Already, the holidays are right around the corner, and before you know it, they’ll be here. But come Christmas Day, if everyone’s supposed to be brimming with cheer, why is mom crying at the stove and Uncle Pete hanging out down at the local bar? Probably because of all the baggage we carry into the holidays. Luckily, First30Days.com has created a how to guide to surviving the season. It all comes down to the Three F’s: family, finances, and food — and if we can add a fourth — fun! After the jump, how to handle your family during the holidays. Keep reading »
Right now, I’m in the most serious relationship I’ve ever been in; as in, even though I live in New York and he lives in San Francisco, we’ve talked about where and when we could live together — and how soon. He’s met my uncle; I’ve gone to his family’s cabin, and I’m joining them for Thanksgiving. His mom sends me emails, and my grandmother sends me clippings urging him to stop smoking. We talk almost every night and end most calls with “I love you.” Keep reading »
For the record, when the press refers disparagingly to Manhattan intellectuals, I feel insulted. I’m not a Nascar fan. I don’t really get “The Hills.” I don’t call Barack Obama by his middle name. I like a lot of cultural things. I love contemporary art. I majored in Philosophy. I’m more than happy to eat sweetbreads. However, if there’s a street festival anywhere in the Manhattan area, I will find it, because I know that they will be selling deep fried Oreos. And while I don’t get “The Hills,” I completely and utterly get “The Girls Next Door” and am shocked that Hef and Holly have called it quits. One of my greatest dreams is to see a monster truck rally.
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Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Your drive will be tanking, as your energies get scattered. Instead of panicking and thinking the worst, take this as a sign to cool down and recollect yourself. If anything, this is a perfect opportunity to rekindle the magic with your baby and realize there is more to your life than just fighting for the finer things, but appreciating them too.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
You mind will be wandering far from your body; to get things to match up again, take a spontaneous trip. Even if time won’t allow anything major, just doing a sleep over at a friends will do the trick as anything that removes you from your day to day life will do wonders in putting you back in the right frame of mind to f**k and frolic the way you love it once again.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
It’ll be all out anarchy at Scorpio central this week. Your mind will run about with ambitious thoughts, your body consumed with more practical pursuits and then there’ll be your spirit. Seems your inner soul will be feeling a bit restless and a bout of wild curiosities will tempt you into all sorts of interesting turmoil. Yes, you know it, the bitch is back!
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
It’s your way or the highway and if your honeyman can’t get with that program, then he better reconsider who he is getting himself in deeper with. This isn’t your time to compromise and there’s no reason you should be. If anyone thinks they can interfere, well, that person has no idea who you really are and won’t ever. Accept that now and forever have your peace.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
A trip down memory lane can happen any moment, forcing you to have to rectify your past and deal with ongoing issues that are driving a big ole wedge into your love life. Although using this as your cushion to avoid anyone getting close to you has been a fun game of cat and mouse so far, things won’t be as cute going forward. Cease and desist those blocks now!
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Exploring new faces and different places will make for a big surge in your popularity, as long as you know how to spread your love around and work it, because sitting in one place too long won’t bode well for you, as going in too deep with anyone will cause friction and disinterest. You know it, it’s all about the superficialness this week, so live it, love it and OD on it.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Your motivation will be on the rise, but if you waste this energy towards your romance, rather than your career, you’ll be missing the boat of major opportunities to get to a new level in your life that can have you meeting a higher standard of men that will understand your dreams better and know how to support you. In other words, fight your instant gratification instinct!
