Many months ago I wrote a column about Restless Life Syndrome, a name I borrowed from an advice column on Salon to describe the phenomenon of, well, feeling restless in one’s life — of consciously or unconsciously searching for greater meaning through a series of often meaningless jobs, relationships, and purchases. In my piece I wrote that Restless Life Syndrome is another name for a variety of trendy “phenomenons” like the quarter-life crisis, Saturn Return, mid-life crisis, and empty-nest syndrome, and this restlessness so many of us feel at some point isn’t so much a product of one’s age, but of life in general. Keep reading »
It’s said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So, yes, we know that snooping around our S.O.’s email account is a bad idea and that believing in the fairy-tale love stories we grew up reading is silly, but sometimes we find ourselves giving these relationship moves the ol’ college try! The results? Not so successful. Plus, we start to feel unbalanced, and perhaps rightly so.
This point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. Keep reading »
Recently, I discovered that one of my best friends had ditched me after I logged on to Facebook and found her profile had disappeared from my page. We’d been having problems that had culminated in a huge argument the day before, but I figured we’d get through it. I figured wrong.
Still, being given the heave-ho by way of a social networking site? My first reaction was to laugh. I mean, we’re adults. Unfriending me seemed tantamount to toilet-papering my locker or scribbling my phone number on the boys’ locker room wall. Keep reading »
Self-proclaimed sci-fi addicts Noah Fulmore and Erin Finnegan will be the first couple to get married in zero gravity on June 20. On that day, they’ll venture down to Kennedy Space Center in Cape Canaveral to tie the knot in a plane owned by the Zero Gravity Corporation, the only government-approved provider of commercial weightless flights. “We would really prefer to do it in space or on Mars,” Fulmore told the New York Daily News, “But living in the time that we do, this was the closest we could get to zero gravity.” [NY Daily News]
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Dear Brides and Brides-to-be,
Seriously, has it really come to this? Are some of you actually growing your own salads for your wedding receptions now? And if you aren’t, the Telegraph thinks you should. In a series called “Grow Your Own Wedding,” the newspaper published an article today that laid out what to sow and grow and mix together, from “Ruben Lettuce” to, I kid you not, fennel bulbs, to create your own perfect wedding day salad. Thank God I’m keeping my engagement short and getting married next month, because I don’t think I could possibly stand another half a year of this silliness. Everywhere I turn to for ideas or advice, I’m completely inundated with this DIY crap. Look, I get that it can be fun to get all crafty and put your own personal stamp on your BIG, SPECIAL DAY, but I have to draw the line at lining my RSVP envelopes and growing my own fennel, and maybe you should to. Keep reading »
It’s exactly what it sounds like. Businesswoman Sarah Lavely created Sarah’s Smash Shack after she was dumped by her husband of 12 years. The Shack is a place for women — and men — to take out their love frustrations by smashing anything in sight. The breakable goods are provided, but jilted lovers are encouraged to bring their ex’s old crap to destroy. Lavely says people come out of the Smash Shack much calmer and less angry. [San Diego, 6/3/09] Keep reading »
Simcha, Kate, what’s the big deal in going to a wedding sans date? I’ve gone to several weddings solo, and it never occurred to me that I should: A) feel offended that my invitation didn’t include a “plus one,” or that B) I should feel the least bit insecure that I didn’t have a “plus one” to invite anyway. One of the weddings I went to solo was shortly after a bad breakup in which I found myself truly single for the first time in several years, and it was for a snotty cousin who was five years younger than I and who positively delighted in “beating” me to the altar. But, so what? I had plenty of family to catch up with, enough cute boys to smile at, and an open bar to make even the most mundane of weddings tolerable. And even if I had thought to invite a guest (and had gotten the okay from the couple), I can’t imagine a more awkward date than dragging some poor guy I was just getting to know to a boring wedding (and come on, they’re all mostly boring) where he’d be forced to schmooze with my entire extended family and answer questions about when he planned to put a ring on it. Sure, the alternative meant being questioned about my single status, but I doubt any of the old ninnies who pressed me about it really spent more than a few minutes worrying about the state of my love life. After the jump, the seven reasons you’re better off going to a wedding without a date. Keep reading »
This cupcake (muffin?) reader Emily found in Lisbon, Portugal, wants to know wants to know what you were up to last night.
Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to firstname.lastname@example.org. Keep reading »
The happily remarried couple is still livin’ it up down under. They biked through a park together today and it seems the only thing still patchy about the pair is Carey’s facial hair. [Sydney, Australia, 6/2/09] Keep reading »
Guys who go on and on and on about lady-love are so annoying. They’re lesbians, dude—they’re NOT going to be into you. The latest annoyance? “Girl Gotta Girlfriend” by the rappers Mams Taylor, Snoop Dogg and Bobby Valentino (listen above!), about a man with a girlfriend who tries to bring home a second woman for the night. Aren’t these lyrics touching?
“My girlfriend kissing on her girlfriend / They getting real naughty/ My money is cool, but I’d rather have you and my girlfriend running around my crib naked.”
The lesbian blog AfterEllen.com flipped ‘em a big gay bird, saying:
“Lesbians: We are just here for your pleasure. Do you have money and some champagne and a hotel room? Just tell us where and when!”
Yawn, enough with songs by heterosexual dudes about how great it would be to bang two women at once. There’s plenty of songs out there about real girl/girl relationships by Ani DiFranco, t.A.T.u, Jill Sobule, Le Tigre and a bunch of others. And a few fun ones by Lady GaGa and Katy Perry. Go cuddle up with your gal pal and take a listen. Keep reading »