Category Archives: Relationships

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Does Hooking Up Make Us Lonely?

Yesterday, NPR show “Morning Edition” explored a new a cultural phenomenon you may have heard of called “the hookup.” The hookup, the program explains to anyone living under a rock, is a social trend, born of the sexual revolution of the ’60s and ’70s, women’s growing independence, and online social networking. It started among high school and college students but is now popular with recent grads who have entered the workaday world. “Young people from high school on are so preoccupied with friends, getting an education and establishing themselves, they don’t make time for relationships,” so instead of concerning themselves with finding a mate, they’re far more interested in no-strings-attached sex. Naturally, people are having a field day arguing the potential benefits and detriments of hooking up. Keep reading »

What Are Your “Rules” For Dating?

I recently got a call from my best friend’s 18-year-old brother: “Uh hey, Leo, uh, so I like have this date with a girl, and it’s kind of my first date. And, my sister says you know the rules.” Oh no.

Did I know the rules? I wasn’t sure, but I did my best to answer his questions like could he kiss her (yes), and did he have to pay (yes).

I have certainly dated a lot over the past two years, and until recently thought I was fairly proficient in the subject. After recently coming out of a romance that left me devastated, I’ve reluctantly started dating again, but found my skills have suffered. Especially when last week, I was astonished to find myself on an excellent first rendez-vous. I wanted to contact him after, but felt “the rules” weighing over me that said I wasn’t allowed to. But this is the modern age! Women should do what they want. What if this one time is an exception? Maybe he’s expecting you to get in touch…

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Five Reasons He Dumped You, When You Just Don’t Want To Believe He Didn’t Like You

I have a little problem. I tend to obsess over why a guy suddenly pulls “the fade” or ends things just as they’re, seemingly, getting good. It’s one thing if the guy simply is not interested in pursuing anything further because of a lack of attraction, but what about the guy who does think I’m hot, awesome, and funny? (He did, didn’t he?) Where the hell does he go and why? According to a guy writer for Cosmopolitan, there are five reasons why guys dump women they’re “into.” I got a guy friend, whose opinion I trust, to give me his thoughts on each of them, lest I take them all incredibly seriously. Keep reading »

OMG, Women Do The Craziest Things on Facebook!

Facebook is a lot of things: a social network, a mega time-suck, and, according to Ask Men, a breeding ground for women’s craziness. Oh yes, women do crazy, crazy things on Facebook, and we’re not talking about reconnecting with old flames or friending their bosses, either. No, the kind of craziness Ask Men accuses us of is more of the “vindictive,” “manipulative” variety — like, get this, posting pictures that are “more sexy, more adventurous and altogether more exciting than she is in real life.” OMG, CRAZY!! I mean, only a woman would do something so off-the-chart insane! After the jump, 5 completely crazy things Ask Men says women do on Facebook. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Fighting For The Top In A Polyamorous Relationship

Please help, I can’t tell who the true top in my relationship is! I’m an Aquarian woman (2/6/72, 3:51 pm, Providence, RI) who has been dating a Virgo man (9/11/66, 1:59 am, Concord, NH) for four months. He told me he loved me within a week of dating, and has not hidden the fact that he would love to get married. We slept together on the first date, even though he has only been with a couple of women and claims to be very against casual hookups (I admit to seducing him). We are both extremely kinky, and have great sexual chemistry.

My question involves which one of us is really the top. I’m an extremely dominant female, and he is very much the man’s man. While he seems to love his rightful place underneath me, sometimes he turns the tables on me out of the blue and pulls rank as the man of the house. I like both apparent sides to his personality coin, but I do worry that perhaps he’s allowing me to do things he doesn’t enjoy because he cares for me so much. I sense a hidden romantic under his tough exterior. I’m also already married to a woman, and although they have always known about each other (my wife and I are polyamorous), he does get jealous at times and I wonder if he will eventually push me to choose him or her. – Aroused Aquarian Keep reading »

All My Friends Are Getting Married, And I’m, Well, Not Even Close

In the last month or so, three of my close friends have gotten engaged. Meanwhile, I haven’t had a serious relationship for three years. For some reason, whenever I tell people that another one of my pals has a ring on her finger, they get a sad, sympathetic look on their face, like they’re afraid I might start crying or go into a deep depression. They shouldn’t be concerned, though, because I’m not the least bit jealous. Keep reading »

Why My Ex…Rules?

After you’ve been dumped it’s pretty easy to think up things that sucked about your ex. Why My Ex Sucks wants you to “condense your bitterness” into three reasons why your ex is the worst and submit them for public enjoyment. Some of the greatest include:

“He had a twisted relationship with his twin sister. He referred to her as ‘his girlfriend.’”

