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The Clock Is Ticking … Where Is Your Summer Fling?

It’s been three summers now during which I’ve been single. And each time around May, I contemplate the “spring-summer” romance. Magic? Or tragic? Unfortunately for me, past summer hookups have been nothing short of tragedies. But perhaps this is because I haven’t gone about finding that summer fling in the right way. Probably because my perception of this type of relationship lives in a Sandals Resort commercial—a man with model good looks and I have sex in a tiki hut, make out in the surf à la “From Here to Eternity,” a vacation home in the Hamptons, meeting the parents, engagement, marriage…ahhh! You can see how I set myself up for disaster.

True, about two months ago I was still telling girlfriends, “I’m going to find my summer fling,” despite my clear inability to handle one. When no prospects presented themselves, I decided once and for all to get serious (it is JULY, after all). And by getting serious, I mean lowering expectations and setting out to find fun. Just fun, plain and simple. Here, my new tactics (which have so far yielded success) for finding your summer manfriend, pronto. Keep reading »

Blind Dates And Texting Don’t Mix — Or Do They?

Over at Double X, there’s this truly hilarious essay by Kelly Seal, who explains how she found herself apologizing to someone she was supposed to go on a date with, before they ever met, via text messaging. How and why? Seal and “Doug1968” met online dating and exchanged a few emails before setting up an in-person date. As has become incredibly typical of modern dating rituals, they opted to firm up their plans via text message. That’s when things got tricky. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Is Soul Mate-ism Preventing Us From Finding True Love?

I remember being a little girl and hearing my mother use the term “soul mates.”

“What is ‘soul mates’?” I asked.

“It’s beshert,” she said.


“It’s meant to be,” she explained. Keep reading »

Ask The Astrosexologist: We’re Perfect Together, But There’s No Sparks

I (5/10/85) have been dating my boyfriend (6/27/78) for about a year and a half now. Our relationship is the best I’ve ever been in. We hardly fight (and not because one of us is holding something back, we are just highly compatible) and we like a lot of the same things. Our feelings about family, religion, and relationships are also similar.

But after over a year of dating, my boyfriend has yet to tell me he loves me. I brought up the topic about three months ago and he said, “Do I need to spell it out? Don’t my actions show you how I feel?” (I’m the first girl he’s ever introduced to his family and all his friends.) Then he said he hasn’t said the “L” word because there’s something “missing” between us. Keep reading »

Love Vandal: Anchor Heart

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to Keep reading »

Relationship In Limbo? Use The Breakup Formula

“My boyfriend is hot then cold towards me. I care about him, but I don’t know if the relationship is worth the effort. Should we stay together or break up?” — Mary, Massachusetts


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  • Horror Stories: Dating Set Ups Gone Wrong!

    When my grandma called me a few weeks ago to make me promise I’d go out with her friend’s grandson if he called me, I stupidly agreed. You see, my thinking was, What guy is really going to call some girl he doesn’t know because her grandma says she’s a catch? And even if he did defy my cynical expectations and call me, good old grandma told me a solid five times that he is just “so handsome, Lily, you have no idea. And witty, too!”

    So when mystery man did, in fact, call a week later, I paused briefly before agreeing to lunch. I mean, if worse came to worst, at least I’d have something pretty to look at while contemplating ripping my arm off just for the excitement.

    Never. Again.
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    For The Week Of July 6-12, 2009

    Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

    When you are at your best, you know it. You feel it in your bones. Don’t deny you know this about yourself, just because some loser guy can’t get with your program. You can rationalize all you want, make excuses, but if he is not with you in the here and now, then you have to stop lying to yourself. Realize, once the lies stop, the truth and new hotness can come back in.

    Libra (September 23 – October 22)

    Being the team leader is not a role you prefer, but this week if you want your baby to start picking up the slack and stop treating you like you’re hired help, then you are going to have to kick some ass and make demands. Enough is enough and if you want to feel like the queen of your domain, you are going to have to get your serf to act accordingly.

    Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

    You know you suffer from the “hearing what you want to hear” syndrome, but this week a vaccine is in sight and these interesting communications will reveal something quite mysterious, intense and real. Seems there is more than meets the eye with whoever this sly talker is and that no matter what is learned, a bigger curiosity is about to open in your mind.

    Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

    The love for your boo is about to soar to new heights, but don’t forget you have a life too. While the attached at the hip look is cute and will give you a sense of security that you crave, know it won’t bode well if you start blowing off others to keep playing arm candy. Realize what makes you special is your independence, so exercise it for maximum happiness.

    Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

    Ultimatums are necessary if you want to see the life you want happen. Otherwise, waiting for someone to get on your page or seeing if what you think they are isn’t actually what they are will only postpone you from your destination. There is no time to waste, as time is crucial. Be willing to lay down the law or forever hold your peace.

    Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

    If you want your future to brighten up, you have to let bygones be bygones. No matter how new the wounds may be, packing up the past in a box and sending it down the river is vital for your immediate future. Letting anything fester will only open up the emotional gashes bigger and more unnecessarily so. Take the power and make a clean break be your only option.

    Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

    Trying to be friends with an ex isn’t always the best option. Although you’d like to show you can be a bigger person, why? No one is judging you and you aren’t running to be the next Mother Theresa. Seriously, some people don’t deserve your time and if you couldn’t love them one way, realize you don’t have to love them at all.

    Aries (March 21 – April 19)

    This is going to be a busy work week and to get your kicks you might have to settle on more psychological ways of getting off. Be ready to test your skills at phone sex, virtual sex toys or whatever you may be open to that isn’t the traditional way of going feeding your desires. As it goes, this is the time to prove you can have it all.

    Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

    Break tradition and be the first to spill your guts. You know what you feel and waiting for validation isn’t going to change that. While you do like to hold onto your security blankets as long as you can, time to speed up your love life. With some of your turbo force love that has you taking control, you will lead the pack to beautiful places.

    Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

    You’ll have the whole world in your hand, how you want to stroke it is up to you. Seems you will have the charming element to make men submit to your will easily. However, your eyes will be bigger than your stamina, so use this power accordingly and sparingly, as where you direct your energies will set the pace for the rest of the month.

    Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

    Love will be making you crazy, as it takes a hold of you and has you relentlessly plowing after that object of desire, as if your life depended on it. Hallelujah for the passion and determination, as this will bring you to a whole new level of psycho and has you proving to that right someone that you are a sucker for their love.

    Leo (July 23 – August 22)

    You can’t always get everything you want and this week it’ll be even more frustratingly so, as there will be two hot choices, but only one path you can take. You’ve juggled in the past and learned that no good can come from that behavior — despite how good it may sound in theory. This time around, guarantee yourself some real resolve and be mature by seizing your own fate.

    Girl Talk: Why Some Guys Date Train Wrecks

    I will never forget the feeling in my stomach the night I found out the guy I was dating was still sleeping with his ex.

    The fact that he was canoodling with any other woman behind my back was bad enough. The fact that it was ex added insult to injury. But what really made me want to throw up was that she was a complete and utter train wreck.

    We all know train wrecks. She’s your college roommate who drank every night, never went to class and slept with the football team. She’s your friend whose favorite hobbies are causing drama and being self-destructive. She’s all the girls from “Rock of Love.” And sometimes, she’s the girl your man leaves you for. Keep reading »

    Top 15 Tips For Young Women

    A couple months ago I posted a letter to my younger self, to which many of you responded with letters to your own younger selves in the comment section. Turns out, we had a lot to say to our mini-me’s — from dating advice to style tips, we’ve learned a lot since the days we donned jelly shoes and spent weekends cruising the mall (or should I say we’ve learned a lot since the first time we donned jelly shoes and spent weekends cruising the mall?). I combed through the letters to our younger selves for the best lessons learned and wisdom gained. After the jump, 15 tips for the young women behind us. Keep reading »

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