My birthday is May 1st. My boyfriend’s birthday is June 15th. In March we’ll have been dating for eight years. I’m ready to get married and move the relationship forward. I was going to move in with him a few months back, but he said he knew that wouldn’t “entirely get him off the hook.” I know he is not ready to get married, nor does he know if he wants to have kids, while I know I do. He says I’ll just spend all his money, while I’ve said I would sign a pre-nup. Should I stick it out? I think I know the answer, but I’ve been too scared to break up with him.
To make my life more complicated, there is a guy; he is a Cancer (and seven years younger), and he has been wanting to date me badly. I can’t stop thinking about him. I keep stalling on doing anything because I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend and I also don’t necessarily want to jump from my boyfriend to another guy. Please help! I need some advice! – Lost Taurus Gal Keep reading »
A good friend of mine recently reminded me of some advice I’d given her back in college. She was about to sleep with a new boyfriend for the first time and had been fretting about some body part. Apparently I shrugged and told her, “Please—boys are just happy to have a naked girl in the same room as them.”
I was kind of surprised and impressed when she told me I’d actually said these words. Over the years I have had pre-sex panic attacks over (in no particular order): my eyebrows, nasally voice, bad breath, body hair, belly roll(s), teeth, table manners, inner thighs… basically if I had it, I wasted valuable lady hours worrying about it. Keep reading »
Finding the perfect partner may soon be as easy as sharing a little love potion cocktail with some random guy at a bar. Scientists have identified two hormones, oxytocin and vasopressin — the hormones released during sex — that make us feel bonded to another person. Tests in sheep found that a single injection of oxytocin was enough to make a mama lamb form an immediate bond with baby lambs that were not her own. Such research suggests that love could be nothing more than a “cocktail of brain chemicals.” The idea that chemistry matters way more in the search for love than, say, common interests and mutual attraction “raises important issues for society,” according to Larry Young, an expert in the neuroscience of social bonding. “For one thing, drugs that manipulate brain systems at whim to enhance or diminish our love for another may not be far away.” As a result, Young says, “It won’t be long before an unscrupulous suitor could slip a pharmaceutical love potion in our drink.” Theoretically, the same love potion could be given to couples who want to “rekindle faded passions or diminish problematic feelings.” Sure beats spending thousands of bucks on a marriage counselor, right? [Guardian.co.uk] Keep reading »
Picture this: You’re single, you’re 42, and you’re determined to get a husband this year. But just how far would you go to meet your soul mate? Would you let the whole world know you are actively seeking out a life-long mate? That’s what 42-year-old Neenah Pickett is doing. She publicly announced she was looking for a man to put a ring on it, by creating a website called 52Weeks2FindHim.com. The site is completely devoted to her conquest to find a husband before the end of 2009. Pickett blogs daily, pondering about having children and reminding herself how amazing she is. She describes herself as a media consultant from New Jersey who’s religious and has an adventurous spirit. In order to find Mr. Right, Pickett plans to go on as many dates as possible. Even though we’re only a few days into 2009, she already has dates lined up, having received more than 100 emails from guys since the site launched.
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This is going to be my last Breakup Diaries column, I think. I feel like I’ve reached an end to the deep mourning process that is a breakup and with 2009 being a new year, I’m ready for a fresh start. While my mind feels ready for that, and my body too (thanks $527 make out!), my dream life apparently hasn’t gotten the memo. Since the breakup occurred, I’ve dreamed about my ex, in some way, at least every other night. And it’s starting to piss me off. Keep reading »
Look, I like being in a relationship, I really do. I especially love being in a live-in relationship. I like that my boyfriend and I cook dinner together, how Sunday mornings are never lonely, and I’ve always got a travel partner and someone to see movies with. More than just being in a relationship, I love the person I’m in a relationship with. My boyfriend’s one of the kindest, funniest, most generous people I know, and I have more fun with him than anyone else. Yet, I can’t stop fantasizing about other men. Keep reading »
Whitney Casey’s The Man Plan: Drive Men Wild… Not Away promises to help you find Mr. Right or a bunch of Mr. Right Nows. How? We’re not sure, but as a “relationship expert” on Match.com, a TV personality and international journalist, Casey, we’re sure, has a wealth of knowledge regarding the opposite sex. Check out some facts about Casey and other ways to find her relationship advice after the jump. Keep reading »
Reader Sarah took this photo and the two after the jump in the same bathroom. No doubt that stall would be good for gettin’ lucky.
Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to firstname.lastname@example.org. Keep reading »
Most women have heard that body odors play a role in sexual attraction. I mean, why else would we spend money on pheromone-laced oils? Oh, maybe that was just me. Anyway, did you realize that being in love affects our perception and processing of body odors? According to a study performed in Montreal, women who are deeply in love can recognize their partner’s scent, but are unable to recognize the scent of male friends who might be rivals for their affection. Keep reading »
Before my husband and I could have a Catholic wedding, we had to attend Pre-Cana. It’s like Driver’s Ed. for engaged Catholic couples. In theory, it’s a great idea. Couples are counseled en masse on a wide-range of topics, including compatibility and conflict resolution within marriage, the theological meaning of marriage, and Catholic rules couples might like to follow (like those regarding birth control). But we weren’t too excited about the prospect of our Pre-Cana. Keep reading »