A columnist for the Guardian thinks wedlock is a nothing more than a “legalised prostitution trap cum labour exploitation racket” and any woman who gets excited about her big wedding day as she painstakingly plans every last detail is just deluding herself from the ambivalence she clearly must feel about entering into such a horrible union. Behind the façade of excitement, she argues, women are really just “dubious” about marriage, which “is revealed by their desire to constantly reinforce a sense of the fated immaculacy of the day. The obsession over creating a perfect wedding is actually worry, fear, uncertainty, only sublimated and channeled.” Keep reading »
The topic on the “Tyra Show” the other day was womanizers. I expected all the male guests to be overly-primped, self-absorbed playas. I was actually surprised by one guest, Ahmed, who described himself as ladies man rather than a womanizer. I started thinking about the real difference between womanizers and ladies men and realized what makes a ladies man different is transparency. Keep reading »
Yeah, yeah, I know I said last week’s column was going to be the final Breakup Diaries post, but then something amazing happened and I couldn’t resist an update. Last week I wrote about how, despite having made significant strides in recovering and moving on from my breakup, my ex still was haunting me in my dreams. On almost a nightly basis I was finding myself dreaming about him, begging him for answers — clearly, the thing holding me back from completely moving on was just questions about what got us there in the first place. The unfortunate thing about those dreams was knowing that I may NEVER get the answers I was seeking. I could only hope the dreams would go away sooner rather than later. Which brings me to last night… Keep reading »
I never trust couples that claim they don’t fight. I don’t believe them, and even if they aren’t lying, who wants to be with a guy who agrees with everything you say? How boring would that be? The best part of being in a relationship is exposing yourself to new ideas and ways of thinking. If you don’t have any conflict, you’re probably not going to have many sparks.
It may sound counter-intuitive, but one of the most important things a couple should figure out early on is how to fight fairly and effectively. Here’s what not do when you’re engaged in battle…. Keep reading »
A member of the extended Frisky family told me the best advice she’d ever gotten was to actively fall in love with four people every day — that if you put your mind to it, it can be done and be incredibly fun in the process. I decided to give it a shot. Here’s the four people I fell in love with today (before lunch even!). I hope you’ll share yours!
1. Our Mind Of Man, John DeVore: A picture of him in high school came into my possession, so to speak, this morning. He looks adorable, but he’s wearing hilarious ’80s old man style glasses in the photo. I promptly sent the photo around to everyone we know (sorry, he would kill me if I posted it here), which made him mad (in other words, his latest column may come in late!), but what he doesn’t know is that I kind of am in love with High School DeVore! At least for today.
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Earlier this week we posted an essay from a woman who broke her engagement after she realized the traditional signs she relied on to let her know she’d found “The One” had failed. While I’m sure she learned a lot from the experience, I want to save you from a similar painful fate. Forget everything you’ve ever heard about “The One” being your best friend or whatever other nonsense that has been passed down through misinformed generations or stupid magazines. After the jump are the 15 signs that will really tell you if he’s “The One.”
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You know how the Possom, the Kangal Fish, and the Rattlesnake are among the worst things a guy can do while kissing? Well, believe it or not, men also have preferences when it’s time to pucker up. These tips really aren’t difficult to incorporate into your kissing routine, so you’ll be new and improved by Valentine’s Day. Keep reading »
“Thank God you’re not with him anymore.” My friend rolled her eyes. “I don’t know how you dated him.”
Whoa. What? My friend’s distaste for my now ex-boyfriend was news to me. How my family and friends feel about the person I’m dating is almost as important as how I feel about him. So if my ex had been so unpopular with my inner circle, why hadn’t someone said something before?
Whether or not to clue a friend or family member into the fact that her significant other is lazy, noncommittal, mean, a couple sandwiches short of a picnic, or dealing something shady out of his basement can be a delicate situation, but it doesn’t have to end your relationship. Keep reading »
A couple years ago, the storytelling magazine SMITH issued a challenge to its readers: “Can you tell your life story in six words?” Inspired by the legend that Ernest Hemingway once won a bet that he could complete a story in just six words (His story: “For Sale: baby shoes, never worn.”), the magazine’s call for mini-memoirs was answered with thousands of submissions and resulted in the New York Times bestseller Not Quite What I Was Planning. Because so many people’s submissions dealt with love and heartbreak, SMITH followed up with the newly published book, Six-Word Memoirs on Love and Heartbreak. We talked to SMITH co-founder Larry Smith about what will get your story included in the next book and how his own love story goes.
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Dan and Serena, decided to get back together on last week’s episode of “Gossip Girl.” But Lonely Boy and S were in for a surprise when they found out that they are…RELATED. Sort of. Their parents had a secret love-child many, many years ago and the twosome share a half-brother. EEK! Sure, their love runs deeper than Chuck Bass’ pockets, but this is an obvious reason to break up with someone, right? Because as Serena said, “it’s a little too hillbilly.” (And you know they don’t stand for that on Park Ave.) Instead, these two decided to stay together, for now, and make the best out of a redneck situation.
This does bring up an interesting point. No matter how deep in love you may be, isn’t there a point in some relationships where it’s time to breakup? Couples stay together out of convenience and comfort, but deep down you may know it’s just not working between the two of you. And if being related in some sick twisted scenario isn’t a reason enough to throw in the towel, here are five reasons to breakup, after the jump. Keep reading »