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Reader Valentine’s Day Sob Story: A Garbage Disposal Eruption

Valentine’s Day is probably the most emotionally charged day of the year — and we’re not just talking about lovey-dovey feelings (though there is a lot of that). To celebrate cupid’s special day, we’re posting your stories about your best and worst Valentine’s Days. To submit, just email by Monday, Feb. 9, and include “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject.

After the jump, Kirsten tells how her garbage disposal ruined Valentine’s Day for her and a repairman’s wife. Keep reading »

Love Vandal: A Pessimist’s Point Of View

[Photo: Heather Letzkus]

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

Cheating For The Kids

I thought I had heard every excuse for cheating — it’s payback, my needs aren’t being met, I was drunk, etc. — but this excuse takes the cake. A woman revealed to an acquaintance that she is cheating for her kids. Yep, you read that right. She’s not planning on staying in her marriage, so she’s trying to find a daddy replacement for her children before kicking their jerky father to curb. Keep reading »

Sex & The Show-Me State: The Arrival

I am not used to being pursued by men. This is not to say it’s never happened, but the eight and a half years I lived in New York can best be described as an incredibly long dry spell interrupted by too many bad first dates, as many one-night stands, and one seriously flawed serious relationship.

While I know some of the fault lies in my refusal to date actors, bad spellers, or men who work in finance, my sister and I joke that in New York I was fat and average, but in Kansas City I’m hot. Not that there aren’t plenty of attractive women in the Midwest, but New York is a city full of models, actresses, and hundreds of thousands of women who look like models and actresses. Going out in New York in our size-10 jeans, my sister and I concluded after her first visit, was like going to a gay bar anywhere else in the country. Keep reading »

Tell Us Your Valentine’s Day Sob (Or Love) Story

I don’t know about you, but I usually spend Feb. 14 either in a fight with a boy or sulking at home. Valentine’s Day might be the most emotionally charged day of the year, and we are dying to hear about how you’ve spent it over the years (not only because misery loves company — we also still want to believe in love). Over the next couple weeks, we’ll be sharing readers’ stories about wonderful, lovey-dovey, jealousy-inducing Valentine’s Days, as well as V-Days that are so heartbreaking they’re sure to inspire a country song. So, send us your tales — but keep them to 500 words or less, please — and we’ll pick a few of our favorites to post. To submit, just email by Monday, Feb. 9, and include either “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject. Keep reading »

Girl Code: Sometimes You’ve Got To Mind Your Own Business

When my friend Stephanie was out to dinner the other night, she saw a young, twentysomething couple having dinner together at a table near hers. When the woman got up to go to the restroom, the woman’s boyfriend/husband, grabbed her phone and began searching through it, in an obviously suspicious way. Stephanie said she felt super guilty for not having said anything to the woman when she returned; that not letting her know that her man was spying on her and checking her call logs was a violation of girl code. I disagree. While I think women should look out for each other — hell, I think people should look out for each other — sometimes I think girl code treads too much into “none of your business” territory. Keep reading »

Does A Big Chin Equal A Big Cheater?

If you think it’s obvious why most men aren’t exactly lining up to date Rumer Willis, think again. According to a new study it may not be just because they find that big chin unattractive. Researchers say a prominent chin can be a “telltale sign that a woman will be unfaithful.” Hmm, can someone say Claire Danes? Perhaps, Hillary Swank? Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: Horrendous Tattoos

I’ll admit it, I think tattoos are dead sexy. There is no better conversation starter than that little sliver of ink peeking out from under a shirt sleeve or some surprise artwork on a half-naked dude, but like many women I’m less inclined to get all hot and bothered when the ink in question is, say, a thicket of barbed wire or that little dragon from Mariokart. Keep reading »

For The Week Of February 2-8, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You can’t be everything to everybody and even if you could, would you really want to? No. People are ungrateful and you’d be wasting your time. For now, this is the slogan and this is the reason why you need to put those efforts back into yourself. Work up a sweat at the gym, as it’ll be the best and only place you’ll see results

