Category Archives: Relationships

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What Makes A Man Date-able?

Marie Claire‘s sensitive man, Rich Santos, feels like he’s undateable. In fact, he’s even made a list of reasons women won’t touch him. He blames his solitude on the habits of longtime bachelordom, his need to be the center of attention, his motormouth, and his not-so-smooth dance moves. (Of the latter, he wrote: “Uncorking the River Dance, or a late ’80s rap move, doesn’t get me anywhere. Also, I employ semi-gay ‘summoning power from the Heavens’ Celine-Dion-like hand gestures.”)

Hey Rich, we’ve got one more to add to your list of red flags — dating a relationship blogger. Sigh, just look at what a mess of our own love lives we Frisky gals have made! But since we are Rich’s female counterparts, we decided to answer his question for the ladies: “What makes a guy more ‘dateable’ to you?” Oh, we’ll tell you what women want, right after the jump.

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Did Michelle Obama Settle When She Married Barack?

Michelle Obama has been our first lady for just over seven months, and she’s already been attributed with making a positive contribution to the U.S. fashion industry, along with advocating on behalf of military families and more. Now, Jenee Desmond-Harris writes on The Root that Michelle is a role model for single women. Keep reading »

Love Vandal: Wink, Wink, Nudge, Nudge

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to tips@thefrisky.com. Keep reading »

Does Hooking Up Make Us Lonely?

Yesterday, NPR show “Morning Edition” explored a new a cultural phenomenon you may have heard of called “the hookup.” The hookup, the program explains to anyone living under a rock, is a social trend, born of the sexual revolution of the ’60s and ’70s, women’s growing independence, and online social networking. It started among high school and college students but is now popular with recent grads who have entered the workaday world. “Young people from high school on are so preoccupied with friends, getting an education and establishing themselves, they don’t make time for relationships,” so instead of concerning themselves with finding a mate, they’re far more interested in no-strings-attached sex. Naturally, people are having a field day arguing the potential benefits and detriments of hooking up. Keep reading »

What Are Your “Rules” For Dating?

I recently got a call from my best friend’s 18-year-old brother: “Uh hey, Leo, uh, so I like have this date with a girl, and it’s kind of my first date. And, my sister says you know the rules.” Oh no.

Did I know the rules? I wasn’t sure, but I did my best to answer his questions like could he kiss her (yes), and did he have to pay (yes).

I have certainly dated a lot over the past two years, and until recently thought I was fairly proficient in the subject. After recently coming out of a romance that left me devastated, I’ve reluctantly started dating again, but found my skills have suffered. Especially when last week, I was astonished to find myself on an excellent first rendez-vous. I wanted to contact him after, but felt “the rules” weighing over me that said I wasn’t allowed to. But this is the modern age! Women should do what they want. What if this one time is an exception? Maybe he’s expecting you to get in touch…

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Five Reasons He Dumped You, When You Just Don’t Want To Believe He Didn’t Like You

I have a little problem. I tend to obsess over why a guy suddenly pulls “the fade” or ends things just as they’re, seemingly, getting good. It’s one thing if the guy simply is not interested in pursuing anything further because of a lack of attraction, but what about the guy who does think I’m hot, awesome, and funny? (He did, didn’t he?) Where the hell does he go and why? According to a guy writer for Cosmopolitan, there are five reasons why guys dump women they’re “into.” I got a guy friend, whose opinion I trust, to give me his thoughts on each of them, lest I take them all incredibly seriously. Keep reading »

OMG, Women Do The Craziest Things on Facebook!

Facebook is a lot of things: a social network, a mega time-suck, and, according to Ask Men, a breeding ground for women’s craziness. Oh yes, women do crazy, crazy things on Facebook, and we’re not talking about reconnecting with old flames or friending their bosses, either. No, the kind of craziness Ask Men accuses us of is more of the “vindictive,” “manipulative” variety — like, get this, posting pictures that are “more sexy, more adventurous and altogether more exciting than she is in real life.” OMG, CRAZY!! I mean, only a woman would do something so off-the-chart insane! After the jump, 5 completely crazy things Ask Men says women do on Facebook. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: Fighting For The Top In A Polyamorous Relationship

Please help, I can’t tell who the true top in my relationship is! I’m an Aquarian woman (2/6/72, 3:51 pm, Providence, RI) who has been dating a Virgo man (9/11/66, 1:59 am, Concord, NH) for four months. He told me he loved me within a week of dating, and has not hidden the fact that he would love to get married. We slept together on the first date, even though he has only been with a couple of women and claims to be very against casual hookups (I admit to seducing him). We are both extremely kinky, and have great sexual chemistry.

My question involves which one of us is really the top. I’m an extremely dominant female, and he is very much the man’s man. While he seems to love his rightful place underneath me, sometimes he turns the tables on me out of the blue and pulls rank as the man of the house. I like both apparent sides to his personality coin, but I do worry that perhaps he’s allowing me to do things he doesn’t enjoy because he cares for me so much. I sense a hidden romantic under his tough exterior. I’m also already married to a woman, and although they have always known about each other (my wife and I are polyamorous), he does get jealous at times and I wonder if he will eventually push me to choose him or her. – Aroused Aquarian Keep reading »

All My Friends Are Getting Married, And I’m, Well, Not Even Close

In the last month or so, three of my close friends have gotten engaged. Meanwhile, I haven’t had a serious relationship for three years. For some reason, whenever I tell people that another one of my pals has a ring on her finger, they get a sad, sympathetic look on their face, like they’re afraid I might start crying or go into a deep depression. They shouldn’t be concerned, though, because I’m not the least bit jealous. Keep reading »

Why My Ex…Rules?

After you’ve been dumped it’s pretty easy to think up things that sucked about your ex. Why My Ex Sucks wants you to “condense your bitterness” into three reasons why your ex is the worst and submit them for public enjoyment. Some of the greatest include:

“He had a twisted relationship with his twin sister. He referred to her as ‘his girlfriend.’”

“He was so dumb that at one point he thought I made up both the names ‘Hamlet’ and ‘Shakespeare.’”

“When we broke up and I kicked him out, he proceeded uninstall and steal our toilet.”

All of this makes for loads of amusement, but you know what’s harder, and possibly even more therapeutic in, like, a healthy way, than coming up with three awful things about your ex? Coming up with three ways in which they totally ruled. My ex and I used to play a game called “Look at the things I’ve brought into your life,” in which we’d list random fun stuff we introduced each other to. For example, thanks to me, my ex is now a Democrat, got to go to Carnival in Trinidad, and eats green vegetables with some frequency. I attempt to return the positivity, after the jump… Keep reading »

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