“He was so dumb that at one point he thought I made up both the names ‘Hamlet’ and ‘Shakespeare.’”

“When we broke up and I kicked him out, he proceeded uninstall and steal our toilet.”

All of this makes for loads of amusement, but you know what’s harder, and possibly even more therapeutic in, like, a healthy way, than coming up with three awful things about your ex? Coming up with three ways in which they totally ruled. My ex and I used to play a game called “Look at the things I’ve brought into your life,” in which we’d list random fun stuff we introduced each other to. For example, thanks to me, my ex is now a Democrat, got to go to Carnival in Trinidad, and eats green vegetables with some frequency. I attempt to return the positivity, after the jump… Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: The Carbon Copy

Everyone knows that there are lots of fish in the sea. Some fish travel in schools and enjoy the security of being identical to their underwater neighbors. I always preferred the beta fish, however; colorful and unique, the beta fish swims alone and exudes individuality. Just like the beta fish that attacks any gilled creature that resembles his reflection, Carbon Copy and I were doomed from the start. The pond simply was not big enough for the both of us. Keep reading »

For The Week Of June 8-14, 2009

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Live it up this week because this is a good time for you to take on frivolous fun and a devil-may-care attitude. The more fun times you pile up now, the better for you, as next week some intense times will be going down and the more beautiful memories you build up now, the easier the transition to next week will be. Seriously, take any opportunity to laugh now.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

This week is sort of grim in terms of thinking the sickest case scenarios. However, this exercise in your imagination has a purpose, as you’ll be heading into a time that you can actually show some gratefulness to someone close to you and revel in the fact that your nightmares are only in your mind. Sometimes you have to know what you can’t have to cherish what you do have.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Take your time in getting to know the latest catch, because just like fine wine, this flavor should be taken in slowly and sensually to get the full body taste they offer. After all, who needs to rush and fall in love anymore? This is the new millennium. If you aren’t going to make yourself the ruler of your own domain and call the shots that make you the prize, who the hell is?

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Your sexual prowess can be given an Olympic event all its own, as most people would have to train for years to be able to keep up. Therefore, realize his appetite for destruction is not the only sign of love you should rely on. Pace yourself and your baby and if you do, things will sync up the way you want in time. Understand not all champions are born, some must be made.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

You have your lover at your beckon call and that is a beautiful place to have him be. Although at times you wonder if things are little too easy, think about life in Versailles and wonder if they would of wanted to live in the Bastille instead. Appreciate the good life now because not only have you earned it, you want it. Accept this gift horse in your mouth darling!

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

You will hear all the okays you want, but promises won’t go down the way you expect. Call it a misunderstanding or out-and-out disrespect, whatever the case, being as specific as you can is necessary to clear up all discrepancies. However, when all is said and done, know that you only have one shot at this and if directions are not as followed, it’s up to you to leave, non-negotiably.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You and your boo have a common goal: fun, passion and excitement. However, how you both want to go about it can cause strife, as you both have your own agenda and want to do things your way. Instead of wasting time pushing and pulling, realize to go right to the compromise stage and realize there is room and time for everyone to be Queen (King) for a day.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

This is your time to slow it down and chill out. Your sensuality needs attention and the only way you will be able to practice it to perfection is if you remind yourself to take the time to enjoy satisfaction and explore every detail of your honey’s body and mind. Sure, the quickie does fulfill, but ignoring those other options are like throwing away a winning lottery ticket.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

A rose colored filter is about to overtake your point of view and a feeling that everything is beautiful will be turning you on. Go with it, as this is just the kind of inspiration you need to put you back into a game that has bigger and tastier rewards. You are in the center of the universe right now, so live it up by going all out.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Who cares what the rules are? All you know is that you’re fed up following them. This week, dart off into the path of most unknown, as you need inspiration to prop your life and libido back to a standard that not only is exciting and erotic, but uncharted and mysterious. Seriously, without any curiosity, how do you expect to really get off?

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Stubborn and seemingly undermining opinions a certain friend will spew isn’t exactly from the place you think it will be. Call it jealousy or unrequited love, whatever it is; it won’t be in your personal interest to take this advice to heart. While this behavior is out of character, realize it is somewhat unforgivable too. Bide your time with other company.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Complacency is the worst place to hit in a relationship, as that is when the real action has to begin. This is the time to sink or swim and making that ultimate decision is down to the wire. Yes, seems this is when the true test of taking responsibility is going to happen or not and the real prize for dominance is sealed.

Seven Ways To Make Your Boss Love You

In this economic climate, everyone wants to avoid getting laid off. The number one way to do this is to have a strong relationship with your immediate manager. Here are some strategies that have worked well for me over the years. Keep reading »

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