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

If you want to get what you want, you’re going to have to get pushy—but not in the obvious way. This means moving ahead of your competition or who ever is bugging the hell out of you, to put them in their place. Yes, this week will launch a bit of a soap opera theme to your life, but whatever, at least you’ll know you’re the star.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Sunlight deficiency is a bitch, especially when it comes to a nocturnal creature like you. Although you’ll be feeling less motivated to get out and about, this will be your time to make a concerted effort to start switching up your routines and trying out new habits, as being a vegetable right now is the biggest curse you can place on yourself.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Your mind will be racing along at twice the speed and this will mean coming up with many hair-brained schemes. Whatever bizarre ideas you dream of, explore it. You’ll be way ahead of yourself and with this energy; it’ll put you in prime position to magnetize a few odd, but worthy, options.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Time to bust out the new man on your friends. Enough of trying to sort out the picture alone — what fun is that? You need a few trusted opinions to seal the deal. Chances are if you take the plunge now, things will fall into place easier — as in scheduling one big meet and greet, rather than sporadic one-on-ones that’ll only breed a chain of preconceived notions.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

When it comes to all matters of power and love, this is when you’re going to be able to take the reins and call the shots as you see them. However, be clear about stating your case, as in not wasting time barking up the wrong tree because once you start setting the demands, it won’t take too long to see who is with you or who isn’t.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

When you love, there is no holding you back. You give all of yourself and want to get the same indulged feeling back. This week, go all out on taking it in, because the love will be there for you. In fact, the more you get lost in it, the higher your creativity will soar and the more you will feel in your element. The catch, this source might need to stay secret for now.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

If you want anything done this week, you’re going to have to get into the trenches and work it yourself. Sure, friends are there to help, kind of, but they’ll be more focused on their own agenda than being able to do exactly as you say — so don’t rely too much on their advice or favors. This week, seize and conquer on your own.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Your patience runs thin and there’ll be no more making excuses for having your kindness exploited. Time to stop it dead in its tracks, come to grips that you are not at your best and rectify the situation. This will mean some big changes, but really, making a decision is the hardest step to make. From there, hire movers to do the rest.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

A feeling of wanderlust is going to hit and removing yourself from your current environment in any way will do wonders for raising your chances at a spiritual catharsis that can set your world straight. If no such opportunity arises, then it’ll be up to you to make it happen. If this means finding yourself a foreign sex partner for the week, that’ll also do.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Take a deep breath and take one day at a time. Seems you will be your own worst enemy this week, as your ability to create paranoias and think up insane scenarios will be at peak levels. The odd thing about it though, it will give you a lot more energy to run from your demons, which can turn out just right if you happen to be darting off in the right direction.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Watch out for a tumultuous turn in your love affairs, as your honey will be feeling way more agitated and you’ll seem to rub each other in all the wrong ways. However, a little tension won’t kill anything, but if you take the high route and use it for good, it can be just the way to reignite the sparks back into the boudoir to put you back in sync, at least sexually speaking.

The Obamas Are Bringing Sexy Back To Marriage

I’m a big fan of the old “Thin Man” movies from the 30′s and ’40′s. If you haven’t seen them, they’re about Nick Charles, a wry and debonair detective who enjoys martinis, solving convoluted murder plots, and spending time with his lanky wife Nora. I can take or leave the murder mystery element of the films; what I really love are Nick and Nora as a couple. They have a certain rapport that you don’t see between a man and a woman in too many movies, past or present. Nora isn’t just standing around breathlessly, waiting to be taken care of, nor is she rolling her eyes at Nick’s antics, waiting for him to hurry up and grow up. They tease each other, are interested in each other, seem attracted to each other, and occasionally like to get soused together. Who (apart from teetotalers) wouldn’t like to have this type of relationship with his or her partner? I watched a DVD extra on “The Thin Man” after I bought the box set and a commenter put it perfectly into words: “‘The Thin Man’ made marriage look sexy.’” Keep reading »

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