Bless you, Lisa Frank, for helping me build my unicorn sticker collection and making sure my school supplies were covered with the mythical, rainbow-colored creatures. I know I was not alone in my girlhood unicorn fantasy. Most young girls indulge in some kind of animal enthusiasm. But some experts think there’s a deeper reason for this. Engaging in an obsession, with unicorns, horses, or dolphins specifically, may help young girls become strong women. Why? They help us claim our power. “They’re all active, they’re all sources of power and motion and transformation … these are all borderland creatures; gateway animals to other worlds. They help us imagine wonderful other ways of being in the world. They let us be cowgirls and oceanographers and mermaids and princesses,” says scientist Laurel Braitman. Find out what important qualities each animal represents after the jump. Keep reading »
Earlier this week, I wrote about my flagrant disregard for Valentine’s Day. But a small (minor!) detail–a teensy admission about a particular ex of mine–seemed to garner the most attention. Yes, I went on a date with a hobo killer–but that’s not why I stopped seeing him. Keep reading »
Breakups suck. But after a little time has passed, you may find yourself feeling relieved, reflective and actually — dare we say — thankful that you and your former dude are no longer together. Breakups and how they’re done can teach us lots of valuable lessons about who we are and what we want. They can also be maddening, depressing and straight up rude. Still, all in all, practically every breakup has made me thankful, too–either that I’m no longer with that person or that I’ve learned something valuable about them. After the jump, some of the breakups I’m most thankful for.
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For Valentine’s Day, instead of waiting for love letters that’ll never come—who sends those anymore, anyway?—we decided to practice a little self-love in the name of St. Valentine by writing them to ourselves. We invite you to do the same in the comments. Amelia, Jessica, and Kate have already shared theirs. Today is Ami’s turn … Keep reading »
A new study found that women are most attracted to the men they know the least. Researchers used Facebook profiles, real and fake, and discovered that the women liked the men best that they knew the least about. We like the guys who play hard to get and, nine times out of 10, lead to no good. Tell us something we don’t know. Like how to make us stop. I would like to take these findings and set fire to them. I’m embarrassed for us. Can we just stop being idiotic masochists when it comes to love already? [Live Science] Keep reading »
I get called a “slut” all the time. My friend Ashley calls me a slut like it’s my name: “Slut!” The Frisky staff calls each other sluts when we divulge our sexual escapades. Internet commenting trolls call me a slut fairly regularly (and a “bitch”, and a c-word, and plenty of other foul things). I call myself a slut, like, say, last week when I hooked up with a dude on the first date. A lot of 20-something women are used to being called a slut in some area of their lives, in every situation from “haha, just kidding” with our friends or (cool) co-workers to more serious areas, like when it’s hurled at us by a catcaller. “Slut” is one of those female-centric words — like “bitch,” like “feminist” — that can mean so many things that it almost means nothing anymore. Except, it turns out, in bed. Keep reading »