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Dating Amelia: Some Dating Rules I’ve Kept And A Few I’ve Ditched

This era of my Dating Amelia column (which has been a fixture on this site, off and on, for a couple of years) is not going to last long — just this one post, actually — as I am not really dating anymore. After taking a two month dating/sex sabbatical, I sort of fell back into the dating pool when I unexpectedly met someone awesome and it’s been, for lack of a better word, on ever since. But! Over the course of my sabbatical, I thought a lot about how I would approach dating once I started back up again and I consider following a few different rules that I had either never really considered before or failed at entirely. Here are five of them — two that I have kept and three that I tossed out, not because they may not be right for you, but because they weren’t right for me. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Date With A Porn Star

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What Men Want In Bed
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So, a male porn star walks into a bar. I’m going to call him PS for short, to keep things simple. I’ve seen PS around Chicago before; a couple years back, we ended up at the same karaoke event until 6 a.m. But we hadn’t talked much until I ran into him at the aforementioned bar, attending a fundraiser for sex workers’ rights. See, I write about sex with a focus on S&M and I do activism around it as well, so I end up coordinating with sex worker activists a lot. Plus, sex workers totally know how to put the ‘fun’ in ‘fundraiser.’

As we sipped on drinks, PS and I chatted about sex education, work/life distinctions, and that sex toy demonstration at Northwestern that landed a professor in the center of a controversy. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Doesn’t Use Pot Holders” Responds

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How To Be Romantic...
...without being creepy! Read More »
Dater X
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Ten things Dater X did right as a single girl. Read More »

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Doesn’t Use Pot Holders,” who wrote in because her boyfriend’s sister, whom he shared an apartment with, hated her. After the jump, find out if the sister managed to wreck the relationship and how everyone is doing today. Keep reading »

He Said/She Said: Our First Vacation Together

This love train continues to steamroll ahead, flattening my former single girl life in its path and chugging into serious couple territory. After only a month of living together, a few pre-planned events came to fruition all in the same week – getting our puppy, meeting his parents and escaping to the beach for our own spring break. Keep reading »

For The Week Of March 28-April 3, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean everyone else should cease to exist. So, no matter how obligated you are, realize new attractions are always possible and it’s controlling them that’s the hard part. Otherwise, what is wrong with enjoying the view and using it as your inspiration for other parts of your life? After all, there is nothing wrong with daydreaming, right? Right.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Love will turn a new corner, as commitment and all the lovely things that it can bring will be the highlight of your life. Finally, you will be able to see life heading in a more comprehensible direction. Not to say it’s all butterflies and rainbows forever, but at least for the next few weeks, all will be as idyllic as it appears. So enjoy it while it lasts.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

You’re a lady that gets what she wants. Not because you’re lucky, so much as you are willing to work down to the bone in expressing your passion and dedication to stand by whomever or whatever you believe in. While this hasn’t always worked in favor, instead driving you to the edge, this week, a miracle is in store. The method to your madness will be right on the money.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

If you want it, fight a little harder. Nothing will come easy now, but it is in arm’s reach, so make up your mind and claim your prize. Of course, you can let it pass, as perhaps your initial hesitation is its own sign, however, new options are moving in and can soon make you obsolete to that other. So, if you want to live with this “what if” in your mind, then so be it.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

You might have been raised to be certain way, but oh well, you have a mind of your own and life turned out differently. Sure, family might have a thousand things to say about your choices, but are they living your life? No. So, time to put your foot down and boldly show off your decisions and how well they actually work for you. If you teach them, they will learn.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Your fuse will be a lot shorter these days and you’ll have no time for stupidity. While you may wonder when you ever had time for the insipid, you’ll oddly realize that as of late you have been a bit more forgiving of dummies. However, the obvious becomes even more so this week, as somehow the rose colored glasses will fall off and have you quickly editing your contact list.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You’ve said all you had to and done all you need to do. Now, time to languish back in a job well done and enjoy the results of your efforts. If others want to argue with you and beg to differ about what more you should be doing, drown them out. As it goes, this is your time to chill out and love being you. Anyone getting in the way is only making it obvious they just don’t get you.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

This week will bring on lots of self-doubt and obsessing about the past, causing you to beat yourself up. Seems you just won’t be able to stop with the self-critique. However, the end of the week will bring a sudden change, as you will go full circle with your pity party, leading you into a brilliant idea that will instantly put you back on top. All you have to do after that is keep it moving.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

The past is going to be popping up in a weird way this week, but the side effects could be goo, possibly stopping you from making a decision that may seem right now, but further down the line could cause complications. Whatever happens now, don’t deny the signs that will appear, as they will have significance.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Life will really be starting to fall into line, as some aspect of a deeper wish will begin to align and slowly shift your life in a new direction. Yes, dreams do come true and you will be living proof. Not to say this wasn’t without major effort on your part — and that you won’t backtrack every so often — but without a doubt, know you’re totally on the right path.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

News of your little inner freak will get out, but that won’t be anything to get your panties in a bunch over. So, take it in stride. We all have skeletons in our closets, but at least yours can be useful to another, as in finally giving them a clue about the things that will rev your engine for maximum play. Realize not all accidents have dire consequences.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Who cares about the future, when you can feel so good now?! Yes, time for instant gratification, as that is all that will make sense to you now. Sure, you might be burning a few bridges in the meantime, but whatever, not all of them were useful anyway, as sometimes igniting those fires is the highlight of the fun anyway.

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