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Girl Talk: I’m Not Ready To Date Again

Last week, I went on a date. I haven’t been on a date in two years, owing to the relationship I was in that recently ended, and it was the most nerve wracking experience since the first day of high school. I tried on, like, six different outfits. I spent an hour and a half showering and doing my hair and makeup. As I walked to the restaurant where we’d agreed to meet for dinner, I forced myself to take long, deep breaths of the cold February air to calm down. It only kind of worked.

There’s no question my two-year relationship changed me from being the kind of girl who would sleep with two different men in one weekend just to have fun to a “relationship girl.” I feel like my wild oats were thoroughly sown — which is a good thing! — and that I matured a lot in the past few years. After the security, intimacy and love that I had with Ex-Mr. Jessica, I don’t think I could go backwards to being the rowdy girl I was before. At least right now, hopping in and out of bed with different dudes for fun just plain doesn’t interest me.

But I don’t know if I can do the exact opposite, either. The idea of dating someone seriously again, with the intention a relationship, is seriously daunting. Remember, I was dumped only a little over a month ago. Dipping my pinky toe into dating again — albeit briefly — has only shown me it’s too soon: I am still way, way, waaaay too messed up by all the things Ex-Mr. Jessica did to me to do this. Keep reading »

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A Valentine’s Day Love Letter To Myself

For Valentine’s Day, instead of waiting for love letters that’ll never come — because who sends those anymore, anyway? — we decided to practice a little self-love in the name of St. Valentine by writing them to ourselves. We invite you to do the same in the comments. First up, Amelia gives herself some love… Keep reading »

Are Men And Women Switching Roles In Relationships?

It may be time for us to stop complaining about how men are such commit-o-phobes and women are all gunning to get hitched and make babies. A new Match.com survey of more than 5,000 people, ages 21 to 65, of all races, sexual orientations, and socio-economic levels, found that more men are looking for attachment and commitment than their gender stereotypes would lead us to believe. Men reported experiencing love at first sight and wanting kids more often than their female counterparts. So, what do the women want while the men are catching up on their rom-coms? We want our independence, dammit! Women value good jobs, separate bank accounts, and girls-only vacays more than ever before. And motherhood? About half of the women surveyed did not believe that women should be primary caregivers for kids. In short, women are becoming more like men. Gender stereotypes be damned. [Live Science] Keep reading »

For The Week Of February 7-13, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Your subtlety works when smoothness is in order, but this time around, drop it. Instead, put on your flashiest looks, your Eff Me heels, and strut your stuff. Confidence matters now, as you have to flaunt who you truly are to that certain someone. After all, how else will anyone know you’ve got your red light special on, unless you turn on your brights?

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You may be the sign of partnership, but this week, you’ll have to bone up on your teamwork skills. Seems you’ll be playing the part of the fascist easily and to perfection, which at times will get you what you want, but the price you may pay for this one-sided behavior won’t be worth it. Sure, winning is fun, but not if you don’t have anyone to celebrate with.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

You should never stop negotiating what you want, but it doesn’t mean you have to share every thought you have either. Be prudent with what you reveal now. Not to say you can’t have needs and express it, but if you are going to get them met, it’ll mean having a communication strategy that involves knowing what to say at the right moment.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

While it’s nice to be spoiled, don’t let the presents get in your way of seeing straight. Yes, each relationship has its own perks, and as you enter this week, it’ll be obvious that cold hard cash will be what your latest one has to offer. However, ignoring what’s going on behind the smoke and mirrors of these grand displays may be to your detriment.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

How you feel about yourself is going to directly translate into the success of your love life this week. So, if this means splurging on yourself, as in adding some spice to your look or having knots worked out of your back, this is the time to make that investment and set a standard for yourself. After all, great loves begin within, so love deeply.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

The finish line is in sight and all you have to do is muster up one last burst of energy and push yourself, because the reward you so deserve is sitting there waiting for you to claim it. The good news is that after all is said and done, and what you desire is tightly in your hands, everything will take its own course and you’ll have time to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You may have some strange ideas about how you want to indulge yourself now, which may make you wonder if something is up. Instead, just work it and go with the flow. Things won’t be normal per se, but they will be interesting and unless you’re brave and taste these bizarre new flavors, you may never know this whole new level of paradise existed.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Group decisions are your red tape now, as nothing is going to be hustling along too fast; it seems everyone has an opinion and will get their turn at bat. While it would be nice to break away from the crowd now, it won’t be possible, as this is the only way you can get to the next step. So instead of fighting it, think of this as time to practice your diplomacy skills.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Now is the time to show off your talents. Yes, time to realize your worth and push for others to get it too. If this means speaking out in high ideals, then don’t spare any fancy words. The fact of the matter is that right now the blind are leading the blind, but you have vision, so share it and save the day! This is your time to play hero!

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Taking chances is what makes you thrive and while you may want to weigh your decisions more carefully, the sands of time are slipping away and the longer you take only puts more pressure on the answer you reveal. The best bet now is to jump in headfirst, if you’re curious, and sort it out later. As it goes, fate is only standing by a little while longer to help you along.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

You and your honey will be total sync, bringing out the animal in you. So, don’t be shy in revealing your kinkier side and exploring darker fantasies, as it will bring out a new level of trust for the both of you. Not that you have to unlock your Pandora’s Box so quickly, but go ahead and start the tease, because the surprises in store are brilliant!

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

It’s all about love this week, so don’t hold back how you feel, as the response you want will be waiting for you with open arms. Of course, just because there is a lot of romance in the air, doesn’t necessarily translate to anything adventurous. In fact, it’ll be doing the daily chores and more mundane tasks together that’ll feel the sweetest.

What The Year Of The Rabbit Means For Your Love Life

In the Chinese calendar, 2010 was the year of the Tiger. If you’re feeling a little tuckered out after these past 12 months, that’s natural. It was quite a torrid affair—full of tumultuous mood swings, lots of hard work and over-the-top passionate adventures.

Yeah, we know. Phew.

We survived the drama, and even enjoyed it to a certain extent, but it’s time to move on to a calmer year and animal. Enter 2011. Come February 3, it’s the year of the Rabbit. Need a little schooling on what that means? Let’s take a look. Keep reading »

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