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Dear Wendy: “Am I An Attention Whore?”

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for three months, and currently live together. I’m just gonna cut to the chase here: he’s not good about replying to my texts. Usually, with my past significant others, I would always have cute little mushy text convos all day. However, when I text my current boyfriend a cute little, “I’m thinking about you” text or even a “What are you doing?” text, he rarely replies. Sometimes he will say he’s busy. Excuse me? Who is ever too busy to send a little measly text back to someone you love? And not only that, but he’s just not good with communication AT ALL. I’ve been stood up by him for lunch dates with no notice. He often has legitimate reasons, but he doesn’t even text or call me. He also doesn’t tell me what he does throughout his day. For example, if he gets off work early, or goes shopping, or has lunch with his buddies, he won’t even let me know what’s going on; I’m always blindsided. I’ve talked to him about this issue several times and he admits he’s not a good texter, but I know that’s a lie because I’ve seen him text other people back right away. Am I missing something here? Is there any way I can tell him how I feel without sounding like I’m an attention whore who needs my boyfriend to text me 24/7? I mean, maybe just four texts a day would be perfect. Am I overreacting here? — The Texter

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Beer Drinkers More Likely To Have Sex On A First Date

I recently canceled my OK Cupid account for the millionth time because I was sick of going out on dates with guys who weren’t actually interested in dating. But I’m happy the site exists if only because the data they release is so random and fascinating. For example, the site found that people whose taste buds are titillated by beer are a lot more likely to sleep with someone on the first date. What about wine drinkers? What about wine drinkers?! Oh wait, I know the answer to that question. [OK Cupid] Keep reading »

Infographic: This Is How We Rank The Gifts Guys Give On Valentine’s Day

Fellas! Valentine’s Day is less than a week away — how ya holdin’ up? Have you figured out what to get your special lady (if you have one, that is)? No? Hmm. Not to put to even more pressure on you, but seriously, you really don’t want to f**k this up. Valentine’s Day is the most important day ever created for anyone with a vagina*** and you do want to get laid again, right? Don’t worry — we’re all basically single, so we can pretend to be your hypothetical girlfriend for a hot second and advise you as to where on the “expensive vs. cheap”/”romantic vs. lame” scale the V-Day gifts you might be considering fall. We don’t want you to get dumped because you thoughtlessly gave her a weedwacker or a boob job consultation.

[Note to any future boyfriends of mine: I would actually love a Dyson. But I am a clean freak and not your average chick.]

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A Valentine’s Day Love Letter To Myself

For Valentine’s Day, instead of waiting for love letters that’ll never come — who sends those anymore, anyway? — we decided to practice a little self-love in the name of St. Valentine by writing them to ourselves. We invite you to do the same in the comments. Yesterday Amelia shared hers and today is Jessica’s turn… Keep reading »

Dater X: Looking Forward To Valentine’s Day, For Once

I love Halloween. Ditto Thanksgiving. I am all about the Fourth of July—bring on the fireworks and hot dogs. I even enjoy a good April Fool’s prank. In fact, there is only one secular holiday that makes me break out into hives: Valentine’s Day.

See, St. Valentine and I have a complex relationship. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I’m Not Ready To Date Again

Last week, I went on a date. I haven’t been on a date in two years, owing to the relationship I was in that recently ended, and it was the most nerve wracking experience since the first day of high school. I tried on, like, six different outfits. I spent an hour and a half showering and doing my hair and makeup. As I walked to the restaurant where we’d agreed to meet for dinner, I forced myself to take long, deep breaths of the cold February air to calm down. It only kind of worked.

There’s no question my two-year relationship changed me from being the kind of girl who would sleep with two different men in one weekend just to have fun to a “relationship girl.” I feel like my wild oats were thoroughly sown — which is a good thing! — and that I matured a lot in the past few years. After the security, intimacy and love that I had with Ex-Mr. Jessica, I don’t think I could go backwards to being the rowdy girl I was before. At least right now, hopping in and out of bed with different dudes for fun just plain doesn’t interest me.

But I don’t know if I can do the exact opposite, either. The idea of dating someone seriously again, with the intention a relationship, is seriously daunting. Remember, I was dumped only a little over a month ago. Dipping my pinky toe into dating again — albeit briefly — has only shown me it’s too soon: I am still way, way, waaaay too messed up by all the things Ex-Mr. Jessica did to me to do this. Keep reading »

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