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Sassy sophisticated relationship advice for real women everywhere: dating advice, love advice, and more!

Limerence: A Psychological Condition To Describe A Crush That Won’t Go Away

My senior year of college, I fell head over heels in love (or so I thought) for the first time. Aaron* and I had an on-and-off friends with benefits type situation that I kept hoping would evolve into more. It didn’t and I probably should have stopped hooking up with him because it really wasn’t benefitting me mentally. But I just couldn’t. Not being with him literally made me sick. I thought about him almost constantly, completely involuntarily. The obsessive thoughts continued even after I graduated and moved to New York, when having a FWB relationship wasn’t even possible. I would think about him while I was at work, while I was on the subway, before I went to bed at night, all the time. In total, my mind and heart’s obsession with him lasted for three goddamn years. Sounds kind of crazy, right?

Turns out, my crush may have actually been a sign of a rare psychological disorder called “limerence,” in which someone “is in a constant state of compulsory longing for another person.” Keep reading »

“Tush,” “Booty” And Other Inappropriate Ways Grown Men Have Referred To My Butt

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I am not a picky woman. I haven’t chucked a guy to the curb for being super short or for liberally quoting “Family Guy” without realizing that’s the last recourse of the unoriginal. I try to accept men with all their imperfections. Even the guy who always referred to my butt as a “tush” in bed. Keep reading »

For The Week Of July 18-24, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You can worry yourself sick over everything you have and don’t have, but why put yourself on such a paranoid path? Who cares? Every day can bring new surprises, which can lead you through varying standards by-the-day. The only one judging yourself is you, and why play that game when you always put yourself last on every list? Yes, time to rethink your approach.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Who cares what gets in your way now, you have the force to make anything happen, as your will to succeed will be indomitable! So, remember this as this week starts with some curve balls thrown your way, leaving you wondering what the point is. However, know if you work through it, the pot of gold at the end of this rainbow will be larger than you expect!

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Hold tight, as your rise to fame is going to go faster and much more direct! Yes, good news is coming, as what you’ve been wishing on a star for will finally start to show hints that it’s going to happen. Just don’t hesitate to know you deserve this moment and go with it. Consequences? They’ll be minor and you can deal with them later. For now, time to celebrate!

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sometimes it’s what others expect of you that makes you work harder to reach that goal, so don’t slack off and give up on that someone that has been showing sluggish signs of inferiority. As it goes, it is in them, but it will just take a bit more encouragement. Thankfully, this is a week when playing cheerleader will suit your style.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Don‘t hold back the animal in you, as bringing it fully now is what it’ll take to get that other to open their eyes and see the real you. Sure, the coy routine works if you want to spend your life as a bottom, but why suffer at the whims of another? Time to grab the bull by the horns and show it what you’ve got, because that’s the only way to incite their passion from within.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Money can’t buy you love, but it can get you blown the way you like. Yes, buying favors now will be what gets your honey to do as you wish. Not that you have to be extravagant, but showing some appreciation with your wallet will be just what is needed to revive the magic once again, as flashing a little green will get you tickled pink.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

No matter how lackluster you’re feeling, fake it until you can make it. Yes, bring those bells and whistles to your style and show off, even if you have to put on a happy face. As the sign of theatrics, you know you can play any part if need be, and that is what will be required of you. You never know what you can spark to ignite another and yourself at any moment’s notice.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You love to bark out orders, so this week will be right up your alley — knowing what direction you want to go in and how you want others to follow suit will matter. Seems as though it’ll also require some risk-taking, as going along worn paths won’t be where you will find your treasure. In fact, the more left of center you aim, the more on target you will be.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

If you aren’t feeling it, there is no need to let yourself loose all over town. This week, if you want to get it good, the odds are in your favor to get it delivered right to your door. Yes, time to host some impromptu get togethers and invite one and all, as who winds up ringing your doorbell could be just what you’ve been waiting for.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You have a gift with words, so don’t let anyone out talk you when it comes to your feelings, ideas or decisions. They can say whatever they want, but be ready to throw back what you’ve got, even if you have to drag some drama into your case. In fact, hearing you say what you must may be your biggest eye-opener yet!

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

To be at your best, you need to feel as your best. If this requires you indulge some of your naughty little vices, well, then so be it. After all, you’re not applying for sainthood and god knows you need the release. So, do what you will, as it’s all about the decadence and glamour you submit yourself into now that’ll bring you back round to feeling like the real you.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Break free of that someone that doesn’t get it and be done with it already. No more beating your head against a brick wall trying to get them to see the obvious, as they just won’t. Best to cut your loses now, as nothing should be this hard and the only conclusion you can make at this point is that they truly are that stupid.

Stupidity Digest: 1516 Ways To Kill The Romance

Romance is a source of mystery for most men. You try to open the door for a woman and she tells you she’s not coming into the men’s room. You spell her name in rose petals and she spells your name on a restraining order. Romance is confusing! Luckily, I remembered something my third fifth grade teacher said to me. Not about romance (he taught me about that with only his eyes and hands), but about learning. He said books! Something about books! Well I tried it. And after reading these books and their 1516 tips on romance, the only thing I know about the subject is that books are idiots. Read more… Keep reading »

7 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Fresh

Every relationship has its point where things begin to seem a bit…well…dull. When you first start dating, the excitement of getting to know someone new, trying new things and having new experiences is exhilarating and helps to keep the spark alive. But after a while when the “new” hype has died down, we look for other ways to spice things up in our relationship. Instantly we think, the bedroom! But spicing things up between you and your boyfriend doesn’t necessarily have to mean amping up your sex life. Staying connected is what’s most important, in whatever way possible.

Although I am all for keeping things hot in the bedroom, here are a few ways that you and your boyfriend can keep the relationship fresh by staying connected. Trying out at least a few of these tips will be sure to give your relationship the face lift its been needing. Read more… Keep reading »

Girl Talk: When I Grow Up, I Want To Be Tami Taylor

There’s a lot to love about “Friday Night Lights,” a TV show about so much more than just high school football. My interest in the show was initially sparked by the sight of Taylor Kitsch, sweaty and shirtless, but it struck an unexpected chord with me. I came for the hot guy— I stayed for the honest and realistic portrait of long-term monogamy and lessons on leadership and compromise. For those reasons, the character of Tami Taylor has resonated with me the most. I often find myself asking, What would Tami Taylor do? Here’s why. Keep reading »

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