I’m getting married!
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I’m getting married!
Make It Stop is a weekly column in which Anna Goldfarb — the blogger behind Shmitten Kitten and Shlooby Kitten — tells you what’s up. Want a fresh take on a stinky dilemma? Email email@example.com with the subject “Make It Stop.” She’ll make it all better, or at least make you laugh. Girl Scout’s honor.
I have a twin brother and I’ve always been the “adventurous” twin. I went to college several states away while my twin, for a number of reasons, commuted from home. After I graduated, I got a job several states away as well. While I have made several disparaging comments about my twin’s life choices in the past, I’ve tried to mend fences to no avail. We don’t talk regularly anymore. Every time I come home for the holidays, my twin takes something innocuous I say and twists it, going into a screaming fit about how I should go back to wherever I live and never come back. Needless to say, it makes coming home uncomfortable and I don’t want to anymore. My parents usually see that he is overreacting but don’t seem able to stop it either. Do you have suggestions to help mend our fights or make them stop?
I guess the lumbersexual thing has really taken off, because there’s a “social networking” (read: dating) site/app for people with beards and the people who love them called Bristlr. Yep, Bristlr. They’re really rolling with the beard theme.
This is the site’s mission statement (of sorts), which is fabulously to-the-point:
There are many people with beards who like to have them stroked.
And there are many people who don’t have beards, but would like to stroke them.
Bristlr is the link between the two. Keep reading »
In the latest issue of Porter magazine, actress Emily Blunt discusses motherhood — she and her husband, John Krasinski, are the parents of 10-month-old Hazel — stating that raising children “…is such a fear-based industry.” She goes on to clarify that “there used to be one book that everyone read, now there’s How to Raise a Gluten-free Baby, How to Raise a Scientific Baby… It’s insanity! So I haven’t read anything, I’m just letting her do her own thing.”
Yes, Emily Blunt, YES! I totally agree with her that there is a culture of fear being pushed around parenting, and much if it has to do with the unrealistic expectations that are pushed on moms and dads. The idea of perfection (thanks: Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, etc…) in parenting is everywhere you look, causing parents to scramble to be the best in every aspect, despite living in a society that is not set up to support families in the ways that they need. Couple this notion of perfection with the idea that if you fail in any regard — nutrition, education, extra-curricular activities, etc. — your children will fail, and the fear becomes very real. Add to all of that a market that makes money off this fear and it’s a near recipe for disaster. Keep reading »
In 2013, photographer Statia Grossman’s boyfriend left her, and he left his stuff in her apartment, too. Needing an outlet for her frustration with these constant reminders of their relationship, Grossman decided to marry her creative skills to her irritation and created the Shit You Left Behind Tumblr.
The Tumblr is a photo series of Grossman interacting in various ways with her ex’s old stuff, with pithy captions full of double meanings and resentment. The Tumblr has now been made into a book of the same name, described as “a true testament to the shitstorm that is human romance and relationships.” The book is an expansion on the Tumblr, featuring photos that hadn’t previously been published. It’s a great gift for the recently-scorned, or, for that matter, for anyone who kind of hates love. [h/t ArtNet] [All images via Shit You Left Behind]
In my last post, I shared with you a comprehensive list of guys I’ve dated, slept with, or come in contact with over the last year, and the lessons I learned from each. Some of them were men I’d met only once or twice, and others were guys who I actually had feelings for, but looking at that list — I mean REALLY taking a hard look at the amount of men who entered my life in 2014 — is upsetting to me. On one hand, I tell myself that I put myself out there, continued to get back on the horse when love didn’t go my way and that I faced the dating world with resilience. On the other hand, I look at that list and wonder why not even one guy stuck around. Ultimately, it boils down to the fact that, in the new year, I need to be more secure with me. I need to feel confident in my decisions and know that mistakes, successes and failures are all my own. Keep reading »