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Don’t Do It: Sex On The First Date

I’m going to make a general statement here that’s probably going to get me flamed. If you have any interest in something more than sexual with a guy, do not have sex with him on the first date. While I’m usually against such “dating rules,” there are some logical conclusions I’ve come to after observing men and women, hearing war stories from friends, and listening to the advice of male friends whom I respect. With obvious exceptions (yes, I’m sure you do know someone who slept with her husband of 60 years on the first date), the chance of having a long-term relationship with someone goes down, way down, if you bone on the first date. Keep reading »

10 Tips For Really Living Your Best Life

Since gaining 40 pounds over the last couple of years, Oprah’s getting back on the wagon and kicking off 2009 with this week’s “Live Your Best Life” series. Featuring a bunch of experts on fitness, wellness, finance, spiritualism, and style, Oprah hopes the week-long series will inspire viewers to tune in and get proactive about their health and happiness. But you don’t need Oprah and her experts to help you live your best life. You just need to follow these 10 helpful tips, after the jump… Keep reading »

Don’t Do It: Dating A Guy With Children

If you’re a 20- to 35-year-old woman without any children I caution you against dating a man with kids. I did this once and, let me tell you, I learned my lesson. I dated The Cop off-and-on for about six years and I have to admit that love kept me from realizing just how big a problem his children were in our relationship. Recently, he and I made plans to have a friendly, totally platonic drink to celebrate my promotion. He canceled the day of because his youngest daughter had hit her head and he’d spent the previous night in the emergency room. I totally understood why he had to cancel, but the situation also reminded me why he and I could never work and why I will never date a man with children again. Keep reading »

Dating Drama: My New Year’s Sex And Dating Resolutions

Generally, I don’t like making New Year’s resolutions. All too often, I feel like I’m jinxing myself. The minute I say I want X, I find myself doing Y. At the same time, I’m not crazy about the idea that dating is a random act over which I have no control. In hopes of better love in 2009, my sex and dating resolutions are after the jump. Keep reading »

For The Week Of January 5-11, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Friendship dramas will make you shut yourself off from the world, but don’t lock the door on everyone. There’ll be one person that’ll make being behind closed doors worth your while, as that nesting mode sensation will kick in for both parties, giving you a glimmer into what tomorrow could bring.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Finally, some passionate romance comes back into your life and makes you feel like a girl again. Having to play the nursemaid, best friend, drinking buddy and all those other sexless roles have brought you to the breaking point, but payback time arrives just in time. Now, time to savor the luxuries of work well done.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Think glamorously and realize the world is your oyster. When it comes to your imagination, dreams and future lays, practice locally, but break out the magic globally. Yes, give yourself something to look forward to and sign yourself up for a foreign adventure. You’ll find that changing up your scene will be just the thing to jog your libido and confidence back into form.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Surprises are in store when intense talks break out with you and your baby. Intimacy will be shooting up a few more flights and taking you on a whirlwind tour of his psyche closer than ever imagined. While the breakthrough in communication will be just what it takes to bring you both onto the same page, it’ll also be what the missing piece that’ll make your sex life explosive.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Money luck is coming and it’ll help you and your baby allay some of your woes. As sudden opportunities appear, it’ll mark a new phase for your relationship. Of course, nothing comes too easily, as they’ll definitely be friction in how you both want to handle the situation. Thankfully, the tension will be just the aphrodisiac to make sex just a little bit more exciting.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

On January 6th, Jupiter, the biggest planet in the solar system and the planet of luck will enter into Aquarius for an entire year. This is something that only happens ever 12 years — equaling a turbo boost of karmic power and privilege and it’s all for you. This means getting your act together, aiming your targets for what you want in life and taking the helm as HBIC.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You’ll be so over the same dumb, but cute, freaks that turning into a hermit will seem seriously appealing. While that’s a bit too extreme, taking a little time out isn’t. Consider this the perfect lead into your most positive soul searching mission, as sorting out the information you have to put the pieces together and form your bigger picture will be clearest now.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Your friends are on your side. If they have any suggestion on whom to hook you up with, go for it. Even if it’s obviously not true love forever, it’ll put you in the right mindset to draw in more. If anything, think of them as practice balls, and with enough, you’ll eventually get the hang of when to call it a game faster or recognize a good match.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

