because he couldn’t commit. Yet after three months apart, he coerced me to a couples session with his new therapist, Dr. W, “just for closure.”

“He’s so happy you could make it here today,” Dr. W added.

“And who are you, Cyrano de Bergerac?” I asked. Read more Keep reading »

Can Facebook Ruin A Marriage?

Reverend Cedric Miller, of Neptune, New Jersey, made headlines this week for demanding that his married church leaders stay off Facebook because he thinks it leads to infidelity. The reverend says he has counseled 20 couples in his congregation, at the Living Word Christian Fellowship Church, who are having marital problems because of the social networking site and thinks married folks should just delete their accounts. He explained his theory on the phenomenon to the Associated Press as such: “What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups. The temptation is just too great.” Keep reading »

Is Marriage Becoming Obsolete?

In a recent study of 2,691 adults, conducted by social scientists at the Pew Research Center, four in 10 Americans said they believe marriage is becoming obsolete. In 1978, only three out of 10 had the same belief. It would seem in that time, marriage has declined:

“In 1960, 68 percent of American twenty-somethings were married. By 2008, 26 percent were. Among adults of all ages, 72 percent were married in 1960, compared with just over half — 52 percent — in 2008, according to the Pew research.”

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Dear Wendy: “My Ex Hit Me And Now He Wants Me Back”

I started a long-distance (1,500 miles apart) relationship with a wonderful man in August of last year. Things were going great, but suddenly took a turn for the worse in January when he was diagnosed with cancer. I was able to take two semesters off from school to go be his caregiver. We continued to build our relationship and he constantly expressed his gratitude for my being there. Unfortunately, about a month into his treatment, he started to become verbally abusive, and began to pick fights. Months went by, and threats of hitting me turned into actually hitting me, on two occasions. I reached out to his family and friends for support, but he told them I was a crazy liar. I begged him to see a therapist, or to talk to his doctor about the medications and steroids he was on, but he refused. When he was done his last round of chemo and in remission, I ended the relationship, packed my bags and went home. We have stayed in contact, and he surprised me last weekend by driving out to visit me. He spent a few days at my apartment, and was once again the man I fell in love with. He told me that he’d told his family about the abuse, that he loved me, and that he wants to get back together. My friends think I should cut all contact with him, and that he lost his chance to be with me once he hit me. I think his behavior was caused by the drugs and steroids he was on, so my decision isn’t easy. Is it really as cut-and-dry as my friends think, or can I give him a second chance? — Abused Caregiver

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10 Tips For Surviving A Bad Day

Happy Have A Bad Day Day! I realize that doesn’t sound like a nice thing to say, but I’m looking out for your own good. You’re going to have a crappy day today. Don’t worry, I am too, but be happy that it’s Friday and if things aren’t going your way, I’ve got ten surefire tips for surviving a bad day. And don’t worry, the sun will come out tomorrow. You can bet your bottom dollar on it. Keep reading »

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