You are a single woman who’s turned to the internet to find that special someone. Swapping pics is no longer a difficult chore; so now you’re faced with the daunting task of wading through literally thousands of online profiles in order to determine which ones are of interest to you. Keep reading »
While we here at The Frisky, from our experienced Mind of Man to the freshly single gal Amelia, have been debating the merits of sex on a first date, some researchers in the U.K. think they’ve got it down to a science.
According to a mathematical model created by Prof. Robert Seymour and his team from the University College London, “By delaying mating, the female is able to reduce the chance that she will mate with a bad male.” Basically Prof. Seymour is telling you that you have to make a man wait for sex to prove his worth. This study was less interested in studs and more interested in helping women find something called a “good male.” Using other Discovery Channel-esque language like “long courtship” and “mating,” the researchers have made even sex seem unsexy. From charts, graphs and funding, Seymour has concluded that, “Long courtship is a price paid for increasing the chance that mating, if it occurs, will be a harmonious match which benefits both sexes. This may help to explain the commonly held belief that a woman is best advised not to sleep with a man on a first date.” So, let me get this equation straight. W (courtship length) times X (doin’ it), equals Y (compatibility)?! Keep reading »
H Samuel, a jeweler in the U.K., is trying to get male engagement rings to take off as more women are proposing to men in these modern times. Their Tioro ring, made from titanium and featuring a tiny diamond, goes for about $120, which is waaaaaaay cheaper than most engagement rings for women. “UK women are no longer waiting until the man pops the question,” said an H Samuel employee. “We are equals in the work place and in relationships and we make our own decisions. Now this ring is a clear message to everyone that a man is to be married.” Do you think a woman who proposes should offer her man a ring? [Telegraph UK] Keep reading »
It’s that magical time of year when, disgusted by the post-holiday bloat effect, we make all kinds of unrealistic promises to ourselves (A.K.A. “resolutions”): We’ll stop eating Skittles every day at 4 p.m., totally start exercising again, nix the Marlboros and get our hair looking really awesome once and for all. And of course, the single and looking folks out there feel a twinge of hopeful new optimism that maybe this year, “I’ll meet The One,”—or at least find a temporary substitute in the form of a f**k buddy or two—and go about procuring the goods. One thing that is way easier to change than say, the cellulite you inherited from Aunt Geena, is the ad you post on Myspaz or Nerve or whatever illustrious forum you choose to advertise your flesh wares in. Keep reading »
Sometimes saying, “I love you,” isn’t enough. Just how much do you love your lover? Well, the blog Love You More Than Blank lets you tell your special person how you feel about them. Send them your answer, and they’ll plop it on a colorful heart and post it on the site.
What’s in second place behind your significant other? Fill in the blank after the jump! (When I tell someone I love them more than peanut butter, I’ll know it’s the real deal.) Keep reading »
Slate advice columnist Dear Prudence got a doozy in her mailbag this week. A son wants to know if he should tell his father that he carried on an affair with his stepmother for years. Karma’s Bitch Boy writes: “When I was 17, Mom and Stepdad had to move to another city, so I moved in with Dad and Stepmom. My father’s new wife was a much younger and very attractive woman. The atmosphere was more relaxed than in my previous home. So much so that my stepmom (she’s about 15 years older) and I developed an attraction and started an affair.” Gulp! When Dad was out of town, son and stepmom got it on a couple times a month. The affair continued when Karma Boy went off to college and after; finally, he ended it two years ago. Now, his father is divorcing his stepmother for cheating on him — with somebody else — and his stepmother has informed him that unless he gets his father to concede on a financial matter that’s beneficial to her, she’s going to tell his father about their affair. Prudie advises the son tell his father what he’s done. What do you think he should do? [Slate] Keep reading »
Here’s a newsflash: we women aren’t always very nice to each other. From our insecurities about our imperfections, to our competitive drive and anxieties over not measuring up, we can be total bitches to one another. A recent article in the Times suggests that this mean-girl mentality is the pink elephant in the workplace that no one dares talk about. “Despite all the money spent annually on women’s leadership conferences and professional development programs, you’d be hard-pressed to find a workshop on women mistreating one another at work,” Peggy Klaus writes, adding: “Instead of helping to build one another’s careers, [women] sometimes derail them — for example, by limiting access to important meetings and committees; withholding information, assignments and promotions; or blocking the way to mentors and higher-ups.” If these scenarios sound familiar — and they certainly do to me — you aren’t alone. A recent study by the Workplace Bullying Institute examining this kind of office behavior found that “female bullies aim at other women more than 70 percent of the time.” Keep reading »
I’m Aries female seeing an Aquarius male for the past eight months. We started off purely sexual, after a year of flirting and shortly after we both got out of previous relationships. He has made it clear he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I agreed. But our feelings have grown stronger and we have expressed love for each other. He still maintains not being ready for a commitment, yet has gotten extremely jealous at times. In fact, we had our worst argument yet when my ex allowed me to store my things and stay in his extra bedroom when I moved out of my apartment, until I got back on my feet. (Please keep in mind that Mr. Aquarius knew I was going to be in transition and never offered for me to stay with him.) My Aquarius man ended up in the hospital from the stress of this past argument, expressing that his “love for me was about to kill him.”
I’ve never been in a “non-relationship” that was this dramatic. I really do care for this guy. However, I find it hard to follow invisible relationship rules. I have no urges to cheat on him and I completely trust him in that department as well (we’re highly compatible sexually). He’s still not ready for a relationship, yet tells me he’s never experienced a love so strong. What can I expect with him? I feel he’s being manipulative. Should I just to be patient, because it’s the Aquarius tendency to take relationships slow? I’m a typical, impatient Aries…and feel I have compromised a lot of myself. Should I just leave him alone? – (Im)patiently Waiting Keep reading »
A columnist for the Guardian thinks wedlock is a nothing more than a “legalised prostitution trap cum labour exploitation racket” and any woman who gets excited about her big wedding day as she painstakingly plans every last detail is just deluding herself from the ambivalence she clearly must feel about entering into such a horrible union. Behind the façade of excitement, she argues, women are really just “dubious” about marriage, which “is revealed by their desire to constantly reinforce a sense of the fated immaculacy of the day. The obsession over creating a perfect wedding is actually worry, fear, uncertainty, only sublimated and channeled.” Keep reading »