Determined as I am to avoid drama around both my wedding and the planning of it, I can already tell, just a few weeks into my engagement, that’s going to be much easier said than done. Already, I’ve been met with some resistance over planning an outdoor ceremony in Central Park in the middle of the summer. “Wouldn’t you rather do it inside with air conditioning?” my mom whined when I told her my idea. “We’ll be outside less than an hour,” I explained to her, “and then we’ll move to a nice air conditioned restaurant for lunch.” I’d like to keep the guest list small for a variety of reasons, but I’ve gotten an earful from family and friends who are afraid of “not making the cut.” And having the ceremony in New York, where my boyfriend was born and raised and we both live, will no doubt create a mobility challenge for some members of my family who have trouble getting around (my sister, for example, recently broke both ankles and will probably still be using a walker at the wedding). Plus, as I’ve been reminded more than once: New York is expensive. “Then don’t come!” I’d love to reply.
Anyway, lately I’ve been reading various wedding “horror stories” about really rude guests, totally inappropriate things people say, and bridezillas who completely lose their s**t over the smallest thing just to sort of give myself a little perspective. Also, they’re pretty funny and certainly more entertaining than researching rental chairs. After the jump are some of my favorite wedding-related horror stories, pulled from an MSN article, and the message boards at Indie Bride and Yahoo. There might even be a story from your truly, but you’ll just have to guess which one! Keep reading »
According to a study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, the length of time a man looks at a women the first time they meet can be an indicator of how he feels about her. So, next time you go on a blind date, bring a stopwatch. The study, which tracked eye movements of 115 students as they spoke to actors and actresses, found that men looked into women’s eyes for an average of 8.2 seconds if they thought they were beautiful. When they rated a woman as less attractive, they only looked at her for around 4.5 seconds. Now, I’m not sure if you’re aware, but eight is a lot of seconds to be looking at someone. If a random guy in a bar looked at me for that long, I might think he had a staring problem. To give you an idea of how long a guy will look at you when he thinks you’re hot, listen to this clip from the Britney Spears song “If U Seek Amy,” which is eight seconds long. [Telegraph]
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An interesting, if disturbing question has been posed to Cary Tennis at Salon. “Want Him To Know” writes:
“Recently while I was on Facebook, the man who date-raped me in college showed up as ‘people you might know.’… I never filed charges, never told people for years afterward, and didn’t even think of it as rape until five years ago. But now that I think about it, it infuriates me that he was able to victimize me without consequences. I don’t want to bring legal action, or shame him publicly, but I do want him to understand what he did was wrong. I’d like an apology…. Should I attempt to contact him, or just let bygones be bygones? Honestly, I could take it or leave it. My only worry is that he will think date rape is OK.”
Tennis’ advice is lacking, despite being nearly 300 words long — see a rape counselor! Probably wise, but it doesn’t really address her desire to know that the person who date raped her doesn’t do it again. So what do you guys think? Should “Want Him To Know” get in touch with the person in question? Should she move on? Or do you think that any response he gives her wouldn’t give her the peace she desires? Tell us your thoughts in the comments! Maybe she reads The Frisky… Keep reading »
While watching your buddy cry her eyes out over some unworthy jerk isn’t nearly as painful as getting the heave-ho yourself, it’s still difficult. Most of us want to help our BFFs through breakups, but what do you say? Or, more importantly, what shouldn’t you say? Keep reading »
I have had some bad dates. Not the yelling or fighting type. Not the kind where anyone gets left in a restaurant. No, my bad dates are the ones you don’t want to tell anyone. You know you could win the prize for worst date, but the prize is not worth your dignity. In fact, most times you don’t think about them. Maybe if you pretend they never happened they will magically be erased. Keep reading »
I’m a Cancer (born June 27, 1989) and my lover is a Virgo (born September 12, 1987). We’ve been seeing each other for a couple of months. We both have this emotional pull and undeniable attraction towards each other and think we’re soul mates, but something keeps bothering me. I feel like he picks on me a lot. He’s critical about the way I dress and how much I weigh. For example, the day we met, he poked my thigh and was like, “Maybe you should go to the gym and work out.”
I don’t know if I’m being extra sensitive, which I am most of the time, but I love my curves and don’t want to change anything about my body. I run four times a week and eat healthy. Little things he says and does make me think maybe he’s not that into me, even though he claims to want to spend the rest of his life with me and wants me not to leave him. Am I being too sensitive for this harsh Virgo? Am I taking the little things too seriously? – Criticized Crab Keep reading »
The next time you get caught cheating, just blame nature and your physiology. Women who have a high level of the sex hormone oestradoil may be more likely to cheat, according to a recent study of 52 women aged 17 to 30. Women with high levels of oestradoil are highly fertile and feel more attractive, which makes them more likely to flirt, kiss, or have a serious affair. Highly fertile women apparently tire easily of long-term partners and are motivated to find more desirable partners. This excuse, however, won’t work if you’re just having casual sex on the side because women with high levels of oestradoil are usually serial monogamists. But then again, I doubt your man will be able to tell whether you have a lot of oestradoil. Can they make a T-shirt for that? [Science Daily via AOL] Keep reading »
The latest installment in the saga that is poor Jennifer Aniston’s love life is the news that she dumped sappy John Mayer because of his Twitter obsession. Apparently, John had been blowing off Jen for a while, claiming he was just too busy working to hang with her. When Aniston found out he wasn’t too busy to update Twitter every few minutes around the clock, she was livid. How to make sure you don’t suffer a similar fate? Pay attention to these top ten signs your significant other is becoming obsessed with Twitter, after the jump. Keep reading »
This morning while I was getting ready for work, my heart was warmed by a story on the “Today” show. Unlike the divorce battle in Long Island, NY, over whether a woman would be allowed to keep her estranged husband’s donated kidney, organ donation brought Jim and Bernadette Tobin back together. The two married young and divorced after 27 years. When he needed a kidney transplant several years later, Bernadette stepped up and donated one of her kidneys. While they were both healing from their surgeries, Jim and Bernadette fell back in love! “She saved my life and changed my life forever, giving me the gift of life,” Jim said. The two were remarried last Sunday. [Today] Keep reading »
Reader Rebecca found this one in Westerville, OH. We’re pretty sure Taylor Swift painted it there.
Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to firstname.lastname@example.org. Keep reading »