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Girl Talk: My Date With A Porn Star

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So, a male porn star walks into a bar. I’m going to call him PS for short, to keep things simple. I’ve seen PS around Chicago before; a couple years back, we ended up at the same karaoke event until 6 a.m. But we hadn’t talked much until I ran into him at the aforementioned bar, attending a fundraiser for sex workers’ rights. See, I write about sex with a focus on S&M and I do activism around it as well, so I end up coordinating with sex worker activists a lot. Plus, sex workers totally know how to put the ‘fun’ in ‘fundraiser.’

As we sipped on drinks, PS and I chatted about sex education, work/life distinctions, and that sex toy demonstration at Northwestern that landed a professor in the center of a controversy. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Doesn’t Use Pot Holders” Responds

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It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Doesn’t Use Pot Holders,” who wrote in because her boyfriend’s sister, whom he shared an apartment with, hated her. After the jump, find out if the sister managed to wreck the relationship and how everyone is doing today. Keep reading »

He Said/She Said: Our First Vacation Together

This love train continues to steamroll ahead, flattening my former single girl life in its path and chugging into serious couple territory. After only a month of living together, a few pre-planned events came to fruition all in the same week – getting our puppy, meeting his parents and escaping to the beach for our own spring break. Keep reading »

For The Week Of March 28-April 3, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean everyone else should cease to exist. So, no matter how obligated you are, realize new attractions are always possible and it’s controlling them that’s the hard part. Otherwise, what is wrong with enjoying the view and using it as your inspiration for other parts of your life? After all, there is nothing wrong with daydreaming, right? Right.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Love will turn a new corner, as commitment and all the lovely things that it can bring will be the highlight of your life. Finally, you will be able to see life heading in a more comprehensible direction. Not to say it’s all butterflies and rainbows forever, but at least for the next few weeks, all will be as idyllic as it appears. So enjoy it while it lasts.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

You’re a lady that gets what she wants. Not because you’re lucky, so much as you are willing to work down to the bone in expressing your passion and dedication to stand by whomever or whatever you believe in. While this hasn’t always worked in favor, instead driving you to the edge, this week, a miracle is in store. The method to your madness will be right on the money.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

If you want it, fight a little harder. Nothing will come easy now, but it is in arm’s reach, so make up your mind and claim your prize. Of course, you can let it pass, as perhaps your initial hesitation is its own sign, however, new options are moving in and can soon make you obsolete to that other. So, if you want to live with this “what if” in your mind, then so be it.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

You might have been raised to be certain way, but oh well, you have a mind of your own and life turned out differently. Sure, family might have a thousand things to say about your choices, but are they living your life? No. So, time to put your foot down and boldly show off your decisions and how well they actually work for you. If you teach them, they will learn.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Your fuse will be a lot shorter these days and you’ll have no time for stupidity. While you may wonder when you ever had time for the insipid, you’ll oddly realize that as of late you have been a bit more forgiving of dummies. However, the obvious becomes even more so this week, as somehow the rose colored glasses will fall off and have you quickly editing your contact list.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You’ve said all you had to and done all you need to do. Now, time to languish back in a job well done and enjoy the results of your efforts. If others want to argue with you and beg to differ about what more you should be doing, drown them out. As it goes, this is your time to chill out and love being you. Anyone getting in the way is only making it obvious they just don’t get you.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

This week will bring on lots of self-doubt and obsessing about the past, causing you to beat yourself up. Seems you just won’t be able to stop with the self-critique. However, the end of the week will bring a sudden change, as you will go full circle with your pity party, leading you into a brilliant idea that will instantly put you back on top. All you have to do after that is keep it moving.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

The past is going to be popping up in a weird way this week, but the side effects could be goo, possibly stopping you from making a decision that may seem right now, but further down the line could cause complications. Whatever happens now, don’t deny the signs that will appear, as they will have significance.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Life will really be starting to fall into line, as some aspect of a deeper wish will begin to align and slowly shift your life in a new direction. Yes, dreams do come true and you will be living proof. Not to say this wasn’t without major effort on your part — and that you won’t backtrack every so often — but without a doubt, know you’re totally on the right path.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

News of your little inner freak will get out, but that won’t be anything to get your panties in a bunch over. So, take it in stride. We all have skeletons in our closets, but at least yours can be useful to another, as in finally giving them a clue about the things that will rev your engine for maximum play. Realize not all accidents have dire consequences.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Who cares about the future, when you can feel so good now?! Yes, time for instant gratification, as that is all that will make sense to you now. Sure, you might be burning a few bridges in the meantime, but whatever, not all of them were useful anyway, as sometimes igniting those fires is the highlight of the fun anyway.

Don’t Be A Lemon On A First Date

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La Bella Figura, translated literally means “the beautiful figure.” It can mean many things but for Italians it is a way of life and it means the way one appears and presents oneself in the world. Italians are very protective of La Bella Figura, they guard it with their lives and would do anything to preserve it. It might be hard for us to understand, but in essence Italians take pride in the way they look, not only physically, but also figuratively and most importantly how they look in other people’s eyes. They are obsessed about making the best impression everywhere and at all times. In their minds there is a certain way that one is supposed to behave and act, and if one doesn’t … oh, well then it is a Brutta Figura (ugly figure)!

This way of thinking permeates the essence of the Italian being. No wonder Italians are known for beauty, presentation, quality and luxury. For centuries, they have mastered the art of presenting oneself in the most perfect way possible. Beauty is valued and respected in Italy as one of the venerated assets of the culture. From the art to the architecture and all the way to the perfectly designed dress, the Bella Figura can be found in the style and fashion we love and follow today. Just think about the effort Italian women make every day when they put on their stilettos and walk down the cobblestone street, now that is dedication! Keep reading »

4 Things I’ve Learned Moving Back In With My Parents As An Adult

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When I first moved back home with my parents after a nasty breakup, there was much to be embarrassed about. What was a 26-year-old (and eventually 27-year-old) doing moving back into her childhood bedroom? Why couldn’t I have become an investment banker so I had thousands of dollars saved for a situation like that? I had to see my parents every single day and answer their myriad questions about where I was going, what I was doing, and if that was what I was really wearing. (Yes.) I had to ask permission to borrow their cars. I had to explain to guys from online dating that I lived with my parents. And, of course, I had vibrators, lingerie and sex books to hide.

But moving back with the ‘rents was the best possible decision for sure. I don’t want to sleep on anyone’s couch and I especially don’t want to wear out my welcome on anyone’s couch. More importantly, though, I was a shellshocked. I needed some TLC, lots of margaritas, and several seasons of “Keeping Up With The Kardashians” on Netflix Instant — as well as time, space, and rent-free living — to get myself back on my feet. When I move back to New York City into a new apartment next weekend, I will take my love and gratitude towards Mom and Dad right along with me. Here are four things I’ve learned after moving back in with my parents — for better or for worse — as an adult… Keep reading »

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