Category Archives: Relationships

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The Frisky Readers’ 10 Weirdest Quirks

How endeared we are by your many eccentricities, Frisky readers. Last week, we showed you ours and you obliged by trusting us enough to show us yours. Somehow, I’ve managed to make this sound like a creepy game of doctor. Not what I was going for. After the jump, the 10 most common quirks in the Friskyverse. We praise you for your, uh, specialness. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Boyfriend Made Me Feel Ashamed Of My Sexual History

It started when I spotted an ex-boyfriend barreling toward us down the street. My pulse jolted, and I grabbed my current-boyfriend’s elbow and tugged him across the road, darting yellow taxis as we fled.
“Ugh,” I laughed, tossing a surreptitious glance over my shoulder. “I dated him years back.”

“Who?” Jared’s gaze followed mine, though his laugh did not.

“That guy back there. Forget it. He’s no one,” I said, and pressed the incident from my mind as quickly as it arose. After all, this was New York, and the streets were teeming with acquaintances with whom I no longer wanted to engage. Crossing the street was as sure a remedy as I knew to move on. But later that night, after we’d ordered burritos and made stilted small talk, Jared was mired in sourness, and eventually, after much prodding, he admitted the reason for his funk.

“I don’t like the fact that you’ve slept with other guys.” He said, pouting, reminding me of a five-year old stripped of his favorite toy car. Keep reading »

Friends With Benefits: Awesome When It Works, Even Though It Usually Doesn’t

Full Disclosure: I was asked by our sponsor to host a discussion where two bloggers provide the male – the uber masculine gentleman, ahem, cad behind The Superficial – and female perspectives – that would be moi – on having “friends with benefits.” (If you haven’t figured out what the movie is yet, here’s a hint: I would have sex with both of the stars and not just because I am a wee bit slutty.) Keep reading »

For The Week Of June 27-July 3, 2011

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

In life, it’s all who you know; if you drop the defenses toward that someone circling your crowd, you might see that he or she is a valuable asset. At the very least, they might lead you to new opportunities that will be beneficial to you. It’s not like you have to be BFFs with everyone, but sometimes going through the motions to get what what you want is what needs to be done.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Use your power wisely. Otherwise, there is a long ways to fall, but for you, a completely unnecessary one. After all, you are liked and people do listen to you, so don’t abuse what you have and try to wield the control in a way that subtly seems out of character. You can have it all if you only bide your time.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

The world is exactly where you want it, and if you step off that plank and jump into the deep end, you will find it more than soothing and sensational. That’s right, it’s time to open your mind and expand your notions of how your life should be, as there is so much more out there for you to explore. If you want to experience it all, this is your time to make the first contact.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sweet little secrets will open up in your tiny hand, making you feel delicate, romantic and charmed. Yes, darling, this is when attitudes will change and your ego will get a delightful overhaul. However, as for how this moment finds its way to you, realize it won’t be direct. So, despite reading this now, don’t worry, the surprise isn’t totally blown.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

The balance of power is going to reach perfection this week, making you feel at one with your universe. To make the most of it, live out this dream and don’t over-think the future too much. As it goes, life is always going to be changing, but for now, it’s amazing and to keep it lasting will mean continuing to appreciate it.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

There will be many things said to you this week that will be music to your ears, but do keep your BS meter turned on, because not all that is said will be as truthful as you’d want to believe. Take enough to give yourself peace of mind, but don’t feel the need to have to switch your life around to accommodate anyone else’s, as ultimately it can make you feel like a sucker.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

This is the time of year when life is always a little more exciting, but this week the thrills mount a little higher, as a whimsical romantic surprise unfurls verbally, really putting that someone’s money where their mouth has been. Let all your paranoia drift away, as this is the time when all that you dream will align and reveal that pot of treasure at the end of the rainbow.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Embrace your sense of security for all it is, because what you wish is what you get and whatever is happening in your life right now will have its screws tightened, sealing your fate in a more definitive way. Luckily, if this isn’t to your liking, there is still enough space to get out, but move fast, as time is running out.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

As they say, you can fake it until you make it — so don’t be shy in talking a bigger game than usual, as it’s not about what you have, but what you believe and put out there. Besides, it’s your confidence and the way you articulate yourself that will get you heard the most, so don’t be afraid to lay it on the line, because saying it is the first step to getting it.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Wealth is a subjective state of mind. So, as this week moves life into a grander set of emotions, don’t hold back because of financial limitations. After all, where there is a will, there is a way. Plus, in true Gemini spirit, you love to solve problems, so trust that your most priceless possession now is knowing how to redefine life outside of those textbook definitions.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Miracles can happen now, giving you whole new appreciation for life in a way that scares you, but also makes you more curious than you have been in ages. For now, soak it up and don’t try to move so fast. As it goes, you do have time on your hands, so just make sure the next step is one on solid ground. Until then, hurrah!

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Don’t bother trying to edit yourself. Right now, there will be too many new feelings, ideas, opinions, etc., so let it all out and see how the chips fall. After all, everything has a reason and if others can’t handle it … well, that alone might be reason enough for why you have to express yourself now.

Girl On Girl: Being A Lesbian Isn’t “Easier”

I know I’m lucky to have it as easy as I do. I’m a lesbian, which means I don’t have to put up with any crap from men. In fact, I’m exempt from patriarchy, and women are just so easy! I don’t have a care in the world, being gay. I don’t have to worry about getting married or having children – I can just share my closet and my hair products with my girlfriend and live in a state of bliss while vacationing on Olivia Cruise ships.

If only any of it were true. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Assorted Thoughts On Losing 40+ Pounds

Two and a half years ago, an email landed in my inbox with the subject line, “Cover story?” At the time, I was a freelance journalist and those two words made me drool like none other. But as I read the email, my face sunk—Good Housekeeping wanted me to write a feature where I’d interview five woman who’d lost 100 pounds each. Normally, I would have rolled my eyes—I fancied myself a “serious journalist” and stayed away from weight loss stories at all costs. But this was the beginning of the recession and I needed money. I felt pained as I wrote back and begrudgingly accepted the assignment.

I felt defeated for the next few days as I tracked down women to interview. Really, was this the state my career was in? Weren’t there more important stories I could be working on? I thought.

My first interview was with a woman named Janice, a stay-at-home mom who’d lost 75 pounds doing Weight Watchers and had gone on to become a counselor herself. We spent more than an hour on the phone as I asked her a zillion questions about how she’d gained the weight, how she’d changed her eating habits, and how life was different as a thin person. Near the end of our conversation, she asked me a simple question:

“How do you feel about your body?”

It landed like a slap against my jaw. Keep reading »

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