Category Archives: Relationships

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Girl Talk: My First Sex Partner Gave Me Herpes

“I have to introduce you to my cousin Logan*,” my childhood friend told me emphatically one weekend when I was home from college. “He’s really good looking—if he were taller he could be a model.”

“… OK,” I answered with trepidation. I was 19, and my freshman year of college at a small, cloistered university in the middle of the Bible Belt was not going well. My stomach turned to knots. I was trying so hard to fit in without fitting in that it was driving me crazy. For some reason it felt like if I got involved with a guy it would fix things. Logan was 24 and seemed nice enough.

The problem was, I was a virgin when we met, and at 19 I was among the last of my friends. Virtually inexperienced, I felt it was time to get it over with. In hindsight I should’ve listened to my gut. Keep reading »

Do You Want To Know When Your Friends Run Into Your Ex?

This weekend, I received a text from my good friend Cara, letting me know she’d run into my ex-boyfriend out front of a local bar. (The ex that broke up with me over IM and then moved four blocks away, because he’s a really cool guy.) Apparently the first thing he said to my friend was, “Julie hates me,” which I took as a half-hearted attempt to elicit sympathy and pity, and reassurance from Cara that I didn’t (no, no, I do.). Thankfully, she didn’t buy his act, and told him that, well, yes, he probably could have handled our breakup better (see aforementioned breakup-over-IM for reference). But did I really want to know my lady friend had run into my dumb ex?

Well… Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Was The Other Woman In An Emotional Affair

Emotional affairs are when a person in a committed relationship looks to establish an emotional bond with someone outside of his or her relationship. I know this because I Googled it. I felt that there had to be a description for what I was going through, feeling an incredible closeness with an unavailable man. I typed the words into my computer and felt my heart sink as I nodded along, recognizing his behavior described perfectly in the warning signs. Is he lying about the amount of time we communicate to his partner? Yes. Would he want his partner to hear the conversations we have? Hell no! Is your relationship forged with a secretive, forbidden energy? Oh god, it is. Keep reading »

Why Do Women Cheat?

Over the course of the last, oh, two years, we’ve watched a number of high-profile cheating scandals unfold. Tiger Woods, Al Gore, John Edwards, Jesse James, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Anthony Weiner, to name a few. The media and public response to each of these cases seemed to bring up the same two (somewhat hysterical) questions: “Why are so many men cheating!?” and “Why don’t we see women doing the same thing!?”

Here’s the thing: women cheat too. A recent study revealed that, duh, infidelity is on the rise, but that women are actually closing the gap on what has largely been thought of as bad behavior for men — apparently, nearly as many women are cheating on their partners and spouses. (Maybe we’re just better at not getting caught?) So, why do women cheat? What are the circumstances that led to their infidelity? And how did they feel about it in the aftermath? After the jump, 13 anonymous confessions from women who have cheated. Keep reading »

A Completely Uncomfortable Engagement — Between A Politician And A High School Girl

This week in totally disturbing nuptials news, a staffer on John McCain’s 2008 presidential campaign met his bride-to-be while on a tour stop on behalf of the Republican candidate. The only problem? Oh, she was 17, and he was visiting her high school. There are so many gross gems from the romance of 29-year-old Christopher Cox and his now 21-year-old bride Andrea Catsimatidis, featured in the New York Times Vows section this weekend. As the couple explains it to the Times:

“She was the only person I remembered meeting that day,” he said. Ms. Catsimatidis, who at the time was five days shy of her 18th birthday, found herself taken by Mr. Cox’s political convictions, as well as his boyish looks.


“All the girls were cutting me in line,” remembered Ms. Catsimatidis, now 21. “They all wanted to meet the cute McCain guy.”

Oh, uh, okay. Keep reading »

For The Week Of June 20-26, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Get ready for another to play devil’s advocate and annoy you to no end. While you’re light years smarter than this other, you still won’t be able to resist putting them in their place — and why not? If not you, it’ll be someone else. Might as well get some of your aggression out this way, as it’ll be like killing two birds with one stone.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

While you can see the bigger picture, it might not be possible to get the pieces together to make it happen. Don’t worry though, this just means it’s time to be a bit more methodical and take in what is happening step-by-step. As it so happens to be, there’s a weirder solution to it all; it’ll just take some more brainstorming to work it out.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Everyone is entitled to act out in bizarre ways if they’re feeling hurt — and if anyone should understand, it is you. As it goes, don’t expect things to line up perfectly now in terms of emotion, because there are two sides to every story and although you thought you knew all the info, seems there has been some facts in-between that will start to make themselves known now.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

If you want your way, you are going to have to think through all the angles and plan a strategy. As it goes, the person you’re playing with is a formidable opponent and won’t let you slide by on charm alone. To say the least, you may have met your match; it’ll blindside you to have to confront some of the shortcomings that you haven’t had to think about in ages.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

If you want any peace of mind this week, give up the control and stay flexible. Schedules will change, routines will flip, opinions will turn and keeping up with it all will mean having no attachment to the past. Despite how it might feel at the beginning of this week though, trust by the end that all these changes will somehow feel like a perfect fit.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Get ready to show off and love the way it feels. Although you tend to be more understated about your emotions, this week, a bump of excitement will thrill you to no end and to enjoy its full power, you’ll need to shout it from the roof tops. Let everyone know your turn of good fortune and just how beautiful life can be with a sudden turn of an unexpected corner!

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Changes at home are coming, upping the romance level to a new degree of adventure! Yes, time to ride along on a magic cloud to happiness and let the wind carry you where it may. Sure, reality will come back, but who cares? Right now, it’s all about the good feelings and setting up those hopes and dreams. After all, if you can’t set those standards high, then what’s the point?

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Say what’s on your mind and get it all out. If that means an ultimatum, then so be it. You need your stability, security and sanity — so whoever is tripping up your balance needs to know. Chances are they might not get it or ever be able to, but as long as you can take the first step, the next will become more obvious for them to make. Yes, sometimes people really are that dumb.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You don’t have to rush anything now. Yes, feel free to change your mind several times and loop through all the possibilities, because as it goes, the power is in your hands and if you don’t feel right about how things are, then it’s up to you to make it happen on your terms. If this takes time, then so be it. After all, happiness is never an overnight process.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You’ll be feeling more impetuous than ever and this can lead you to spontaneously acting out in crazy ways. If this means spending a little cash to take a new adventure, then so be it. Besides, why have those resources if you never take advantage of them? Consider this your rainy day and trust in the cliché: nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

If you get the feeling that you can’t put all your eggs in one basket, listen to it! This isn’t the time to try to test yourself, because chances are no matter how crazy it feels, your hunches will be dead on! So, use your ability for good, as it can save you a lot of agony this week and put you ahead of the crowd. Yes, work it for all you’ve got!

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You don’t have to feel romantic 24/7, so when you and your boo fall a bit out of sync this week, feel free to spend more time with friends and get your groove back on your own. As it goes, having space will revive you in a way you never suspected. Not to say you’ll fall out of love for good, but just back in love with yourself.

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