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Your appetite for adventure will increase to a heightened level of excitement and make you horny for foreign meat. Break free of your confines and do all you can to get what you must, as tasting the pleasure of something out of your norm will be what satisfies you the most. If this means booking yourself a trip to a far away land, consider it foreplay for the best ride of your life.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
You are under no obligation to have to tell whom ever you are sleeping with all you secrets, unless they are of the STD variety. Otherwise, having some mystery should be an enticement to keep the passion alive. However, playing this both ways is going to be necessary to make it work, as in accepting he’s got a few skeletons in his closet too.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Get off the fence and say, “Yes!” Whatever opportunities are coming your way in terms of partnership will only bring about luck. Sure, you have some issues with commitment, as in claustrophobia, but nothing ever has to be forever. Instead of trying to paint a big ugly picture, see it as pieces of a puzzle you want to sort out.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Changing up your routines will do wonders for your overall morale, as just thinking about a better life isn’t going to happen — that just isn’t how the laws of attraction work. To win it, you have to be in it. So, this means putting your feet in the water and not being afraid to get a little dirty. Besides, deep down what you truly do desire is a little filth.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Your libido will have a mind of its own and if you try stopping it from its path of destruction, you will only have yourself to blame, as it seems it will have an invincible power to see, aim, and conquer. So, just sit back, look pretty and follow those impulses, as it’ll give you all that you want and didn’t know you thought was so delectable.
Last week, we covered how to avoid being a bad heartbreaker, so this week we’ll tackle the other side of things. Coincidentally, it’s a side of dating I’m far more familiar with: how to accept being dumped with dignity.
Just as there are myriad ways to screw up breaking someone’s heart, the possibilities for botching a “getting-broken-up-with” are limitless. Here are some behaviors to avoid so you won’t compound your heartache with a total loss of self respect. Keep reading »
I tried marriage and I don’t understand the attraction. I hated it. It’s such hard work. I had to organize the maids, the chef, assistants, chauffeurs, gardeners. All that staff. Exhausting. What really did it for me was when my husband told me he wanted children. Can you imagine? Ruining your figure for babies; those smelly things that leak at both ends?
At the beginning of a marriage everyone is on their best behavior. Everyone is pretending to be something their not. He’s pretending to be terribly fascinated in everything you say, he brushes his teeth, acts like a super stud in the bedroom, and living room, and kitchen… And we women pretend that he’s our “super hero,” we wear high heels and naughty little teddies, we shave our legs everyday. But six months and he’s turned deaf and dumb, your legs are hairy, neither one of you has brushed your teeth, you pick your nose and he picks his butt. He farts, you burp. The teddies have been replaced with sweats; he sits in front of the TV with the “game” on, mumbling, a beer in hand. You barely speak to each other; you’re too tired to have sex. Marriage. What is the advantage? Keep reading »
Cheating is a tricky business. As it should be, considering it is morally reprehensible. However, I’m not here to judge anyone about their extra-marital affairs, I’m just here to give the facts. And the fact is AshleyMadison.com is supposedly the world’s number one “dating” service, with over 2.5 million members. I decided to do a little undercover work and signed on to the site to find out exactly what members are entitled to. This site began in 2001 — with the motto “Life is Short. Have an Affair.” — but has just not started to garner attention since it’s been featured on “The Tyra Show,” “20/20,” “The Ellen DeGeneres Show,” “Dr. Phil,” and “Larry King Live.” One woman told Tyra that within the last six months of being on AshleyMadison.com, she’d slept with about 150 people.
We recently made a wish list of traits you’re hoping your next boyfriend will posses. Looking at all the characteristics that were stipulated, we started to think about ourselves and what we would bring to a relationship with a man who has all the qualities we desire. There’s a reason we’re so picky about who we date. Sure, we’re not perfect, but there’s a lot us ladies bring to the table, too. After the jump, read the reasons Frisky staffers think we make good girlfriends, and leave yours in the comments. Keep reading »
Yesterday while flipping though my new issue of Time Out New York I spotted a listing in the “Seek” section under the heading “Dating” that made me take pause. It was an announcement for a “Quiet Party,” a singles event where, get this, participants are not allowed to talk (I guess that’s one way to take care of rule #3…). Instead of speaking with each other, party guests are asked to write notes to each other, nonverbally flirt (rule #2!) and buy a minimum of two drinks (“Once this playful foundation mixes with a little alcohol, inhibitions disappear and notes begin to fly,” the website explains.). Hey, as far as I’m concerned, it beats screaming at each other over loud voices and thumping music in some bar. Plus, I’m all for anything that gives writerly word nerds a little edge. Keep reading »