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Dear Wendy: “He’s Stable, But I’m Bored”

After dating guys who weren’t very good for me, I met a stable, solid, loving man who treats me very well. I’ve been trying hard to make this work, but I can’t seem to develop an emotional connection with him. I keep thinking it’s because he’s just not full of the rush and drama of past relationships, and that I’ve been mistaking drama for love, and don’t know what to do with a good relationship. But it’s been a few months now and I just don’t feel a rush — ever. I don’t know what to do. — Love Stumped

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Should We Forget About Equality In The Workplace And Just Marry Rich?

A new report published in Europe found that 40 years of reform to promote gender equality in the workplace may have been all for naught. As much as it’s become politically incorrect to admit, the stats show that the majority of women would rather find a rich man to marry than have a successful career. Keep reading »

An Open Letter To Taylor Swift After Being Dumped By Jake Gyllenhaal

Dear Taylor Swift,

I heard that you and Jake Gyllenhaal are kapput. I could have called that one from a mile away. I don’t mean to pour salt in that gaping wound, but we all knew it was just a matter of time. US Weekly is reporting that you are “devastated” that Jake kicked you to the curb because he was “uncomfortable with the attention” and “could feel the age difference.” Eh. Whatever. I guess that makes sense. Jake is almost 30 and you are barely of legal drinking age. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Swore I’d Never Snoop … But Then I Did

Some time ago, Amelia and I were chatting over IM about snooping. If I remember correctly, it was in the context of a discussion about sharing passwords. Should you share your email password? Your Facebook password? Your debit card PIN number? Is it a big, serious relationship step to do those things or not super-serious at all and just a byproduct of our digitized lifestyle? I was very pro-sharing passwords, because I have nothing to hide. Go read my emails, I don’t care! The only reason I wanted to share passwords with my boyfriend was to make life easier: we share his laptop at home and I needed to be able to log in whenever I needed. My reason for wanting passwords was not at all motivated by wanting to sneak around in my boyfriend’s private business. I sincerely believed he had nothing to hide from me either.

But more importantly, snooping in someone’s email, or listening to their voice mails, or any of those other privacy-violating things, just seemed like a douchey thing to do. It implied a lack of trust. It implied suspicion. It implied an insecurity on my part. I am a huge, huge, HUGE believer in the Golden Rule and I would never snoop in someone’s private business, I thought, because that is not the way that I would want to be treated. “I just couldn’t go into someone’s emails like that,” I surely told Amelia. “You say that now when everything’s fine,” she replied, in words that have stuck in my head ever since. “But if you really thought something was up, you would do anything at your disposal to find out what he wasn’t telling you.” Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Got Dumped. Should I MOA?”

My boyfriend of seven months broke up with me last week. He made it clear that no part of the breakup was my fault, that he still loved me, but did not think he was capable of being in a relationship. He is in the process of getting divorced. His wife of one year, whom he had dated for nearly a decade, left him for a man 10 years her junior during a rough period of my guy’s life. He had just lost two people very close to him. We started dating fairly early in his separation and he thinks he didn’t have time to properly heal. When breaking up, he told me he sees a real chance for us in the future and isn’t planning on dating anyone else right now, though he knows it’s unfair to expect the same from me. He said the pressure of a relationship is holding him back from getting past certain problems in his life and completely healing from the divorce. (Also, there is no chance he is having second thoughts about his divorce.) He insists he wants to remain close and since the breakup, we still talk daily and have made plans to hang out tomorrow (I refuse to be intimate with him while broken up). I want to believe him but the people around me (who haven’t met him) seem to think this is just a thing guys say when they want out or to date other people but still keep a woman in tow. A part of me feels like if I was really worth it to him, he would have fought more. Am I being too naive? Is this a MOA situation? — Cautiously Optimistic

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The 10 Commandments Of Dating (For Guys)

When it comes to dating, there are some rules that should not ever be broken. Here are 10 dating commandments — for men! — that should be etched in stone. (Don’t worry — we’ll do 10 for women too … eventually.) Keep reading »

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