When it comes to heated discussions between you and your boo, you’re going to have to take the high route. Accept that a standstill may be the best outcome, let bygones be bygones and move on. While silent grudges will take time to wear off, at the least, appreciate you have a man with some backbone. Otherwise, love with a balless twit would bore you to tears.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Shooting off your mouth has brought you tons of trouble in the past. However, this week starts a new day for you. Yes, finally, the universe will be on your side, as the more absurd and uncensored your talk; the more it’ll be music to some cute little quirky turkey’s ears. Yes, loud trash talking is your call of the wild, use it wisely.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Nobody is going to mess with you this week, as you’ll be in your cool and confident mode. Get ready to take on a big decision about your relationship and steer your life to be where you want, with or without your current partner. This is your take-no-prisoner moment. Be willing to be open to his ideas, but not in lieu of your agenda.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Something inside you will snap and you’ll see that you’re being way too compassionate in your relationship, causing you to a sudden bout of tough love and a touch of cruelty. Call it passive aggressive payback or strategy, either or, it’ll work and you’ll find that what you’ll get is sweet victory.

Are Creative Types Just Good For Flings?

Are “creative types” good for anything other than flings? “I am always attracted to creative men,” one woman writes the Guardian. “Most of my boyfriends have been poets or artists, largely because of my job and circle of friends. But my last two boyfriends were unfaithful and I wonder if creative types are good only for flings and if I’d be better off with a man who has a proper job.” Relationship expert Dr. Luisa Dillner responds: “Creative people may be less inclined to monogamy because it’s conventional, their talent may make them attractive and interesting (they have something special) and they may be supremely self-confident. Creativity suggests a passionate nature; these men may be more charismatic than your average guy. Since creative people often hang out together, they may reinforce the idea that it’s OK to have sex on the side.” Instead, she advises the woman find a “nice steady Italian policeman” — because women like men in uniform. So, what do you think? Do creative types make good boyfriends, or are they better for flings? [Guardian.co.uk] Keep reading »

True Love Does Exist!

Or so says scientists who studied the brain scans of couples who had been together for 20 years versus couples who had recently fallen in love. They found that “one in 10 of the mature couples exhibited the same chemical reactions when shown photographs of their loved ones as people commonly do in the early stages of a relationship.” In other words, that “spark” that couples typically feel at the beginning of dating continues to exist for at least 20 years. These couples were dubbed “swans” by the scientists because the birds mate for life (as do foxes, lobsters, and penguins). [Times Online] Keep reading »

Dating In The New Year: A Look At Online Personals Sites

With the New Year just around the corner and winter in full swing, the desire for another warm body next to us grows every day. We don’t necessarily want someone to bring home to embarrassing family dinners so much as we want someone to drink hot-toddies with as the night grows colder and inhibitions smaller. It’s hard to feel attractive under layers of fuzzy sweaters and fuzzier legs, which makes going out to to clubs to find our mate as appealing as brussels sprout pie. More and more people are turning to on-line personals to help them find that special person to ring in the new year with, even if it’s just for one night or a few months.

I’ve rounded up the most popular personals dating sites and narrowed down the best and worst of what the sites have to offer – everything from short term hook-up potential to the skeeviness factor (the amount of men you’d try to avoid while walking down the street). Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Capricorn With Cold Feet

I’m a Capricorn girl (moon in Pisces, Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Libra) who’s four years into a long-distance relationship with a Sagittarian guy (moon in Cancer, Venus in Capricorn, Mars in Virgo). I think we both feel a sense of being drawn to the other, but this long-distance situation has taken a big toll on me emotionally. My biggest problem is that I have such a hard time trusting him and believing his motives are genuine. My dad (Aries) was a philanderer so my natural cynicism and disbelief that men can truly love and be happy with one woman is quite high. Sag guy makes an effort to listen to my doubts, learn to communicate better through words, and let me know how important I am to him. I think I love his freewheeling Sag ways when we’re together, but feel some concern over them when we’re apart. Keep reading »

Happy 2009: Get A Divorce!

New Years can inspire many things. Like a fresh start and sticking to your resolutions. But for some, one of those resolutions is ditching your spouse. According to lawyers in the UK,
January is the most popular month for couples to split up. Divorce attorneys say January is the busiest month for divorce filings. This is because most couples don’t want to spoil the holidays for their family and because the new year does invoke the idea of new beginning. Legal experts are expecting a record number of separating spouses in the new year as the rising unemployment rate and the crumbling housing market puts relationships under greater strain. Most of the filings happening on January 12, D-Day or Divorce Day, because it’s the Monday after their kids go back to school. Talk about a way to ring in the new year.

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