There are Zagat guides covering everything — from restaurants, hotels, and nightlife to spas, shopping, and golf courses. Now, the guidebook company is getting into the relationship advice arena. The new New York City Dating (And Dumping) Guide offers suggestions for intimate bars, couple-friendly activities, and the best places to break up. Sure, you could end a relationship over the phone, but wouldn’t it be better if you did it in a place where you knew there’d be hot bartenders? We hope editions for other cities are soon to come. [Zagat] Keep reading »
I still remember the day I realized my first love wasn’t perfect. We’d been together for about 2- 1/2 months and decided to go camping for the weekend. I wasn’t much of an outdoorsy person and ended up wearing, like, Keds on our long hike up to the campsite (which really wasn’t a campsite, but more of a clearing in the woods with enough room to pitch a tent). Rather than slow his pace and enjoy the beautiful day with me, my boyfriend laughed at my footwear and sped off, keeping a good ½ mile ahead of me all afternoon. It was then that I realized I loved him, but he hiked too damn fast (and was really kind of a jerk).
Loveyoubut.com celebrates exactly this kind of realization in a relationship. Created by Alex Holder and Ross Neil, the site is a “picture book about the moment in a relationship when you realize you don’t love someone completely, because there is just one little thing that keeps bothering you.” While I’d argue it’s often that one little thing that makes you realize just how unconditionally you do love someone — seriously, if you can love your man despite his hairy back or the loud slurpy sound he makes when he drinks beer, that’s when you know it’s real — the site is totally worth checking out. Filled with funky, hand-drawn portraits and great quips like, “I love you, but you still read articles about Princess Diana,” and “I love you, but you say ‘pacific’ instead of ‘specific’,” loveyoubut.com reminds us that no one is perfect, and sometimes what we don’t like about someone says a lot more about us than it does about the other person.
What’s your “I love you, but” quote? [via Nothing But Bonfires] Keep reading »
A lesbian couple that was the public face of the same-sex marriage debate in Massachusetts is ending their marriage after four years. Julie and Hillary Goodridge, along with six other gay couples, filed a lawsuit that led Massachusetts becoming the first state in the U.S. to legalize same-sex marriage. The couple, together for nearly two decades before they wed, were married in May of 2004 on the first day same-sex marriage became legal. They announced their separation in 2006 and filed for divorce last week.
A source close to the women said Hillary enjoyed her status as a gay rights pioneer and wanted to try new things, whereas Julie was more reserved. After they won their lawsuit and got married, they seemed to have less in common. What tore apart their marriage had nothing to do with their homosexuality. Like so many other straight and gay couples, they just grew apart. Keep reading »
Valentine’s Day is probably the most emotionally charged day of the year — and we’re not just talking about lovey-dovey feelings (though there is a lot of that). To celebrate cupid’s special day, we’re posting your stories about your best and worst Valentine’s Days. To submit, just email email@example.com by Monday, Feb. 9, and include “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject.
After the jump, Kirsten tells how her garbage disposal ruined Valentine’s Day for her and a repairman’s wife. Keep reading »
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Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to firstname.lastname@example.org. Keep reading »
I thought I had heard every excuse for cheating — it’s payback, my needs aren’t being met, I was drunk, etc. — but this excuse takes the cake. A woman revealed to an acquaintance that she is cheating for her kids. Yep, you read that right. She’s not planning on staying in her marriage, so she’s trying to find a daddy replacement for her children before kicking their jerky father to curb. Keep reading »
I am not used to being pursued by men. This is not to say it’s never happened, but the eight and a half years I lived in New York can best be described as an incredibly long dry spell interrupted by too many bad first dates, as many one-night stands, and one seriously flawed serious relationship.
While I know some of the fault lies in my refusal to date actors, bad spellers, or men who work in finance, my sister and I joke that in New York I was fat and average, but in Kansas City I’m hot. Not that there aren’t plenty of attractive women in the Midwest, but New York is a city full of models, actresses, and hundreds of thousands of women who look like models and actresses. Going out in New York in our size-10 jeans, my sister and I concluded after her first visit, was like going to a gay bar anywhere else in the country. Keep reading »
I don’t know about you, but I usually spend Feb. 14 either in a fight with a boy or sulking at home. Valentine’s Day might be the most emotionally charged day of the year, and we are dying to hear about how you’ve spent it over the years (not only because misery loves company — we also still want to believe in love). Over the next couple weeks, we’ll be sharing readers’ stories about wonderful, lovey-dovey, jealousy-inducing Valentine’s Days, as well as V-Days that are so heartbreaking they’re sure to inspire a country song. So, send us your tales — but keep them to 500 words or less, please — and we’ll pick a few of our favorites to post. To submit, just email email@example.com by Monday, Feb. 9, and include either “Best Valentine’s Day” or “Worst Valentine’s Day” in the subject. Keep reading »
When my friend Stephanie was out to dinner the other night, she saw a young, twentysomething couple having dinner together at a table near hers. When the woman got up to go to the restroom, the woman’s boyfriend/husband, grabbed her phone and began searching through it, in an obviously suspicious way. Stephanie said she felt super guilty for not having said anything to the woman when she returned; that not letting her know that her man was spying on her and checking her call logs was a violation of girl code. I disagree. While I think women should look out for each other — hell, I think people should look out for each other — sometimes I think girl code treads too much into “none of your business” territory. Keep reading »
If you think it’s obvious why most men aren’t exactly lining up to date Rumer Willis, think again. According to a new study it may not be just because they find that big chin unattractive. Researchers say a prominent chin can be a “telltale sign that a woman will be unfaithful.” Hmm, can someone say Claire Danes? Perhaps, Hillary Swank? Keep reading »