Category Archives: Relationships

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Do We All Need To Learn How To Date?


Yesterday afternoon, I met up with an old ex-boyfriend for coffee. He’s staunch Catholic who was seriously considering joining the priesthood while we were dating; he has always been a lovely person, albeit more conservative than me. (He also happens to be my token pro-life friend.) I was filling him in on the past few years and months of my life — falling in love, getting dumped, moving out — and how I am growing from it. In the past, I have felt overwhelmed as the caretaker in a relationship, and going forward I would like to be with a stronger, more traditional alpha male type. I used to be a more casual hang-out-and-hook-up-er before; now I would like to date with the intention of a serious relationship.

He suggested I check out Kerry Cronin. Kerry Cronin is a professor at Boston College and although she runs a philosophy institute there, she is most well-known for an assignment in one of her classes called the dating assignment. The rules of the dating assignment are as follows: Everyone — male or female — must ask someone else out on a date. They must do it in person or over the phone, but not via text message or email. They have to pay for the date, they have to keep it to only 90 minutes, and the only physical contact at the end of the date can be a brief hug.

You can check out Kerry Cronin’s rules of the first date (or “level one” dating) in the video above and videos on how to transition to “level two” dating and “level three” dating after the jump. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Confused College Girl” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Confused College Girl” who had outgrown her long-distance relationship with an unambitious two-time college dropout. “The long distance seems to wear on me more and more as I see all my college friends leading a single life and experiencing things that I can’t, and I wonder if I’m missing out.” After the jump, find out whether she MOA’d or not.
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For The Week Of February 21-27, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Love will feel so exciting and new that you will almost wonder what is happening and if you actually have slipped into another dimension. Yes, you just might, as a serious series of events is coming to put the tides of love in your favor. Enjoy the mush as it comes, despite your cynical point of view, because as you will learn, you are a sap and you love it.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you have to pick up after them. As it stands, you are under no obligation to have to be anyone’s caretaker, maid or bank. While you are a giving and loving person, it’s time to draw new boundaries and see that sharing responsibilities is part of what being a real couple is all about — not just giving while the others keeps taking.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

As a believer in true love, this will be one of those weeks that will mystify you, as chance happenings will start the ball rolling into a weird place that have you feeling a bit out of sorts. Yes, trust issues will start burgeoning quickly and it will confuse. The only thing to do: believe in yourself and your instincts, as they will be all you need to get out of this week on top.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Emotionally, expect to hit some kind of wall this week. You aren’t the best with heavy sentiment, as you are better at sinking yourself into idealistic thoughts that are free of any pain. However, to get to get the best part of that certain someone, you are going to have to face your demons and believe greater happiness will come only after suffering this agony.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Time to express all your deepest, darkest and most loving feelings, as it’s time to come clean and get yourself out of the emotional cul-de-sac you’ve driven yourself into. After all, you can’t and shouldn’t do it alone. Sure, it may be a bit humbling at first, but once you purge yourself of everything, fast action will follow and the trauma will soon feel like a distant memory.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Funny feelings are going to cause a bit of discomfort, and it’ll be hard to shake yourself free of them — but don’t bother, as they’re symptoms of something bigger that you will have to deal with. Your sense of comfort is coming into the line of attack and if you want to regain your footing with serenity, it’ll mean sorting out those strange hunches that won’t fade away.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Love, magic, drama and sex are all going to step up in a bigger way, as you’ll be feeling a zing inside that will make you want to get a little friskier than usual. You won’t be able to take no for an answer — and why should you? Live it up and out, as only you can ignite the adventures that are awaiting for you now.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

As the pioneer of the zodiac, you do like taking the lead and being bossy. However, this week it won’t be to your advantage, as you will need a plan of attack to get the most out of others. So, sit back and make assessments. Yes, go ahead and judge all you want, because without forming strong opinions now, how will you know what you can really expect?

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

They say the strongest relationships begin with friendship first. So, look around, as your Prince Charming might be under your nose or one degree of separation aay. However, if there is really no one do-able in arm’s reach now, don’t fret. Instead, take the pressure off yourself and just relax and have fun, as this is the time when just being able to chill will be your sexiest play.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Be careful of someone crying wolf and trying to rope you into their drama. As it goes, power struggles will be happening and manipulation will be that other person’s weapon of choice. So, it’s imperative you know how you feel and stand behind it before this battle, as low blows will go deep and can catch you off guard. So, bolster up the defenses to ensure you get out alive.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Break out of your rut! Time to buy a plane ticket to an exciting locale you’ve always dreamt of or make that move on a sexier foreigner. Whatever you have access to, work up the courage to take on the world in a bolder way, as international relationships are your hot spot now and can prove delightful in all the right ways.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

No one needs to know all your nasty little secrets, except you. So, if this week ignites a mysterious love affair that has certain aspects of it needing to be on the DL, then so be it. Not all romances start out with perfect scenarios and others are just meant to be skeletons in your closet. Whatever. Enter the forbidden zone now, as fate has already RSVPed for you.

Sexy Time: Bedroom Faux Pas

I think it’s safe to assume that after a few years of sexual activity, most people have a few “oh god” stories of bedroom disasters. These are the ones that make it into the “it doesn’t count” category. You know, when something happens that, you know, just shouldn’t have happened.

When you throw two naked and probably a little awkward (or drunk) young adults into a bed together, hilarity and embarrassing moments are sure to ensue. We’ve all experienced it, hell, we may have even been the perpetrators of some unappealing bedroom behavior.

So here it is, a list of the most frequently committed bedroom faux pas to be avoided by everyone. We all know accidents can happen, but let’s do our best to avoid them, shall we? Read more… Keep reading »

4 Tips For Women Who Want To Make The First Move

With the kind of dating history Kim Kardashian has, one would never expect her to be shy when it comes to men, but this isn’t what we’ve seen on the E! series “Kourtney & Kim Take New York.” Yes, the Kardashian sisters are back and they’re in New York City to open and promote their Dash boutique. Kim, fresh out of a relationship with football player Miles Austin, is single for the show and ready to mingle. But, like many of us, she believes in the traditional idea that the guy is supposed to ask the girl out. And so she waits.

While we understand Kim’s desire to be pursued (I mean, who doesn’t want that, to some degree?), she doesn’t necessarily have to be so passive about it. Modern dating rules make it OK for a woman to make the first move and we’re quite glad that’s the case. To boot, men love it when we ask them out, so here are four ways to help you do just that. Keep reading »

Decode My Dream: “Am I Insecure?”

I am in a wonderful relationship, with the most wonderful man I have ever met. He is my best friend, confidant and lover. I am the happiest I have ever been in my entire life.

However, I have been having reoccurring dreams that my boyfriend cheats on me, leaves me OR ignores me while I cry and beg for his attention. More specifically, I had a dream last night that he was giving me the silent treatment — while I am sobbing he simply says, very coolly, “You’re not good enough for me.” I always wake up feeling confused and hurt because in the two years that we’ve been together, he has never done anything to betray my trust.

It seems that my dreams are telling me that I am needy and/or insecure, but that is not who I am in real life. I am a confident young woman with a very fulfilling life. I am hoping you can help me decode whatever my subconscious is trying to tell me.– Confused

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