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We Are Better At Communicating With Strangers Than Loved Ones

We know that couples, family members, and best friends love to brag about how they share a brain, which results in all that annoying finishing each other’s sentences stuff. Just because they claim to know what the other is thinking, that may not mean they actually understand each other any better than two strangers. A new study says that when two people are very close, communication suffers. Why? Because we assume we get them, whereas with strangers we don’t. Basically our brains get used to another’s language patterns and we become lazy at interpreting what they actually mean, which leads to long-term disagreements. You can see why the divorce rate is so high and family dinners can be so uncomfortable. Humans are delusional idiots. We could probably fix this problem by treating our loved ones like strangers. Wait, that sounds weird. [Telegraph] Keep reading »

No Strings Attached: How Not To Be A Friend With Benefits

There are times in every woman’s life where her body wants either what her heart can’t handle or her brain knows better. You know the drill — you want a man, but not a relationship. Or, more to the point, you want some loving, but don’t want any complications. All the booty; none of the baggage.

Maybe you’re wildly attracted to a dude physically, but find him mentally or morally lacking—like a tanning technician or a bounty hunter. There’s no way you’d ever date him, but why should you deny yourself the pleasure assets might provide? Answer: Not a reason in the world.

This weekend, the Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher rom-com “No Strings Attached,” about a friends with benefits relationship that gets all screwy when the two try not to fall in love, was number one at the box office. With that in mind, here are some tips for ensuring your FWB situation scores just as big. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Sex With A “Top Chef”

At the end of last year, I was in Los Angeles for a TV appearance that required me to be dressed up and in full makeup. That ended in the early afternoon, and I walked around downtown all glammed up, excited to have the rest of the day free. A guy complimented me, and I started talking, then flirting with him. He was cute and seemed smart, and I felt like I was already very far from my daily New York life, so I flirted back. And because it was 2010, that flirting soon took to our phones as we traded numbers, and then I started following him on Twitter, and he did the same to me. Keep reading »

What Your Facebook Wall Says About You

This weekend, as I posted my second Ryan Gosling-related YouTube video to my Facebook wall, I realized something. If you were to judge me based solely on what I posted on Facebook — from status updates to links to photos — you would accurately be able to conclude that I am a begrudgingly single 30-something cliche. The three things I post to my Facebook wall most often are 1) adorable photos of my dog, Lucca, 2) Ryan Gosling-related links, videos, and status updates, and 3) photos of myself posing with other people’s babies. As is typical of this type of Facebooker, I of course posted a self-deprecating Facebook status update saying as much, to which a friend replied, “Hey, ‘Cathy’ has retired.” Sigh.

Surely, I am not the only person whose personality can be quickly deciphered via the things we choose to post on Facebook. So, what does your Facebook wall say about YOU? Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Righteous” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Righteous” who wondered if it would be appropriate or simply “stirring up old history” if she were to apologize to an ex with whom she caused an ugly breakup. After the jump, find out whether she apologized to the guy and how she’s doing today. Plus, I’ve got some exciting news of my own I want to share, so keep reading. Keep reading »

For The Week Of January 24-30, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Security might feel nice, but that’s not all that you need. So, sit tight as this week gets a bit rocky, as new excitement will be gurgling and throwing you off your trajectory in a way that’ll challenge you. While this leaves new possibilities to open, keep an open mind about choosing which one to chase — looks may be deceiving.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Pull out that to-do list of yours, break it down and go one-by-one in tackling them. Yes, time to cut it up into bits and stop freaking yourself out. You can do whatever you set your mind to, as long as you get some organization. While that alone is a huge feat unto itself, don’t stop to think, as there’s no more time to waste.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

You’re a sexy little vixen that can dream a little dream and know how to make it come true. Of course, if it were all up to you, your life would come with a bow on top, but it’s not and for that, you are going to have to learn to be a little more patient with the world around you. Not that you haven’t already been an angel, but now it’s about being fair to everyone.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Pick up the pace! Keep coming up with ideas and throwing them out there. Right now is your ideas phase and maintain the motivation to put more irons in the fire. No thought is too ridiculous or impossible, but even if it were, let the universe decide. Now is about creating momentum, so chug-chug-your booty along!

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Ruthlessness may help, but not now. Time to hit the cruise control button and let your work speak for itself. If you truly trust yourself, you’ll see that you’ve done all the work necessary on your part. So, in the meantime, reward yourself with something that’ll soothe your soul, as now is the time to let yourself play as hard as you’ve worked.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Don’t jump the gun on what’s happening, as it’ll be hard to decipher who is telling you the truth and who is lying — there is more to the story than what you’re hearing. However, this isn’t the time to push anything too hard, as the answers will need their own time to come out and in just the way that’ll make everyone want to move ahead positively.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Forget about trying to be a control freak now, because a very lax attitude is going to be taking place among the people around you, and it might make you feel like you have to go at it alone. Whatever, go ahead and put in the work, as the more you sweat now, the more power you will fill up on and in the end, that is what will matter.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You may have the world in your pocket, but that doesn’t mean you can act any way you want. Yes, strategy is a must as you move ahead — and that may mean killing another with kindness to ultimately get what you need down the line. As it goes, there is way more potential to be had, so bide your time and that pot of gold will be all yours for the taking.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

It’s not like there isn’t love in your heart, but when it comes down to the daily grind, it’ll feel as if there’s no romance. Sorry to say, not every day can be a parade and that’s just a fact of life. Don’t stop to deconstruct it, because it’ll only wind up being a self-sabotaging mission. Instead, accept you can’t be impervious to the ups and downs, and that you’ve just started a temporary descent.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You love having something to toss around in your head, so consider yourself lucky as this week kicks off with a new list of questions that’ll have your mind racing around like a sewer rat. However, as much as you’ll want to bat the possibilities around, the truth is you’re going to have to walk through this fire to get what you want out of it, even if it’s just peace of mind.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Traditions are great if they really work for you. This week, you may find what you’ve been taught goes against what is best for you in the end; it’ll be up to you to push for what you truly want to believe in. Ask around, talk it out, do what you must, but the choice is up to you. Only you can set yourself onto the right path.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You may get away with more by saying what you know another wants to hear, but it’ll come back to bite you, as it’ll leave you having to fulfill certain demands that you won’t be able to blow off. Sorry to say, this isn’t the week you’ll be able to be as coy as you’d wish, as sensitive feelings are going to be out and it’ll require some real brain work to avoid stepping on emotional landmines.

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