Zergnet: Simply Irresistible
You might remember back in December when I was home for the holidays my mom passed down my great-grandmother’s engagement ring and I debated whether to use it for my own engagement. At the time, my boyfriend, Drew, and I were talking marriage pretty seriously and I knew I needed to make a decision about the ring soon or at least point Drew in the right direction for a different option. The family heirloom was mine to keep whatever I decided to do with it, so I brought it back to New York with me and thought about it for a few weeks. When one of my best friends — a gay guy with incredible taste — came to visit from Chicago, I showed him the ring and he all but declared I MUST use it as an engagement ring.
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Call me a snoop, but I’ve always been curious about couples’ lives together. Yesterday’s New York Times featured photos of couples in bed together, giving people with prying eyes (like me!) a glimpse at intimate moments in the bedroom. Taken by real-life couple James Frank Tribble and Tracey Mancenido, the “Pillow Talk” series might make you feel a little like a peeping Tom. And it make you want to head over to Bed Bath & Beyond for some new sheets. [NY Times] Keep reading »
Valentine’s Day is this weekend, and once again I’m reminded how irrelevant the occasion is to anyone who’s actually in love. Aside from kids and their handmade cards, Valentine’s Day is really just for the lonely, sad, and insecure. Think about it. When was the last time you heard anyone who was happily coupled up express anything remotely resembling excitement over the big day? More likely, they don’t express any thoughts about it at all. Because happily coupled up people don’t think about Valentine’s Day. And why should they? If couples are doing it right, they don’t need to wait for some manufactured Hallmark occasion to celebrate their love. Keep reading »
Valentine’s Day is probably the most emotionally charged day of the year — and we’re not just talking about lovey-dovey feelings (although there is a lot of that). To celebrate cupid’s special day, we’re posting your stories about your best and worst Valentine’s Days. To submit, email firstname.lastname@example.org by Monday, Feb. 9, and include “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject.
After the jump, Roz shares the sad tale of how her nine-year marriage ended after an instant messaging slip up. Keep reading »
“So when can we meet him?”
This is a question that most women long to hear from their friends after dating a great guy for a couple of weeks. It is the last thing you want to hear, however, when your current beau is unattractive. Alright, I am sugarcoating it — this guy was ugly. Now, please hold your judgment; I have always prided myself on being able to look past a pretty face and see a man’s inner hotness. Keep reading »
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
We all need to fall off the wagon sometimes, because no one is perfect and because it feels good. Yes, this week will bring the downfall of something that will irritate, but it won’t kill you. So, move it along fast with going all out decadent this week to clean it out of your system. After enough purging, you’ll have earned your stripes to get back on the pony.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Friendships can emerge in funny places, as you’ll see what sprouts out from underneath you this week, giving you reason to pause and wonder where you are. Sure, this might be confusing to you, but whatever the case, know the outcome is pleasant and you should take this as your lesson that the world hasn’t completely gone to hell yet.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
There’s a fine line in balancing your private life and your career, and as the responsibilities get more intense, it’ll make life more hectic than it’s been in a while. The demands will come in from everywhere, with an ability to blindside you into total bitchdom. Whatever. Take this as a hint of where your true priorities lie and proceed accordingly.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
Not all that you see is what is happening. This week, a major spiritual turn of events is on the agenda and could have you rethinking your plans in life. Thankfully, the switch up will be for the better and bring in that much needed inspiration that’ll give you a push towards a better life, one in which you finally feel as if your connecting to something or someone of a higher level.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
It’s hard to tell what happens in that scheming little mind of yours and this week, it’ll be the most intense. However, if you want to seize the power and get extra insight on that certain someone you’ve been dangling close to your heart, then make that move to turn up the heat. Intimacy in on the menu and it’ll be up to you to place that order.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Your relationship woes will be getting intense as the negotiations continue and have you fuming out your ears. However, this is all necessary to start shaping the life and love you want, all be it with or without the current state of affairs. Realize at the end of the day, the only thing you should know is compromising your own happiness is not an option.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you always have to give into their needs, as if they are more important than you. Sure, be nice and offer help when asked, but don’t give yourself over like you are some slave, because when it comes down to it, you’re only asking to be traveling on a one way street with behaviors like that.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Just when you think you found someone that rocks your world, you discover another side to him that has you feeling as if you might have had a temporary loss of judgment and needing to find the exit door fast. Whatever. Screw the guilt and run while you still have a chance of being written off as nuts. After all, you have the rep of fleeting love affair master to uphold.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Screw bureaucracy and any sort of rules that hold you back. You know you don’t have to follow the pack and the only reason you do is because you’re lazy. You owe it to yourself and humanity to share your precious ideas, so shake up your foundations and lay your ideals on harder surfaces. Time to live out louder.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
You might have a bigger mouth than most, but being louder doesn’t automatically make you right. This time around, be a sweetie and ask before sharing too many of your opinions, as some things are just better left unsaid. Yes, your best bet to turn it out with that special someone is to assume the role of supporting cast, rather than the star.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
A breakthrough with money issues with your baby is coming and it’ll put you both on a whole new playing field, as you will be able to open up to a new level of trust you didn’t think could happen. Seems there is more to your relationship that just sex and codependence, as you’ll find your logic works just as succinctly.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
An offer is coming that’ll be hard to resist, but unfortunately it’ll mean sacrificing something else in your life that you cherish. As this decision puts you firmly on the fence, don’t be hasty in making decisions, as making the wrong choice will breed much bitterness. While there isn’t an easy solution, there is one that can work if you give it time to emerge.
Over half of the women in America are livin’ single. It’s an amazing statistic that shows just how far women have come in the past few decades. We’re not waiting around for a white wedding to jump start our lives anymore. After the jump, tell us what you aspire to in the 21st century. Keep reading »
I need your help, I’m a Sagittarius (11/23/88) and my boyfriend is a Leo (07/30/89). He’s a really nice guy and he gets along very well with my family, but I feel like he lets people tread all over him. His mom uses him and treats him like a stepchild, and he just takes it. She’s never encouraged him to go to college, and she never motivates him to be better. I’m tired of him being a momma’s boy.
I’m also tired of being the only person encouraging him to do something for himself. I help my mom by babysitting for my siblings, while I also have two jobs, go to school part time, and study for exams; I don’t have time for a loser BF. He does nothing with his life, so we never have anything to talk about. And then there’s our sex life. I feel like an idiot when I’m trying to talk dirty. He’s quiet ALL the time, even in the middle of sex, and it’s always the same two positions. Our sex life is boring, despite the fact that I try so hard by wearing sexy and provocative things. He won’t even spank me! I just don’t know if I should stay with Mr. Nice Guy. – Ms. Naughty Girl Keep reading »
When you hear the word “detox” all sorts of things come to mind: spas, juice fasts, colonics, rehab centers. People enter detoxification programs to rid their bodies of toxins, lose a little weight, maybe look and feel better about the damage they’ve done to their bodies. Detoxifications are done when you eat too many chips, drink too many drinks, do too many drugs. But how do you detoxify from poor love decisions? Is there a Promises out there for people who have had one toxic relationship after another? How do you take the damage done from too many bad relationships to enable a fresh start? Keep reading »