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I don’t know what to do about my Virgo coworker (9/09/77). I’m a much younger Taurus (5/09/87), and he’s been flirting with me since November. He stares at me often — to the point that other workers have noticed and commented. Most of the office assumes that there’s something between us, but we’ve grabbed dinner after work only once (and fast food hardly counts). I’ve asked him out on a few occasions, but he always declines. He says he has issues caused by an ex, who was also younger than him, that he’s still broken up about. Apparently, she left him after he got laid off, and she broke his heart.
He told a mutual friend that he thinks I’m very attractive and that he does like me, but he won’t date me because of the age difference. Personally, I think that age doesn’t matter. I hold a higher position, despite being one of the youngest in our office, and usually act more mature than he does. Is there something more that he won’t own up to? Am I missing something? Is there some way to show him that age is just a number?” – Too Stubborn to Give Up Keep reading »
I’ve learned some valuable things about life, love, and being female over the past half-century. Here is the advice I try to pass on to younger women in my life (family and friends) in the hope that it will save them some precious time:
1. You are at least ten times prettier than you think you are.
That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don’t believe me? Ask your mother/auntie/grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean? Keep reading »
Standstills are not your cup of tea, but realize you don’t have to take a passive route and think you have to wait around for others to make a move. You have many other directions to head and many other options to forage. If you think in any other way, you will only be screwing yourself of chances that hold way more promise.
Your tastes have been somewhat questionable and this week, even you will be taking a second look at your choices, trying to sort out what is happening and how you were led into the moment you are currently faced in. Of course, this could be a grand ole surprise too. Whatever the case, a big 180 won’t be out of the realm of your possibilities.
Your anxiety levels are finally going to start dropping and you will start to feel like a sane person in a matter of time. The crazy issues you’ve let you brain get wrapped around and the dramas you’ve create in your head will reach a very anticlimactic breakthrough that will suddenly have you shrugging your shoulders and saying, “Okay, now what?”
If you keep cruising from the explosive energy of last week, then this week will basically continue your giddiness. If you didn’t have a fab week last week, the perhaps look out for this week to serve it up, as this is your time when karmic payback will light you up in places you thought only the dark could witness.
Your diva routine is going to backfire on you if you don’t infuse a sense of humor into your act. Even though you may be right and you have every reason to make demands in your love life right now, humility will take it that next step and keep your classy aura intact. Otherwise, remember there is a fine line between having balls and just being a bitch.
Options make your life go around, because if there is something you like, it’s having your brain wander into the far reaches of the universe. This week you imagination starts to turn onto a higher level, making you realize there is more than what you want to see. Seems there are things that exist that you have to learn to see and this week, you’ll be seeing them!
There are always two sides to every story, so before you go rushing to judgment and thinking you know it all, wait. In time, the truth will reveal itself and vindication will clear that guilty suspect on the line. Otherwise, blowing up and assuming the worst inevitably will cause your relationship to suffer.
Money issues are a drag, which will be brought up again this week and put a damper on your mood. However, if you just face up to the drama now and sort it out, a compromise will come as your ingenuity for negotiations are in prime form. While this may not forever kill this issue, consider this a big enough band-aid to hold it down for a decent amount of time.
Don’t be too shocked to run into people you haven’t thought of in ages. This will make you have a major blast from the past and a bout of nostalgia that’ll have you thinking all sorts of crazy things about your current life. Hopefully this will be an enriching and ego boosting movement, because as these things go, anything can happen.
Forgiveness is an easy thing you give out. However, it’s the follow through and never bringing up those arguments again that can drag you back down the pit. Luckily, this week, you will have one last hoorah of that old and worn out issue that seems to rain on your parade and by the start of the new month, all will be sunshine and smiles once again.
Your boo’s friends will be a point of contention with you and if you don’t want to turn a mountain out of a molehill, you’re going to have to find a way to deal in the less intrusive manner because if you place yourself in the hot spot for too long, you will explode and it won’t be a pretty picture. Perhaps this is a week to catch up your friends.
Just when you thought power struggles would be the death of you, a light will come at the end of the tunnel that’ll shower respect and accolades onto you. Sure, you’ll have to truly put yourself to the test and humble yourself to the unknown to get it, but there are far worst things you have had to do to get reverence in your past, so consider this pass a piece of cake.
Some female bloggers call the U.K. paper the Daily Mail the “Daily Fail” because the paper likes nothing more than to bait its readers, especially on its women’s interest “Femail” section. It’s the go-to source for incendiary articles about how bosses should distrust women who don’t have children and you can’t have a family and a career. Nope, we weren’t making those up.
But nevertheless, the paper is fascinating to us—especially a recent article about what it is supposedly like to be a French wife. We romanticized about the sexy accents, and yummy facial hair, but zut alors!, it sounds a bit like being the captive of a very demanding tyrant.
My grandparents are celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary this summer with a big party of family and long-time friends. I’ll be flying to St. Louis with my fiancé, my sister’s flying in from Austin, and my parents will be visiting from their home in Germany. It’ll be as much a family reunion as a celebration of my grandparents’ long marriage — a testament, really, to the bonds they’ve helped create and nurture over the last six decades. As a gift, one of my aunts wants to make a family tree, which seems like a nice enough idea. But when another family member alerted me that my fiancé won’t be included on the tree because our wedding isn’t until several weeks after my grandparents’ anniversary, it got me thinking: when does a couple become a “family”? Keep reading »
Although there’s still a certain inexplicable stigma attached to it, I am a huge proponent of online dating. I met my long-term boyfriend that way and the majority of weddings I’ve been to over the past couple years have been for couples who’ve met via the internet.
So whenever I hear a friend whine about how they never meet anyone, I give them the online spiel. Heck, Nerve.com should be paying me a commission because I’ve talked so many people into joining.
But as awesome as online dating is for expanding your dating pool, there are also some negatives. The biggest being that it can bring out the worst in people. And by people, I mean you.
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Does your groom have delusions of grandeur when he talks about the size of his … reception hall? Then he might be a Groomzilla! Craig Bridger, author of “Surviving Groomzilla: A Bride’s Guide” discusses how to tame the beast that has taken over the wedding planning.
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A few men have hurt our feelings with their words, but guys aren’t the only ones to verbally abuse. We thought it would be fair to come clean about the meanest things we’ve said to the opposite sex. All our statements were completely provoked and deserved for some reason or another, OK? Keep reading »